Would I be unreasonable to call his work?

[mindisdoingovertime]

So the hubby left early this morning for work. He drives around all day attending different work calls.

It is very, very icey and the weather was awful when he left at 5am this morning!

Ive tried calling him but both his work phone and normal phone is unavailable. Ive also got one tick on WhatsApp.

He sometimes works in areas of no signal but this is very rare (think once or twice over the last year).

Would I be unreasonable to contact his work and ask them to trace his works van or is this crazy woman territory? I'm so worried, ive been crying all morning, this is not like him at all. Ive checked all the local traffic reports and there was a crash this morning close to where we live and would fit his route at the right time but it says no injuries.

What would you do? Shall I wait a bit and keep trying to ring him?

Well done 50% of posters on here for being a shit to someone who's anxious and making it unlikely that she'll come back...

Awful isn't it, complete pile on

I'm guessing he must've called by now. If not give it until lunchtime and call his work.

I’m glad to see there’s still good people out there!

what happened with the good, old “if you have nothing good to say…”

@CovertImage I find this this is always the reaction you get when anyone comes on here with any worries and concerns. I’ve had it myself, complete pile on from the bandwagon.

Hope everything is OK, OP.

As an aside, a helpful feature on a smartphone that not everyone seems to know about is to fill in your emergency contacts/Medical ID page details. This means that even if a phone is screen locked, the "emergency' button on the screen lock page leads to "medical ID" which will show people (eg emergency services, passersby) your chosen medical ID information and chosen emergency contacts without any need for unlocking the screen.

Have you heard from him OP? If not then it might be best to give the company a call now as it’s been a while 💐

I would hope so. I can't imagine taking hourly phone calls whilst driving. Even hands free ups the risk of a collision. And I really wouldn't be letting his work know that I'm used to hourly contact during working hours.

I suspect he's just in an area with poor signal. Given current weather conditions signal is likely to be worse and time to fix them longer.

Hope all is well OP, it makes a nice change on here to know that some couples actually like each other enough to chat a lot.

Being in an area with poor signal seems to be the most likely explanation. I don't think I'd be calling his work and telling them you speak every hour though - I don't imagine it being well received.

The messages here are good though, they’re just not what OP wants to hear. Her relationship isn’t healthy and she needs to know that.

Yes YABU. He's an adult. If he's not home at usual time, then call his work

Oh for goodness sake, leave the poor guy alone - he's busy, he's working. And calling his office just gives him the embarrassment of a partner who appears to have no common sense (to put it politely).
When someone is at work there is no need to speak to them until they return home.
If anything bad happens to him, you'll be informed anyway.

Do you know the networks of the phones? You could Google and see if there are reported signal issues for either/both of them

Some nasty bloody comments here. OP I wouldn't think you are BU with the weather the way it is.

A single WhatsApp tick would suggest poor reception and that he hasn’t received the messages yet.

I disagree.
This is an internet chat forum; the odd arsey response is par for the course.

In the main there have been reassuring responses and some useful info on phones and how service can be affected.

I don’t think it’s useful to feed into ops anxiety or validate her concerns.
It’s helpful to (tactfully!) point out that this level of anxiety/ catastrophising is irrational.

I also think reassessing their level of contact is a pertinent point. This situation with no phone contact could arise frequently in this adverse weather.

If I knew my staff was making that many phone calls during the day, I'd follow a disciplinary process.

Even worse whilst driving as it increases risk and is distracting.

Imagine how much more work you'd get done if not on the phone constantly.

I'd be livid if I was either of your bosses. This is not appropriate work behaviour.

I strongly recommend you don't call his work!

Some nasty bloody comments here. OP I wouldn't think you are BU with the weather the way it is.

Some posters just get off on being nasty.

They must lead sad lives.

This was me for a few hours yesterday then dh rang.Im sure he's fine but I understand the worry if it's out of character.

I’d say it’s just lost mobile connections, with the weather...
Hopefully, you’ll get talking by lunchtime. Thinking of you!

I hope you have heard from your DH by now @mindisdoingovertime. If he was on the M1 in South Yorkshire today he will have been stuck in traffic for several hours. I and some of my colleagues were trying to get to work and gave up and went home to WFH.

Every hour, every work day for 4 years? Wow. That is not normal.

Hope it’s nothing OP though why do you ring each other so much when someone supposed to be working?

Does he call you between jobs when he’s driving? Please read up on the increased risks even when hands free.

I’m surprised you don’t have FindMyPhone or similar.