To expect the teacher to apologise to my dd?

[buckeejit]

Dd is 9 & was delighted to come home last week & tell us she was Mary in the school play. She was getting to slap someone in the play. How exciting.

She's been diagnosed with a chronic illness this year and not remotely sporty so not used to winning things normally.

She then came home a few days later quite down & spent some time in her room. She's quite sensitive & wouldn't say what was wrong. Later she came down & said now she wasn't Mary she was an angel instead.

Apparently, someone in the other class said they had a Mary costume so the other teacher said that girl could be Mary. DD's teacher asked dd if that was ok & said she didn't have to be an angel, but dd said 'ok, that's fine' as she thinks she has to be kind & isn't one to make a fuss.

I complained to DD's teacher, (she's a NQT covering for this year & I imagine finding this year quite full on). I said dd should never have been put in that position to decide & it wasn't fair. Queried if I had missed part of the story. She replied that she agreed with everything I'd said & the other teacher overruled her & pushed on with giving Mary to the other girl in his class. I asked her to pass my comments on to him & she said she would as she was also annoyed about it. DD's teacher was supposed to in charge of the drama & other teacher was in charge of singing. Other teacher is really nice & much loved by the pupils. I'm surprised at this.

I understand people make mistakes & see this as a bad decision. I think other teacher owes my dd an apology. I'm hoping he realises this himself & speaks to her this week. If not, am I unreasonable to speak to him & request that he does so? I think it's very important to show dc that we are accountable for our mistakes & that adults should apologise when thy make an error? What would you do?

It is now. What with Mary bitch-slapping someone? Surely that's a lead role?!

LOL

Imagine how much would have changed. Just one slap can change the world

I forget indeed. Shoo shoo

Jesus is having problems latching, and Mary had a third degree tear. How dare these "wise" men try and visit for their own egos?

But I am interested in the apology you feel she is owed. Surely the situation was explained to her in a kind way, what more is required?

Telling the child that other kid gets the part because she already has the costume isn't explaining it to her in a kind way.

I would be able to deliver that message kindly.

I assume this child did not repeat the entire conversation verbatim.

It certainly brings a different concept of Mary, Meek and Mild doesn’t it! 😯

It’s got me wondering what gifts the 3 Wise Men bring.

Narrator - The 3 Wise Men rock up at the stable on camels. One gets off and stands at the side of the stable keeping a look out

Wise Man number 3 - “I’m in position. The coast is clear”.

Narrator - The other two enter with little parcels of white powder for Baby Jesus.

Wise man number 1 - “Don’t forget Joe. When the sun has gone down and risen 3 times we’ll be back for the Wonga. Make sure you have it”.

Wise Man number 2 - Stares, pointedly, at Joseph. He pulls his index finger across his throat in a menacing gesture.
“We’ll be back!”

Or something 🧐

I have my fingers crossed that she bitch-slaps King Herod...after all it was his idea of a census that meant she couldn't stay where she was and have the baby there. Noooo. She had to travel on the back of a donkey (poor donkey), so it was most uncomfortable and not conducive to a straightforward birth and all that, to go to another district to register the birth.

Also, since when do donkeys talk and have more to say about the birth of the Chosen One? The inn-keeper is a bigger role than the donkey, surely???

@buckeejit "Prior to this some other children came up to dd & said 'other girl is Mary. Dd said 'but she can't be, I'm Mary'."

I suspect that what actually happened was that there was an error made and two girls were each told that they were Mary, then when the error was realised the teachers decided between them to tell your daughter that the other girl was getting the part because of the costume, rather than admitting that they'd messed up.

And now your daughter's teacher is throwing the other teacher under the bus!

Sorry but I would be bringing this up, its not ok.

I am thinking what's happened is maybe new Mary is a bit of a handful, was carrying on something ruthless about having a Mary costume and to appease her and get class back on track, other teacher said "OK you can be Mary"

Your DD is likely very well behaved and mild mannered and teachers thought "she wont mind giving it over to New Mary to keep the peace"

Well no, sorry. I wouldnt be making a song and dance but I would be wanting to know exactly how this happened because it is a fuck up that has resulted in an upset child

I reckon both class teachers offered it to a child in their class. It may even have been the NQT who got it wrong, being new to the school. They then had a tough decision to make. Whatever made their mind up it wasn't a costume. That's either a small part of what they told op's dd or a kind excuse they thought she'd understand.