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To cancel plans because of the football?

281 replies

XmasConfusion · 05/12/2022 07:16

Dinner with two school mums next Saturday. Been planned for ages. Don't know them very well..

Me and my family are England fans and been watching and following pretty seriously.

AIBU to not go on Saturday as its England v France?

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Cosycover · 05/12/2022 07:16

Nope I don't think that's unreasonable at all.

Mindymomo · 05/12/2022 07:18

Football rules over everything in our house so anything planned is now out.

Lastqueenofscotland2 · 05/12/2022 07:19

As long as you weren’t hosting and it won’t ruin their night it’s fine

whatkatydid2013 · 05/12/2022 07:19

I always think it’s pretty poor to cancel things late in the day but close to a weeks notice seems reasonable. If you are doing it then I’d just say you can no longer make it but you’ll do the next one

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 05/12/2022 07:20

I’d be very pissed if off. Cancelling because if Illness or crisis would be understandable. But football?! I’d be very unimpressed.

Stressedmum2017 · 05/12/2022 07:21

I would cancel yeah.

QueenofLouisiana · 05/12/2022 07:23

I think it’s fine, with the caveat that you understand that you may not get another invitation.
I’d rather you didn’t come than make it obvious that you are keen to know the score/ get away to a screen. Far better all round.

ilovelamp82 · 05/12/2022 07:24

Yes, you're giving a reasonable time. Your country playing in the world cup is a perfectly valid reason. Could you not postpone or alter the time rather than cancel all together? You may find that they'd like to watch the game too and is hoping one of you may cancel.

ChristmasJoysuckers · 05/12/2022 07:24

Can you go somewhere with a screen.
I'm gutted I'm also booked out! I'm hoping there is a screen or we can watch on our phone.

userxx · 05/12/2022 07:25

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 05/12/2022 07:20

I’d be very pissed if off. Cancelling because if Illness or crisis would be understandable. But football?! I’d be very unimpressed.

That's because you're clearly not into it.

Pictograph · 05/12/2022 07:26

I don't think you're being unreasonable - but they might!

TenoringBehind · 05/12/2022 07:27

I think it’s rude. The first arrangement should always stand unless the new one is a funeral or some sort of emergency.

thelobsterquadrille · 05/12/2022 07:27

I think it's fine to cancel with a weeks' notice.

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 05/12/2022 07:27

userxx · 05/12/2022 07:25

That's because you're clearly not into it.

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Well indeed, lots aren’t and would be justified in being pissed off with plans being cancelled because of it.

Augend23 · 05/12/2022 07:28

QueenofLouisiana · 05/12/2022 07:23

I think it’s fine, with the caveat that you understand that you may not get another invitation.
I’d rather you didn’t come than make it obvious that you are keen to know the score/ get away to a screen. Far better all round.

I agree with this.

I'm not massively into the football. I'll probably give a game a watch if we make it to the semis.

Cancelling - annoying but fine. I can make an informed decision about my evening and find something else to do with my time. Sitting there making it clear there's other stuff you'd rather be doing is just rude.

SquigglePigs · 05/12/2022 07:28

Honestly if I was one of the other Mums I'd be pretty annoyed. It's not like it's a big group where one missing wouldn't be noticed. Saturday nights out without partners/kids are not frequent and December weekends in particular are often full quickly so to have plans cancelled at a weeks notice would annoy me. Especially as it's not even the final. I wouldn't have a problem with you occasionally checking in for an update on your phone though as long as you weren't on it all night.

ButterCrackers · 05/12/2022 07:30

Cancel it today and reschedule for after Christmas.

Justwanttobebythesea · 05/12/2022 07:32

I would cancel, you're giving them enough notice for a very good reason (ignore those who don't get it). Also much better than flaking out on the day with some sudden illness (that I do find AIBU).

I have a Mum's thing 3pm on Sat and I would have been cancelling if England came second in the group.

C'mon England!!!!

Florenz · 05/12/2022 07:33

They will probably want to cancel as well unless they are full-on football haters. Pretty much everyone in the country will be watching the match.

DappledThings · 05/12/2022 07:34

You aren't being unreasonable but if I were one of them I'd be pretty unimpressed with you dropping out and I wouldn't be unreasonable to think that either.

FourChimneys · 05/12/2022 07:35

I think it's rude and unnecessary to cancel. Can't you just check the score on your phone when you go to the loo?

If someone did that to me I wouldn't rush to rearrange, knowing how unimportant I was in the scheme of things.

AuntieMarys · 05/12/2022 07:35

Well at least they can bitch about you if you're not there

user26189065 · 05/12/2022 07:36

I don't watch the football and many will say don't cancel because they also are not really bothered about the football but I think that as it is a almost a weeks notice that will be fine, if you go you won't enjoy it so cancel but do it today

Crazyinlove123 · 05/12/2022 07:36

i would cancel. I have plans Saturday, thankfully in the day so I’ll he home for the match if I wasn’t I’d be cancelling. They might be relieved OP and thinking of doing the same.

araiwa · 05/12/2022 07:37

100% fine

Tho I'd go with rescheduling rather than cancelling

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