Page 8 | Partners just picked football over me?

Janetsworld · 2022-12-08T19:46:33+00:00

World Cup on Saturday- England are playing, we originally had plans to meet up and go for a walk in the park and visit some Xmas markets. Today he said, sorry we need to cancel the footballs on it’s a big game. I had to question if this was serious. He in fact was serious. AIBU here? I said that I’m annoyed that I need to replan a day out around the football. He disagrees.

KatherineJaneway · 10/12/2022 15:29

Everyone will be watching the game tonight and any further matches if we win.

Not 'everyone', no.

Blueeyedgirl21 · 10/12/2022 16:16

@WildRosie let me guess you’re not like other guys, you’re sensitive and have a really amazing niche hobby like jousting or building cars from pencils or something 🙄🙄🙄🙄

WildRosie · 10/12/2022 18:17

Blueeyedgirl21 · 10/12/2022 16:16

@WildRosie let me guess you’re not like other guys, you’re sensitive and have a really amazing niche hobby like jousting or building cars from pencils or something 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I may be sensitive but I don't have any niche hobbies. I just don't give a shit about football.

AllOfThemWitches · 10/12/2022 18:23

My bf likes football and would never sack me off like that, even for the world Cup.

UsingChangeofName · 10/12/2022 23:15

The OP isn't responsible for knowing football is happening, nor for organising their day in the way it doesn't interfere with a football.
They have pre-agreed plans, he wants to change them and he should do it in a civilised way. The football hasn't appeared today out of the blue, so announcing it only today is stupid. He could suggest the walk and markets to happen in the afternoon or so on, or just communicate about the change in time, not cancel on his partner today.

He didn't announce it today.
The OP started this thread 2 days ago.
I am going to guess he assumed that 'go for a walk in the park' is something you can do any day of the year. Clearly if something specific, that can only be done at a specific time then comes up, it takes precedence over something like 'a walk in the park' you can do at any point. That would be the same if it were a concert, gig, or anything else. It's not specific to a football match.
I was going meet up with some people last month and someone offered me last minute tickets for a gig for someone 'big'. Nobody at any point thought I should turn them down. It was just one of those meet ups we could rearrange.

ZiriForThis1 · 11/12/2022 00:17

UsingChangeofName · 10/12/2022 23:15

The OP isn't responsible for knowing football is happening, nor for organising their day in the way it doesn't interfere with a football.
They have pre-agreed plans, he wants to change them and he should do it in a civilised way. The football hasn't appeared today out of the blue, so announcing it only today is stupid. He could suggest the walk and markets to happen in the afternoon or so on, or just communicate about the change in time, not cancel on his partner today.

He didn't announce it today.
The OP started this thread 2 days ago.
I am going to guess he assumed that 'go for a walk in the park' is something you can do any day of the year. Clearly if something specific, that can only be done at a specific time then comes up, it takes precedence over something like 'a walk in the park' you can do at any point. That would be the same if it were a concert, gig, or anything else. It's not specific to a football match.
I was going meet up with some people last month and someone offered me last minute tickets for a gig for someone 'big'. Nobody at any point thought I should turn them down. It was just one of those meet ups we could rearrange.

Thanks, I haven't noticed the difference between post's date and today.

The rest remains - they have limited time together, there have preagreed plan to use together this specific day, he wants to change it, so he should communicate properly and come up with some proposal how to adjust the plan (we don't know whether they can easily go any other day, if yes, surely he can suggest a specific one), not just cancel it.

Some posts here were suggesting the OP should had anticipated he will want to watch and were making her responsible for everything. Wanting to watch football isn't a get away card from basic politeness and from making a bit of effort with people around us, especially when changing the plans made earlier together.