Sitting with my dying dad - this is so unfair

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Just that - it’s so cruel. My mum and I just have to sit here and wait for everything to fail. He was given 24-48 hours yesterday. It’s torture.

I’m so sorry, he sounds like an amazing dad

I’m so sorry. I had to do this with my dad over the summer. It’s heartbreaking and so unfair. I can remember sobbing at one point and my dad gathered enough strength (he had a syringe driver at this point) to squeeze my hand in the comforting way he always had done. I absolutely cherish it.

So very sorry to hear this and sending you love and strength. I’ve sat through this too and it is heart-breaking. It’s lovely that your Dad knows that you are there and will definitely be comforted by having you close. Tell him you love him xx

He is - I’ve been singing and chatting. He adores my mum and she’s here holding his hand. We will stay until he goes. It’s the seconds of lucidity - nothing for hours and the one time I have a sniffle ‘don’t cry’. God this is awful.

He's your hero...and always will be no matter what...

I have been there. Its so tough to see someone so strong and important in your life. Sending you all the love and hugs. Please remember to eat and drink yourselves.

I’m so sorry, I hope it’s a peaceful end for him when the time comes ♥️

This is helping so much - Thankyou x

I'm so sorry. Sending love and hugs x

Your dad sounds like a wonderful man, and you a wonderful daughter. Sending you love and strength x

Sending strength x

What fool voted YABU?

He just woke up and said ‘hello sweetheart’ then disappeared back into his own world.

It's lovely he knows you're both with him. The comfort you both must be bringing him. They say hearing maybe one of the last senses to go, so at least he can keep hearing your voices. It's horrific just waiting, I am so so sorry 

im so sorry, how terrible 🥗

I don't know what to say except I'm so sorry. I hope you are finding strength at this tough time. Xxx

Been there.

Take comfort from knowing that he knows you’re there. That means a lot to him. He’ll be much more peaceful knowing you’re there.

You’re also there for each other. You’re in the right place, doing the right thing.

Wishing you strength. ❤️

It's the hardest thing I ever did, sit with my FIL and then later my own dad. You are both willing them to go and saying in your heart please don't go. I hope his passing is peaceful, and in the meantime know we are holding your hand.

So sorry OP.

He knows that you and your mum are there. Surrounded by the people he loves and those who love him best.

I wish you peace and strength for the time ahead.

Thoughts and prayers for you and your family in this hard time 💐

It is so awful. I have not been where you are - I found out by a knock at the door- but I know what it is to lose a parent. You are doing a wonderful thing by being with him, and he will always be your hero. I am so, so sorry.

No words can ease the pain you are feeling. I have been there with my grandmother and father in law when they passed over. Both amazingly strong people right to the end, all though it was hard it was an absolute privilege to be with them at that time.

Sorry to hear that. I didn't get to say goodbye to my dad, he died without us there and with a nurse holding his hand and it eats me up everyday. Although it's cruel and horrific for you now, you might look back and treasure these last moments.

My brother rushed from London and Kent to say goodbye - watching my eldest brother say goodbye and leave was so hard. They don’t make men like my dad any more. Still carries a hankie and always treated my mum and me like royalty. I can’t believe he’s going to be gone forever.

Because of covid and not out of choice ^

I've been there too. I ended up reading aloud to my dad some of the Joan Aiken short stories that he used to read to us when we were little. I found it easier having something concrete to say if that makes sense. Thinking of you and your mum and wishing your dad a peaceful passing.