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Partners just picked football over me?

181 replies

Janetsworld · 08/12/2022 19:46

World Cup on Saturday- England are playing, we originally had plans to meet up and go for a walk in the park and visit some Xmas markets.

Today he said, sorry we need to cancel the footballs on it’s a big game. I had to question if this was serious. He in fact was serious.

AIBU here? I said that I’m annoyed that I need to replan a day out around the football. He disagrees.

OP posts:
BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 08/12/2022 20:24

I don't understand why it's an either/ or situation? Do the park and markets in the morning (or Sunday) and the match Saturday evening.

Thoughtful2355 · 08/12/2022 20:28

sorry but i hate football and even i wouldnt be mad at this, it is a huge day for football fans.

You can spend another weekend with him at some point but this football game is only on on that one day.

KarmaStar · 08/12/2022 20:28

Come on,it's once in four year's!😀
Just watch it with him or let him enjoy it how he wants to .He will appreciate you far more than pouting and sulking.you never know you might enjoy it!...😀

Echobelly · 08/12/2022 20:29

I have zero interest in football, but your plans are nothing that can't be done another time, and an England World Cup quarter final doesn't come around very much. let's face it.

If it was for like, some super expensive, one off special thing I could understand annoyance, but I'm suprised anyone would expect someone to miss the this match for a walk and going to some markets.

Abouttimemum · 08/12/2022 20:31

We’ve cancelled plans together to watch the football! We’ll be watching it together though.

Dagnabit · 08/12/2022 20:32

It might not be your cup of tea but it means a lot to him and you could do your thing on the Sunday, maybe? This is what a partnership is all about. My husband wouldn’t miss it either but it’s what he loves and he makes sure the rest of us get to do things we like.

Choccolatte · 08/12/2022 20:33

Partner! Come on OP.

Crunched · 08/12/2022 20:33

We’ve cancelled plans together to watch the football! We’ll be watching it together though.
Obviously this ^.

IntentionalError · 08/12/2022 20:34

YABVU. It’s the World Cup quarter final FFS. I will certainly be watching it and if I had any plans which interfered with that, they would have been cancelled.

Go for a walk on Sunday instead. Problem solved.

Hoolihan · 08/12/2022 20:34

It's the WORLD CUP! Also Xmas markets are shite.

GreenWheat · 08/12/2022 20:36

Is Saturday his only free day? Is the problem that he lives further away and is planning on watching the match near his home as opposed to near yours? Otherwise I don't get why you can't do the markets earlier in the day. As I assume you weren't planning a walk in the park when it's dark and sub-zero temperatures?

Shoxfordian · 08/12/2022 20:36

Yanbu; why can’t you do those things in the day then watch the stupid football in the evening?

Mariposista · 08/12/2022 20:38

err you can go to the park and walk around any day. This is an England match!
And this is coming from someone who hates football!

BuggersMuddle · 08/12/2022 20:38

If it's a straightforward 'you must prioritise our plans over the world cup quarter final' then YABU.

DH and I are Scottish, don't particularly follow football, but still enjoyed watching the game on a big screen over a pub supper last weekend 😀

Sounds like there might be more to it if you're only making time for each other once a month, though. Was watching it together after you plans an option? Has he proposed something else? There's a big difference IMO between e.g. him suggesting he takes you for a lovely meal on an alternative date that works vs saying 'sorry, see you in a month'.

magicalorange · 08/12/2022 20:38

ThatGirlInACountrySong · 08/12/2022 19:48

He's right!!

Park and Christmas markets??? Nah....sounds boring!!

I agree. This isn't just a random football game.

I'd cancel a walk and Christmas markets for this game.

quietnightmare · 08/12/2022 20:39

It is the World Cup fgs

lap90 · 08/12/2022 20:40

It's understandable tbh... it is the World Cup! I was secretly hoping a friend would cancel something she planned during England's last match.

qpmz · 08/12/2022 20:40

Christmas markets then off to the pub together to watch the match.Football

Is he staying at yours or will you not see him at all if you don't join him for the game?

I wouldn't take it personally that he wants to see the football. I think you deserve more than a once a month type relationship though if that's what you want.

Rainbowshit · 08/12/2022 20:41

I hate football but it is the World Cup!

DillyDallyPop · 08/12/2022 20:48

I think this is a wind up post

Unicorn717 · 08/12/2022 20:48

I'd be cancelling a walk in the park for football too.

SnowyPetals · 08/12/2022 20:55

DillyDallyPop · 08/12/2022 20:48

I think this is a wind up post

Hmmm, yes, OP is skirting round the obvious solution and not explaining why that can't be done. Crap wind-up if so.

BaggieMaggie · 08/12/2022 20:55

Are you the same poster who has posted several times about this man? If so, he is quite obviously not that into you. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with him wanting to watch the football but it’s just another time he has not put you first. If you only see each other once a week, he should make sure to keep that weekend free. Did he invite you to join him?

Newuser82 · 08/12/2022 20:55

That's what happens when people like football in my experience. It comes first in my house. I've actually just had to rearrange the booking for my sons birthday party as the original date clashed with a football match! 😡. I just don't get it.

DarkDarkNight · 08/12/2022 20:56

Let him watch the football. It’s a big deal, and it’s only on once every 4 years, would you rather he do something with you and be actively wishing he was somewhere else? He couldn’t exactly plan for it, it’s not a guarantee we would get this far. Can you not go to the markets in the morning?