Would I be unreasonable to call his work?

[mindisdoingovertime]

So the hubby left early this morning for work. He drives around all day attending different work calls.

It is very, very icey and the weather was awful when he left at 5am this morning!

Ive tried calling him but both his work phone and normal phone is unavailable. Ive also got one tick on WhatsApp.

He sometimes works in areas of no signal but this is very rare (think once or twice over the last year).

Would I be unreasonable to contact his work and ask them to trace his works van or is this crazy woman territory? I'm so worried, ive been crying all morning, this is not like him at all. Ive checked all the local traffic reports and there was a crash this morning close to where we live and would fit his route at the right time but it says no injuries.

What would you do? Shall I wait a bit and keep trying to ring him?

I was wondering this too. I am a manager and would not be impressed at my team taking hourly phone calls.

I am sure your husband is fine OP, is it possible he is just busy in a meeting?

Sounds like your DH has a similar job to mine @mindisdoingovertime

I get texts when he reaches a site and when he leaves it which I'm guessing is similar to your calls

The thing is if you can't reach his work phone then his work place won't be able to reach it either, and some trackers rely on a mobile signal rather than a satellite signal so that won't necessarily help either.

If I were you I would leave it a bit longer before you start calling people. Do you know how long his average job takes?

You have been crying all morning. That's a bit ott

I think your post indicates you do suffer from anxiety. Crying over this is not a normal reaction at all.

As someone else said an accident wouldn't cause both phones to be off, I suppose it could mean he had been taken to hospital and there is no signal but could equally be working in an area / building with no signal.

I would give it until after lunch time before calling his work.

I'm guessing he has a break at some point so he might ring you then? Try not to worry too much. He's probably not going to want to be faffing around too much if he's driving in this weather (if icy etc).

It’s still an over reaction though even if this is your regular routine. Rationally you must know there are a dozen benign reasons why he isn’t available on the phone. It’s not healthy or normal to be so routine based that any deviation sends you into a tailspin like this.

My concern would be that the Police would take them and switch them off if he had been involved in an accident.

Police don't turn off phones after an accident. They let them ring

Gosh, this is all very extreme, the hourly calls, the sitting weeping etc,

I think as your anxiety is so high call his work. I’d never do such a thing but I’d also not be up for hourly calls or be sitting weeping so soon. We are all different

@mindisdoingovertime what networks is he on? My phone is Vodafone and despite having g a full signal it hasn't rung all day and have missed the gp calling me twice.

I think the cold weather is effecting mobile towers.

I wouldn't worry yet. As others have said if he had been hurt you would know by now.

Just phone his work and ask if they’ve heard anything due to the weather- if he hadn’t turned up someone will have contacted them?
don’t make it a big issue 😕

And you should call them for some anti-obnoxious medication.

He sometimes works in area with no signal

This is by far the most likely explanation. My network was down for a few hours for “maintenance “ which isn’t unusual, he could have run out of charge or misplaced the phone.
Whatever, please reassure yourself it’s likely a phone issue.

Perhaps hourly calls are inadvisable in future because any deviation from that routine causes you worry.

Try to distract yourself and don’t torture yourself with worse case scenarios ☕️

Maybe give it another hour or two before calling his work? Generally no news is good news, so it’s unlikely anything has happened. His phone might simply be broken.

But separately, as other posters have said, it is a little bit of an overreaction…?

Police wouldn’t turn the phones off. They’d look for his emergency contacts and be in touch.

Can people stop with the 'this is her relationship - lay off' garble with people saying it's OTT to speak to her husband every HOUR of EVERY DAY (when he is at work?!) It is NOT normal behaviour to speak to your partner every hour when they're at work. And it's not mean or horrible to state this.

@mindisdoingovertime It's only 10.45 am, it's not like you have not heard from him for a day! As a pp said, have you sought help with your anxiety because you're reaction is irrational. His workplace will wonder why on earth your ringing after such a short time!

Perhaps hourly calls are inadvisable in future because any deviation from that routine causes you worry.

That. Not to mention the fact that your calling him while he's driving. Which in itself, even with hands free, is dangerous.

why on earth you're* ringing - not YOUR!

I also missed a call from the doctor due to weather even tho my phone said I had signal. It didn't ring but the voicemail came through a few hours later saying that she would try again after a while.

Id worry a bit more if he doesn't come home at the usual time but I wouldn't be worrying after 5 hours or no contact. And if anything was wrong, you would know by then anyway.

Occams Razor.

The situation that is most likely is the situation this is.

He has no signal/phone died.

I honestly couldn't imagine speaking to same person once an hour every day. We wouldn't have enough to talk about when we sat together in the evening!

Please don't call bus work. My elderly parents called my work when I was on holiday earlier this year. They were confused why I wasn't back and my mother was hysterical. I was furious.

You might actually do more harm than good if work finds out he speaks to you on the phone every hour while he is driving.