Partners just picked football over me?

[Janetsworld]

World Cup on Saturday- England are playing, we originally had plans to meet up and go for a walk in the park and visit some Xmas markets.

Today he said, sorry we need to cancel the footballs on it’s a big game. I had to question if this was serious. He in fact was serious.

AIBU here? I said that I’m annoyed that I need to replan a day out around the football. He disagrees.

I'm with the 88% (so far). YABU.

Though I am surprised he didn't have it in the diary before now.

Another who can't understand why you can't wander through the market some other day. Obviously a walk in the park can be at any time.

If you want this relationship to work, you need to rephrase the way you are thinking. He isn't "choosing football over you", he is, understandably, watching a really big match, live, in real time. Along with half the country probably.

If you only see him once a month, I can see why it feels like a big deal. But I think this comes with the territory if you date someone who has a passion and that passion has occasional big events that aren’t guaranteed to happen.

Sounds like you're feeling sad because he's your number 1 priority who you would never cancel a date with for any reason but you've now realised he will cancel dates with you. Honestly he has a healthier and more realistic approach to the relationship and if you're panicking that watching the match means he doesn't love you then you need to do some work on your self esteem.

To be fair it is the world cup and how often do England get this far. If it was a normal game in a league I'd say be raging but this is sort of reasonable. Although I would expect to rearrange and not altogether cancel.

To be fair, England get to the quarter finals about half the time, it shouldn’t be a huge surprise we made it this far.

I don’t watch football at any other time but love the World Cup. If I’d had plans for Saturday I would cancel them.

Ridiculous.

I think you'll find many women will be watching.

I'm a massive football fan and I'm boycotting it but I don't expect everyone else to.

I've been invited to join friends for a meal and the match. I'll pick up the fish and chips, join the meal and leave before the match starts. I said I wouldn't be watching any of it and I meant it.

I think the OP is being unreasonable though. I imagine many people who don't normally watch football will be watching this.

Surely you could do both. As someone else said it is an evening match.

I have found that England football matches are the best time to go to Ikea. I found that out by accident.

Some Green King pubs have no TV so that's another option, call up a friend and go out, leave him to the football.

Are you for reals?!?!? It’s the World Cup!

So? Not everyone cares.

I'm going to my local panto tomorrow night - booked tickets a while ago.
I'll be interested to see the size of the audience. I imagine the performance will probably be altered slightly to maybe say the scores or something.
I'd be pissed off if the performance is cancelled...

@bookworm1982 ha! Yes so it is, even my football hating self knows it’s every 4 years,
god I think people would just
combust with excitement if it happened every year 😂

I totally don't agree with the World Cup being held in Qatar and haven't watched a single match.

But I was married to a sports fanatic so understand his wanting to watch it. I have seen several events being postponed due to it.

You'll have a job watching a match live on Sunday....🙈

Watch it with him, too big a game to miss.

I’m not interested in football, but I think you’re BU. My 1st husband was a keen player and watcher, and whilst I don’t understand the fascination myself, I just thought of it as his relaxation, or his hobby, not as a contest between football and I to gain his time or attention.

I loathe football and won’t be watching, but even I think YABU.

I enjoy finding something non-footbally to do when the football is on.

If you only see him once a month I can see why it hurts. Maybe this relationship isn't right for you based on this. I think if he really wanted to see you because he missed you and wouldn't see you again for another month he would prioritise you or suggest watching together. Based on the once a month thing YANBU .

But would he have known?

I though the teams had to progress to the next stage. So play a match and hopefully win so you can progress. But then again I know nothing about football.

Sounds pretty selfish to me. Surely you honour the first commitment you had in the diary?

You aren't answering the most obvious question OP?

Why not go during the day and go home for the game?

Football has ruled my entire life. From living at home with 2 brothers, both mad about watching football. To meeting my DH who played football 3 times a week. Then getting married and having 2 Sons who both played football and my DH managed both their teams for over 15 years. They are all season ticket holders for Spurs, holidays, meals out, seeing family and friends is all based on football.

Agree with you, personally can’t stand football and I am am out with the wife with four other couples in town on Saturday night . Hopefully be nice and quiet.
Having said that, if It’s important to him, then it’s not as though you are missing a wedding or anything. Give the poor simple fellow his wish.

Why can't you do both? Walk and Christmas market in the morning/afternoon and then the footie in the evening?
It's a non-issue surely?