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Partners just picked football over me?

181 replies

Janetsworld · 08/12/2022 19:46

World Cup on Saturday- England are playing, we originally had plans to meet up and go for a walk in the park and visit some Xmas markets.

Today he said, sorry we need to cancel the footballs on it’s a big game. I had to question if this was serious. He in fact was serious.

AIBU here? I said that I’m annoyed that I need to replan a day out around the football. He disagrees.

OP posts:
HeckyPeck · 08/12/2022 19:55

BendingSpoons · 08/12/2022 19:53

I understand he wants to watch the game, but it sounds like you have daytime plans, so it doesn't particularly clash.

That's what I thought. Can you ask why you can't do both?

Iknowhim · 08/12/2022 19:55

He's right in one way, that your walk/Christmas market plans don't take priority over such a big match.

I'm boycotting the whole thing though and don't think anyone should be watching and supporting.

So for that reason I think he should do something else.

FrownedUpon · 08/12/2022 19:56

It’s the World Cup!! It’s a massive deal & only happens every 4 years. Don’t make a big drama out of it. Of course he wants to watch it..

CatJumperTwat · 08/12/2022 19:56

I have no patience for people who place football over important things, but a visit to Christmas markets? You can do that any day.

FinalPushh · 08/12/2022 19:57

Janetsworld · 08/12/2022 19:54

Oh he has to move between locations as a locus doctor just to add so I only see him around once per month. So that’s why I’m annoyed!

You only see him once per month? He doesn't sound like much of a partner?

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 08/12/2022 19:57

just change your plans, join him for the football and do a walk beforehand

LindorDoubleChoc · 08/12/2022 19:57

A walk in the park and going to a Christmas market sounds incredibly dull, sorry. I'm #teamdp.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 08/12/2022 19:57

Sorry OP. I'd cancel plans too. Can't you go with him?

VladmirsPoutine · 08/12/2022 19:58

I have absolutely no interest in football and couldn't with any coherence tell you what the league was or even who's in it but even I will watch the match this weekend! Yabu! It's not just a random match!

Murasakispillowbook · 08/12/2022 19:59

Once a month? Gosh.
I don't know if I could class that as a partner.
Will it be another month until you see him???

palmerita · 08/12/2022 19:59

It wouldn't bother me at all, the football is a pretty big deal for most people xx

mac1974 · 08/12/2022 20:00

My whole relationship with my husband has been cancelled during the World Cup! It's just one of those things. We are at a hotel on sat night and have booked our meal for after the game and will watch it in the bar. Don't even stress about it. Try to embrace it and enjoy the game together.

Zanatdy · 08/12/2022 20:00

Well you haven’t got any tickets booked to anything so I’d say no he’s not being unreasonable given it’s the World Cup and a big match. Men always choose football over everything. My ex missed his Brother’s wedding ceremony for the first Arsenal game of the season. Showed up late. Unbelievable

underneaththeash · 08/12/2022 20:03

It's ridiculous - swap , world cup netball/tiddlywinks final of strictly etc (I've no idea if it actually is the final of strictly), but a quarter final of a sporting match is utterly unimportant.

underneaththeash · 08/12/2022 20:04

However, he is not your partner

MyDogStoodOnABee · 08/12/2022 20:06

Saxiee · 08/12/2022 19:50

I'm a woman and don't even watch football at any other time, but I'll be watching on Sunday. I haven't watched a match since the one with Italy last year. I'd probably try and rearrange too.

You’ll have missed it then! 😂

spare123 · 08/12/2022 20:07

The match is at 7 - can't you do both?

QuestionsFromThePublic · 08/12/2022 20:09

Regardless of what the reason for the change, I think it's odd to cancel an date and not reschedule. The Christmas markets won't be on for much longer. Definitely make arrangements to go with someone else.

If you only see him monthly, will you see him before Christmas? If not, I would seriously think about how comparable you are. If he wanted to see you more often, he would.

I have no interest in football and won't be watching. My OH is football crazy. I am very fortunate that we have two comfortable.places to watch TV.

healthadvice123 · 08/12/2022 20:10

I would cancel to as a football fam

AnneLovesGilbert · 08/12/2022 20:10

Why can’t you go to the markets and then watch it together?

ILoveeCakes · 08/12/2022 20:11

Not into football, but you can go to the god awful markets another day if you really must.

csecdec · 08/12/2022 20:16

world cup is every 4 years. christmas markets are on every weekend of december. yabu

Sprouttreesareamazing · 08/12/2022 20:17

Op I bet people's weddings on Saturday allow for the game!

Ambertonix · 08/12/2022 20:17

Sorry, im with your husband on this one although the match doesnt start until 7pm, couldnt you spend the day together first and then let him watch the football in the evening. It is the World Cup quarter finals after all YABU.

Proudofitbabe · 08/12/2022 20:22

YABU and unrealistic, sorry. I don't know anyone that isn't planning to watch this, including the non-football fans! It's a late kickoff, can't you do the markets before?