Partners just picked football over me?

[Janetsworld]

World Cup on Saturday- England are playing, we originally had plans to meet up and go for a walk in the park and visit some Xmas markets.

Today he said, sorry we need to cancel the footballs on it’s a big game. I had to question if this was serious. He in fact was serious.

AIBU here? I said that I’m annoyed that I need to replan a day out around the football. He disagrees.

Errm you are being very hypocritical op. Watch the footie together and go to a Xmas Market on Sunday/next weekend. Or better still go Christmas Market then find a pub to watch the football in!

He is unreasonable but many men are dicks/sport fans

Dump him and find someone with a brain

Everyone is going to say YABU because it seems 90% of the population is football mad.
I don’t see the appeal personally and I know first hand how much time it can take up/invade so I would also be a bit miffed.

I hate football. The words 'but it's the World Cup' would make me like him just a bit less. Just my opinion.

@underneaththeash unimportant to YOU maybe, but not to millions of others.

@Janetsworld why can't you go for an early walk, it should be lovely with the expected frost, to the markets for hit drinks & snacks then a giid pub for the evening!

I have the opposite problem - he HATES pretty much any sport, except motor sport 🙄🙄 & I'll watch pretty much any sport with a preference for international level rugby.

or if you want to stay in bed, walk Saturday then pub for footy & markets Sunday.

separate to this, how are things working out? Once a month seems pretty crap!

You’re choosing the narrative it’s football over you. It’s not. It’s football over other activities.

YABU & quite dramatic

Many women are also sports fans. Not sure people are ‘dicks’ because they want to see their home country compete in a competition that is one of the popular sports in the world. Many of us also have a brain. Not sure the same can be said for you.

I can't stand football, but I wouldn't make him miss it

And there’s me happy the World Cup is on because it means I get an undisturbed evening, watching what I enjoy, whilst DP is watching the footie 🤣🤣

Can’t stand football but I’d pick that over market and walking where it’s going to be just above freezing

no but their posts do sound good. My partners a local doctor so I can’t see him often. To be frank. I’m not sure how to reply to all the posters

Has he suggested watching together? Because changing plans for a big game seems fair but if he is not interested in seeing you at all because of it, that's different.

YANBU. If it had been rugby on the other hand...

I'd pick football over a Christmas market. Overcrowded, over priced and the same old tat year after year. And I'm someone who's spending Saturday evening watching Six the musical for the third time, so not exactly a committed football fan.

I'd pick football over a Christmas market and I hate football!!

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I’d not stay in a relationship with somebody who ditched me for football, especially if they’re one of those bores who thinks a 2 hour televised event needs an entire day of attention.

Are you absolutely sure he’s not stringing you along? Plenty of locums get chunks of time off or can be flexible so having a relationship should be possible. Seeing him once a month - 12 times a year doesn’t seem like an actual real relationship. If it was a real relationship where you saw each other more often, you wouldn’t be so worked up over the football.

yabu. it's only once every four years. and i am not a football fan. I shall be hiding under the duvet as i hate the tension of knowing whether they are in or out.

During those periods I stay with him for a week - 10 days.

From a football fan's perspective, even if he went with you, he would be there in body only and just be a massive sack of resentment. Every fibre of his being would want to be watching that game, it might be not be right or pretty, but it's just how it is.

World Cup is once every 4 years, let him enjoy it. I’m not even a footie fan and I will be watching.

It's at 7pm. Surely you can do something during the day and then watch the match together in the evening?

Oh OP, if you want a man who is going to prioritise you over football, it won't be a man you only see once a month.

Don't treat someone as a priority when you are only an option to them, and at once a month I very much doubt you are his only option. You are worth so much more

Sorry but you’re being unreasonable.

This is a big game for anyone interested in football. You can go for a walk another day or earlier in the day. Surely it occurred to you he’d want to watch the match before he even mentioned it?