To wonder why many on MN

[CourtneeLuv]

Are so pedantic, literal and joyless?

Other sites aren't like this

I would dispute your thoughts on other sites OP.

Picking a poster apart for their grammar is joyless and pedantic. Well joyless for the OP anyway. Maybe the grammar Nazi enjoys telling the woman asking for help for her baby that it's "you're, not your!"

Let me get this right ... you're moaning about there being too many moaning posters on here 😄

I didn’t think the OP meant pedantic and literal in grammar terms, more any posters trying to focus in on who said what to whom, and when and why.

But posting the same thing three times to the op to demand a reaction is a bit joyless isn't it?

I'm not joyless.
Because I'm literal* - and remember on nearly all posts on MN, we only have the typed word to go on, so it's hard not to be literal in the absence of body language, voice tone, previous knowledge of the person and their outlook - I find it hard when things are sometimes typed ambiguously so have to ask which is the correct interpretation when it's not obvious to me, and in many cases I think it's rude to assume the poster meant something different from what they wrote.
Asking for clarification has led to me being dismissed as pedantic at times. It's just how my brain works.

*SEE?!

That said, I'm not the sort of poster to pick at someone needlessly. I'm normally making crap jokes tbh!

It’s not specific to MN. Face to face people are rarely so blunt but the internet allows for it. I think some forget there’s a person on the other end of the message.

(maybe I'm being too literal 😂) but I took her pedantry to be literal and her 'literal' to be about people who kick off about flippant comments that are clearly meant to not be taken literally.

But yes, what you describe is also incredibly annoying in a chat forum

@AccioChocolate no. It's asking for clarification of an ableist statement.

I don't find it joyless but I enjoy it being literal and pedantic because I struggle with anything else. I know where I'm up to with mumsnet as most posters say things as they are and are honest in their opinions.

If someone picks a crap baby name, they are told its crap and why. Same for unflattering clothes or haircuts. Yes, it can be brutal but I'd much prefer brutal honestly then the 'you do you' crowd on Nethuns.

Op in the real world you choose your audience.

If you know your BIL will pick you up on everything you say, you will minimize contact to conversation about the weather.

Also you might only speak to 2-10 people a day. You could speak to 50 -500 in a thread.

Statistically speaking out of a thousand people a huge Chunk will be massive assholes.

Also. I asked twice. Once was a statement.

Rubbish. Picking people apart until feel like shit is not an autistic trait.

Picking a poster apart for their grammar is joyless and pedantic. Well joyless for the OP anyway. Maybe the grammar Nazi enjoys telling the woman asking for help for her baby that it's "you're, not your!"

I agree, but they fortunately often het their comeuppance - either by being rightly flamed for it by other posters or by making a mistake in their own post and being rightly ridiculed for that. There are few things more satisfying than out-pedanting a pedant

@AccioChocolate where have you got that I pick people apart until they feel like shit? That's not what the op is talking about. She's talking about being literal (a feature of my autism) and pedantic (also a feature of my autism).

I agree, it is incredibly satisfying!

It's because on other sites you have to pick one name and stick to it. If you acted like a joyless, nasty fun sponge, no-one would bother talking to you.

On MN you can name change to your heart's content and post to suit your mood I guess.

Hahaha was thinking the same

I often think that about the lack of joy.

A major cohort of posters here seem to enjoy NOTHING. Sex for example is something to be ensured. I rarely rarely hear anyone talking about someone they really fancy in a purely lustful way. If they do they are mocked and scorned, told they are desperate and pathetic.

If someone is insecure about feeling old and unattractive looking there's a unanimous agreement as if these posters can actually see her IRL and know what she looks like.

If someone is upfront about the fact they are generally considered attractive there is an absolute pile-on and they are called deluded.

The same with careers - no cheerful sharing of successes or encouraging each other. It's all working to protect yourself from your husband after he leaves you for a younger model.

I'm glad the MN world isn't my world.

I do think the Name change feature does create part of the problem, which makes a hypocrite as it's one of the things that I love best as I don't feel comfortable talking about my life when it call be back searched by someone who recognizes me.

The rest of the internet is exactly like that 🤣

Posts shouldn't be removed just for expressing disagreement. That's a modding issue.

I have autism and adhd.

I think it’s always been the case that internet forums tend to attract a higher proportion of lonely, unhappy people. In the same way that the most angsty kids at school were always the ones who spent the most time on MSN messenger 😂