Would I be unreasonable to call his work?

[mindisdoingovertime]

So the hubby left early this morning for work. He drives around all day attending different work calls.

It is very, very icey and the weather was awful when he left at 5am this morning!

Ive tried calling him but both his work phone and normal phone is unavailable. Ive also got one tick on WhatsApp.

He sometimes works in areas of no signal but this is very rare (think once or twice over the last year).

Would I be unreasonable to contact his work and ask them to trace his works van or is this crazy woman territory? I'm so worried, ive been crying all morning, this is not like him at all. Ive checked all the local traffic reports and there was a crash this morning close to where we live and would fit his route at the right time but it says no injuries.

What would you do? Shall I wait a bit and keep trying to ring him?

No idea what you mean

How are any of these people managing to do any actual work from home around 5 or more calls a day?

@Foronenightonly22 the OP has actually specified her situation, she's not at home with a newborn, she 'works' from home and usually they call each other once an hour.

OP hope your dh is ok, it's lovely that you still want to chat so much, but do agree that it's very unusual and unlikely to be a great thing for career health or any anxiety.

Goodness me. Just read the first & last page, not surprised OP hasn't been back. She was worried about her husband & got quizzed why they spoke to each other so often..
I hope if you're reading this, @mindisdoingovertime all was well.. x

Rather than you saying 'im worried ' you said ' we're worried ' indicating that we are all worried, hence the royal we.
I'm not worried about a complete stranger.

Getting back to your original question OP.

Sorry posted too soon!

Based on the info you gave in your first post YABU.

We have our own business and we ''might'' chat around lunch time if there is any updates that need attending to. Failing that, its a text and thats it until he reaches home which mostly is before 6pm, unless working outside the normal area.

If I haven't heard from him by 6.40 or so, then I would call him, failing that, I can think of only one occasion I called our client to see if I could pass on a rather urgent need to speak with him.

10.30am is rather early OP. This might be routine for you to both speak to each other regularly, but if he worked for my DH he would be told to leave the mobile on silent or in his vehicle if onsite together. Your DH might have a colleague looking over his shoulder today.

Hourly calls? Hourly?
I hope you’re ok OP and he’s fine.

That's your normal and this is OPs normal, have a little empathy

But surely anyone with a bit of common sense can see that someone who drives around all day is not safe if he is constantly talking to his partner, even if hands free? I also agree that they should not be talking at this level during work time, it really isn't normal and I can't see their employers being very empathetic.

I can be a worrier myself when someone is driving, especially in awful conditions, but surely if the phones are unavailable it means he doesn't have a signal, which is not sinister.

Foronenightonly22 · Today 00:01
I can’t believe the nastiness of this thread. FFS be a bit nicer. So much for the spirit of Xmas. Seems like all the grown up nasty girls really do need to be told to be kind.

So true. All the keyboard nasty girls would never be so rude face to face…I hope.

Oh, absolutely. The amount of insults the OP has received, I hope she doesn’t come back to give an update at all!

Having had a snow accident and in hospital with broken back and ribs I would say call and put tracker on phone too. We had no reception took an hour to be rescued with more cars skidding onto scene

I came on this morning hoping that there was an update that his phone had gone wonky or something. Please update OP, the majority of us are good people and we wish you and your OH all the best💐

@mindisdoingovertime just saw this chat and hope your DH is safely home and you’re both ok xx

Good for you?

OP, I hope your DH is ok.
Ignore the people whose attention was drawn to the number of times you speak per day. You clearly enjoy each other’s company. Ignore them.

Sorry,??? Your husband waters the cows? Say what now?

OP was your DH OK?

This. ^ I find it bizarre that some people are so invested in this scenario, and are begging the OP for updates, and saying 'I'm reeeeallly worried now.' You don't even know her OR her husband. She is literally a name on the internet. No photo or bio, and you have had no previous contact with her: nothing.

I am actually not bothered whether she updates or not. Makes no difference to me or my life. I am certainly not sitting here fretting about someone online who I don't know. I can't understand the people saying they're soooo worried. Bizarre!

And DO spare me the 'nasty keyboard warriors' and 'mean girl' comments. 🙄 As I said before, people are entitled to post differing and opposing views without petty and ludicrous insults being thrown at them.

Totally agree.

just because we have a different opinion doesn’t mean we’re being unkind. What if everyone who doesn’t agree didn’t post? It’d be full of people making OP feel worse saying she was right to be worried and just feeding her anxiety.

Drinking troughs, or the pipes supplying them, ice over in low temperatures. Farmers need to break ice regularly, or otherwise provide drinkable water for cattle.

"We" are not worried.

I don't think you are, either. I think you're a rubbernecker.

Sorry,??? Your husband waters the cows? Say what now?

In this weather, any external taps and water pipes are likely to be frozen and been that way for days. I've been out at stupid hours watering horses i.e. making sure they have unfrozen water.

Troughs have quickly been getting thick ice on them that requires breaking and removing. It's important for any animal to have access to fresh, drinkable water at all times. It's especially important for horses but I'm guessing also for cows, particularly dairy cows if you want them to be able to produce milk. Dairy farmers are often out at 4.30am so I suspect 3am isn't that much different to them. (Could be beef cows of course but they still need access to water.)

I was just kidding about watering the cows. Thanks anyway though @WisherWood and @PondintheRain

This. ^