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To think a mother doesn’t just walk away from her crying daughter?

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Whatlove · 11/12/2022 19:13

I’m really upset.
My DS is on his fourth stinking cold since September. He’s been coughing all
weekend and none of us got any sleep. He’s 13 but I feel like we’ve gone back in time to when he was at nursery and got every infection going.

We were meant to be going on a family day out today but as DS is unwell my DH and older son went without us. After I dropped them off my mum saw me get out of car (she was walking home past my house after shopping) and asked what was wrong. I clearly looked awful. I said how worried about DS being unwell again I am, how it was overwhelming constantly worrying if he’s well enough to go to school, how he’s had time off already and school aren’t happy etc etc I said we’d been looking forward to our day out and instead we’re stuck at home.

She could see how upset I was (the tears would be a giveaway) but muttered something about giving him vitamins (I already do) said bye and walked off.

I can’t imagine leaving my child (even a grown up child!) visibly upset without saying something or offering to come in & make them a cup of tea or generally offer some comfort. Didn’t even ask or want to see poor DS. She lives round the corner from me & wasn’t rushing off anywhere so not a time thing.

I don’t know why I’m so upset. My childhood was spent with no emotional support, she can only do superficial chit chat, nothing serious. I guess I just want a mum. I really don’t want to see her anymore, what’s the point.

OP posts:
JudgeRudy · 23/03/2023 00:16

PinkiOcelot · 11/12/2022 19:21

Wow really?! So you’ll stop worrying/caring when your child reaches this age? Are you one of those who think they should leave home and support themselves as soon as they reach puberty?!

Its awful OP. There’s so much going around at the moment. I hope he and you feel better soon. I don’t understand your mum at all.

My dds are 21 and 18 and still worry about them.

@PinkiOcelot you're being ridiculous. No one has said you should stop caring about your children whether they're 1 or 80. Why are you jumping to the sublime? What we're saying is it's a bit much to be snivelling in the street just because your kids got a cold. I dare say OPs mum has seen this behaviour before.

JudgeRudy · 23/03/2023 00:20

JudgeRudy · 23/03/2023 00:16

@PinkiOcelot you're being ridiculous. No one has said you should stop caring about your children whether they're 1 or 80. Why are you jumping to the sublime? What we're saying is it's a bit much to be snivelling in the street just because your kids got a cold. I dare say OPs mum has seen this behaviour before.

Oops, just seen dates. Presumably everything's back to normal now

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