DH serves himself the best bits

[cherriegarcia]

OK this is a very small thing but when my DH is serving food he always gives me the slightly less enticing portion.

For example, the slightly smaller half of the pizza or the half with less cheese. The part of the avocado that is a little brown. The toast that is a little burnt.

I feel so petty to bring it up with him but it's a constant thing and makes me feel a bit shit. I would always give the person I'm serving the better portion, I think it's just good manners.

Anyone else's partner do this? AIBU to say something about it or do I need to get over it?

I always cook and make sure that my partner and any guests have the best of what is on offer. It seems the right thing to do - I want everyone else to really enjoy what I've made them.

Ever heard of chefs perks?

He or she who serves gets to pick the best bits

I would always give anyone the best portion, nicest piece of meat, biggest slice of cake etc. So would my husband. So would my teens. So would my mum. It’s just nice behaviour.

I always make the portions as equal as I can, I wouldn’t give my wife all the burnt bits and leave the best for myself that seems a bit mean. I prefer crispier well done food to her anyway (her toast looks anaemic imo) so I will always pick that out for myself and it’s a win win.

Just start preparing more food and do the same, if you can’t beat them join them and all that!

Do people really think they're making an original comment when they post something that's been posted and debated (that's not what chef's perks really means) ad nauseam already on the thread?

Do people really believe they can police how people post on here?

There are 13 pages of replies, bore off

Not interested in policing anything, but really why would you look at a thread with so many pages and post "ever heard of [insert pretty much the most incredibly obvious comment]?" as though you really believe that the thread has got that long and you're posting something novel ...

Of all the daft algorithms that have popped up I'd rather there was an algorithm for stopping posts appearing when they've already been posted word for word more than say five times on the thread...

How strange! I was contemplating the exact opposite of this last night after I stuck a pizza in the oven, (covid, couldn’t face cooking properly..) One half was a bit burnt, so I took a couple of slices of the burnt side leaving the nicer bits for my DH. He then went and helped himself to the remaining burnt bits thinking he was leaving the nicer bits incase I wanted any later on!! In the end, the leftover bits were the the nice pieces and we had both eaten the burnt side!! DS17 came in later and scoffed the nice side… It just made me laugh seeing this post..

Reason No.103 why I’ll never quit this site: no matter how innocuous the topic, there’s always someone spoiling for fisticuffs. It’s beautiful.

I think you need a hobby.

such an odd thing to do, read an innocuous comment and decide to go off on it.

is everything ok at home?

I always give myself and my little Dd the best bits, Dh last 🙈is that bad

Christ, that’s tight. Glad you got rid!

No what’s that then? 😂

You're allowed to stick a pizza on the oven without having to justify it by saying you have covid and cant face cooking.
You could have a pizza without having any excuse at all. You're allowed a night off from cooking without excuses.

This is so tough - but my OH and I are absolutely on the same page on this. I always give him a little bit bigger of a portion than me, I take way more care plating up his food and give him what I see as the best bits. He, on the other hand, if a fried egg bursts in the pan, or the veg burn or a quiche slice falls apart or something will always immediately put up his hand and say he’ll take that because he doesn’t care and he wants me to have the nice bit. Sooo…our love language is giving each other the better food. Your OH obviously has the opposite idea.

Snacks are a completely different kettle of fish in our house though. It’s dog eat dog as far as I’m concerned. My other half will want it absolutely halved no matter what I buy and no matter how long it takes him to eat his half. I say that every time I want a portion, I’ll offer to him but if he says no, he forfeits his right to that portion and if we run out, tough shizz. I know. I’m greedy. Them’s the breaks.

I always give myself more of the sauce but in a way where DH knows so I don’t feel mean/sneaky

We cook equally and always give each other the best portion (however when I'm cooking I usually cook extra food so I can sample while I cook...tonight: three roast potatoes were consumed before it got to the table).

Depends. Does he think you prefer that?
If I'm serving pizza, ds gets the patch with less cheese (he prefers that), I get the slightly burnt side (I prefer that), dh gets the part with more onion (his favourite), dd1 gets the part with more pineapple (her choice) and dd2 gets nothing (her choice)!

Me and dh compliment each other. So when I'm serving chicken I give myself the delicious leg and him the horrible dry breast, and I pick the most burnt cookie out of the jar and give him the thick soggy one.... etc. Just occasionally he'll say (or I'll say if he's serving) something and we find that we've misremembered what the other likes (for example I like a crisp cookie, but the middle of cake).

Dh did have a bit of a habit of giving himself the largest portion. It wasn't deliberate but simply he tended to serve himself last, and doing things by 5 isn't easy, and I think he was perhaps being careful to make sure he didn't end up with much less.
We made a bit of a joke about it. Bagsying the last slice, or swapping the last slice over with another. He denied it the first few times (I may say a protractor was called in at one point) and since then he's made sure that the last slice isn't bigger.

I agree with minipie. But I haven’t dished up anyone else’s food since the kids were old enough to serve themselves. We serve everything in dishes at the table.

Er ... yes?

The clue is in the "always".

HTH

(I may say a protractor was called in at one point)
😂😂😂

I want to be adopted by the Thursday family.

My DH is quite grabby. At parties, if there were 2 pieces of chicken left, he’d just take both! At home, he used to take whatever he wanted, sometimes without leaving anything for me. Nasty. That’s how he was raised though. His mom and sister are unbelievably grabby. Zero manners.

He is a slightly better person now. So he shares and looks out for me. Still a bit greedy at parties though. It’s very annoying!

My DH used to do this, so now I tell him that if he dishes up the plates I pick which one is mine and vice Versa!

My DH is quite grabby. At parties, if there were 2 pieces of chicken left, he’d just take both! At home, he used to take whatever he wanted, sometimes without leaving anything for me. Nasty
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@Jazz12 how unattractive... seriously why on earth are we enabling this greedy man child behaviour. Husband piling his plate high leaving his wife with no food... Honestly

Reminds me of the wedding singer when her horrible fiance takes the window seat knowing she has never flown and would like to look out the window.