To tell him not to send the presents with his name on...

[Jinglejangle09]

From when my children were born we always said all presents were from Santa - even presents from family were just put in with what Santa had bought. We said this to all family and they were obviously under no obligation to buy for the children as they wouldn't get any credit for it.
Most family were fine with it (or at least didn't say anything to my face!).
Kids are now 7 and 8 and both still believe.
My Dad has messaged this year saying oh we are going to put messages on as we want them to know who they are from. I have gone back to him and said that he should save them for the kids birthdays if he wants them to be from him. Both birthdays Jan and Feb anyway.
AIBU? I just don't really know how I can change the whole gifting from Santa now. I maybe should have thought more about it when they were younger.

Has to be a joke. Santa gives stocking only and family gives presents. Poor family otherwise if they choosing presents and Santa gets the credit. What about children with less wealthy family or less family. How you explain Santa gives tom next door and expensive toy and your child gets stickers....let your family give presents from them at Christmas.

Our kids get 2 big presents from Santa usually the main things they ask for on their letter to Santa and stocking fillers are from Santa. We get them 2 big presents too and a few extras and I write from us. So family write from them too then our kids can say thank you etc! We say that the ones we and family get still go to Santa so he can deliver them all on Christmas Eve so it's still a surprise!

You're being massively controlling, cheeky and unreasonable. Like, gobsmackingly so.

So what was your plan for when they didn't believe any more? Admit that you robbed the family of gratitude for years too? And what, you ask for everything in advance and just pile it by the tree in one go? Do they just think their family doesn't love them enough to buy gifts, as every other child gets christmas presents from mummy and daddy and grandparents? At 7 and 8 theres no way those conversations haven't happened already at school. The school I went to I'd have been brutally picked on for such naivety (and no I'm not saying that's the norm or what should happen!!). Do they smugly think they're super 'nice' to get so much. And all the other children must be on the naughty list?
What an odd thing to have done. Here santa fills stockings, everything else is from the people who actually bought it. And even my toddler knows to say thank you to the family who give her a present.
Honestly if I was your family I think I'd have refused before now.

Especially when he doesn't exist!

Op your children probably do know, or if they don't they almost certainly will by Christmas, that the Father Christmas business is a fairy story but don't want to disappoint you by saying so. That is a scenario I have come across in the past.

It is fun to pretend but it is pretence and if parents start getting precious about it, it turns into a lie.

Don't insult your children's intelligence. Of course they should know who bought and sent their gifts, and say thank you.

@LBFseBrom you do realise this thread is 8 months old right?

I worded it to mine as they got older that Santa is incredibly busy and whereas in the old days he would picks gifts from children's letters to him there are now so many children in the world that mummy's, daddy's, grandparents, aunts and uncles etc went out and bought the gifts but sent them off to Santa's workshop for the elves to check over and sort and then Santa would deliver them for Christmas.

That placated them when they saw all the toys in the shop etc.

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