DH serves himself the best bits

[cherriegarcia]

OK this is a very small thing but when my DH is serving food he always gives me the slightly less enticing portion.

For example, the slightly smaller half of the pizza or the half with less cheese. The part of the avocado that is a little brown. The toast that is a little burnt.

I feel so petty to bring it up with him but it's a constant thing and makes me feel a bit shit. I would always give the person I'm serving the better portion, I think it's just good manners.

Anyone else's partner do this? AIBU to say something about it or do I need to get over it?

When I was a kid, the rule was that the person that portioned out the food was last to pick. It ensured fairness, equal portions.
(Had a sad backstory though, grandpa was in ww2 camps and this was their system to ensure equal portions as they were all starving. Even after he came back he couldn't eat any other way).

Chef's perks is bs. What about washing up, kitchen cleaning, cooking doesn't happen in a vacuum.

I cut, you choose is the only way to guarantee fairness. Works every time. My parents do it, been married 45 years 👍

Do your own then

I always give dh the broken egg, I just tell him your egg broke, shall I do you another one? He always gives himself the larger glass of wine. Not worth worrying about in the grand scheme of things. You could say to to him, I want that piece you gutsy sod. 😁

Lol. I tend to cook and give others the best bits 😃

My husband will swap his whole meal for mine if he thinks I'm not enjoying mine when eating out, saying, "yours looks better than mine, can we swap?" Took me years to figure out he was just trying to make me happy. He's definitely a keeper. I will always give him the best bits of a meal too. Your husband sounds a bit selfish. I'd point it out so he knows you've clocked it.

you are quite correct.
you are being kind and thoughtful, giving the best bits to him
he is being selfish, picking the best bits for himself
if he is kind and generous in life - then forgive him this.
BUT serve the best bits to yourself from now on ( or you will never get them).and if he does notice or comment, simply point out with no animosity that that is what he does.
(BTW - look also at bodyweight and fat burning before you get too excited about having the same size portion as him)

Definitely I would be peed off with this. My dad always gave my mum and kids the best, perhaps that's what he was used to growing up and never considered the fairness of it. Can you serve up the food and give yourself the best, and when he objects, share out fairly and say Oh sorry, we should of course always share the best evenly shouldn't we, my mistake!