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Partners just picked football over me?

181 replies

Janetsworld · 08/12/2022 19:46

World Cup on Saturday- England are playing, we originally had plans to meet up and go for a walk in the park and visit some Xmas markets.

Today he said, sorry we need to cancel the footballs on it’s a big game. I had to question if this was serious. He in fact was serious.

AIBU here? I said that I’m annoyed that I need to replan a day out around the football. He disagrees.

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Stressfordays · 08/12/2022 19:47

Cant you watch the football with him? It is a big game on Saturday, I'm not a big football fan but even I wouldn't want to miss it

Crabbi · 08/12/2022 19:48

I’d cancel too. It’s not like it’s every weekend, can’t you do it on another day? You can go for a walk anytime!

ThatGirlInACountrySong · 08/12/2022 19:48

He's right!!

Park and Christmas markets??? Nah....sounds boring!!

thelobsterquadrille · 08/12/2022 19:48

He should have told you sooner.

But the football doesn't start until 7pm, so can't you do both?

audweb · 08/12/2022 19:48

It’s the World Cup. Honestly, I think it’s ok to prioritise watching something like that live when younger things can be rescheduled. I do the same with sport I love, it’s of importance to me. Let him enjoy it - walk and markets can be done other times. When it gets to the knock out stages you can’t plan it always, you have to wait to see what happens.

ThatGirlInACountrySong · 08/12/2022 19:49

Dull and cold, I'd be bored to tears....and a fiver for a hot chocolate!

Wibbly1008 · 08/12/2022 19:49

If he is being unreasonable so are the other 99.9% of men this weekend…buy some wine and get a takeaway, there will be other days out. I’m rolling with it and he is having his mates over - and it’s my wedding anniversary !

AFS1 · 08/12/2022 19:49

Unless he has past form for rearranging dates or for failing to prioritise you, I think YAB a bit U. It is the World Cup. It does only happen every 4 years and it is the quarter finals.

Of course, if this is the latest in a line of excuses from him, you need to reevaluate the relationship, but if it’s a 1-off I would accept it as a valid reason to rearrange.

glamourousindierockandroll · 08/12/2022 19:49

Of course YABU.

CaffeineMama · 08/12/2022 19:50

I dont think you're being unreasonable to be annoyed, that kind of thing would annoy me too.

That said, I don't think it's worth getting too upset or having a falling out over. If it were me, I'd ditch the walk in the park, go scout out the Christmas Market and see about having a night in with a take out after football or meeting him another day to do the markets.

Donut93 · 08/12/2022 19:50

It's a big game Saturday, I hardly watch the football and would completely understand if my partner would rather watch that. It's not every Saturday that England are playing

Saxiee · 08/12/2022 19:50

I'm a woman and don't even watch football at any other time, but I'll be watching on Sunday. I haven't watched a match since the one with Italy last year. I'd probably try and rearrange too.

Thatiswild · 08/12/2022 19:51

Just go on the day out you planned yourself, it sounds lovely. This wouldn’t bother me at all, my dh will I’m sure want to watch the England game too, but saying that there’s not a chance he would have agreed to walking round Christmas markets in the first place. Could you adjust the timings?

Saxiee · 08/12/2022 19:51

Sat

Itsthewhitehat · 08/12/2022 19:51

I am not really into football, but if it was my dp I would be ok with this. I would rearrange the Christmas markets walk about.

But then Dp wouldn’t mind me cancelling something if something that I really wanted to watch/attend came up when we had plans, if it was something that was a big deal to me

gabsdot45 · 08/12/2022 19:51

The match isn't on till 7 pm so you have all day to do stuff together before that.
HIBU

HeddaGarbled · 08/12/2022 19:51

Ah, I can see both sides of this. It is an important game if you’re a football fan, but can understand your disappointment if you’re not.

KatherineJaneway · 08/12/2022 19:52

I wouldn't be impressed but I grew up with football dictating everything which is why I dislike it so much.

BendingSpoons · 08/12/2022 19:53

I understand he wants to watch the game, but it sounds like you have daytime plans, so it doesn't particularly clash.

MichelleScarn · 08/12/2022 19:53

It's the World Cup! I'd rather watch ANY sporting event in the warmth at the moment vs trekking about a park and outside extortionate christmas Market!!

Oysterbabe · 08/12/2022 19:53

No one who likes football is going to sack this match off to go for a walk. Yabu.

Sunnytwobridges · 08/12/2022 19:54

Meh, I'd be hurt for a hot second but realize it's just one day. I'd offer to watch with him, especially if at a bar, that can be fun too.

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Janetsworld · 08/12/2022 19:54

Oh he has to move between locations as a locus doctor just to add so I only see him around once per month. So that’s why I’m annoyed!

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Janetsworld · 08/12/2022 19:55

Locum**

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Escapefromcolditz · 08/12/2022 19:55

You’re incompatible. He’s not going to change and you’re always going to be narked about it. Give up now.