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To think it's not on for H to eat dds chocolate.

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Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 02/12/2022 11:49

Dd started her period yesterday, first one. I bought her a massive bar of galaxy as a little gift as she was a bit upset. She has had one line of it last night and taken one in her lunch box for school today as a treat. Husband has eaten all but one line of it, do over half the bar. I'm furious and think it's massively not on. He thinks it's chocolate and was left out so fair game.... He knew the reason for the chocolate and that it was something special for her. Dd2 knew not to touch it and hasn't even asked for any as she knew it was dds little treat and not for her (if she'd asked dd1 would def have shared)

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jackstini · 04/12/2022 13:17

If you have your own property, leave. Now

You cannot be or have your children in the same place as such a nasty, disrespectful, horrible man

Please, please go Flowers

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Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 05/12/2022 17:41

I've told him we need to make a plan to properly separate and I'm going to see a solicitor to discuss my options I'm better informed. Still not sure whether I want to stay here or leave. On one hand I don't see why I should have to go and leave my home, on the other he doesn't respect my boundaries and will just continue to see it as his house and come and go as he pleases, and that's how he managed to sneek his way back in last time.

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AngelontopoftheTree · 05/12/2022 19:21

Good for you @Bogiesaremyonlyfriend.

I really hope you find the strength to follow this through. It isn't a happy house, for you or your DC. Move out, give them a happy home!
Will be thinking of you 💐

ChangedmynameagainforChristmas · 05/12/2022 22:28

Not if you change the locks OP

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Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 06/12/2022 07:37

I did last time!! He just managed to convince me that he was the nicest guy and I should have him back!!

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diddl · 06/12/2022 07:48

I don't see why you & the kids should go through the hassle of leaving Op.

If you've go him out before then hopefully you can do it again.

With any luck he'll go quietly as he'll think that you'll cave again.

AngelontopoftheTree · 06/12/2022 10:43

Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 06/12/2022 07:37

I did last time!! He just managed to convince me that he was the nicest guy and I should have him back!!

You know now that it's all a front - he is NOT the nicest guy (he's not even a tiny bit of a nice guy!). Please, please, please get away from him & don't take him back!

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 10:57

All this over some chocolate. Dear lord

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 06/12/2022 11:46

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 10:57

All this over some chocolate. Dear lord

It’s not all over chocolate ffs, it’s the straw that broke the camel’s back!

You’ll never be shot of him living where you do, I’d go to your lovely new house that’s yours, you’ve suffered enough!

Willowswood · 06/12/2022 17:55

Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 06/12/2022 07:37

I did last time!! He just managed to convince me that he was the nicest guy and I should have him back!!

I thought you said you had another property to go to? Surely it's not that difficult if this is the case?

Surely if you value your childrens' wellbeing you would be gone by now.

ABrotherWhoLooksLikeHellMugYou · 06/12/2022 18:05

Missed a trick there. Should have laced that last row with laxative and enjoyed the show.

No, probably not really but hopefully the mental image will cheer you up

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Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 06/12/2022 18:11

Willowswood · 06/12/2022 17:55

I thought you said you had another property to go to? Surely it's not that difficult if this is the case?

Surely if you value your childrens' wellbeing you would be gone by now.

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I do now, I didn't then- when he left me last time there was no questions he just upped and left, had already sorted somewhere to go. Also the house is now rented out so I have to give notice to go there.

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Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 06/12/2022 18:14

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 06/12/2022 11:46

It’s not all over chocolate ffs, it’s the straw that broke the camel’s back!

You’ll never be shot of him living where you do, I’d go to your lovely new house that’s yours, you’ve suffered enough!

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Well yes that's true. He likes to regularly remind me that it's his house I'm living in.... Despite paying half the mortgage and bills and having my name on the deeds!! Gotta earn my keep though to be so lucky as to live here....

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Nanny0gg · 06/12/2022 22:37

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 10:57

All this over some chocolate. Dear lord

Did you miss comprehension lessons at school? Or just reading?

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 22:46

Nanny0gg · 06/12/2022 22:37

Did you miss comprehension lessons at school? Or just reading?

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If you're going to be insulting at least try and be a bit more creative.😴

OP was about chocolate

AngelontopoftheTree · 06/12/2022 23:07

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 22:46

If you're going to be insulting at least try and be a bit more creative.😴

OP was about chocolate

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Yes, but if you'd read even just the OP's posts you'd immediately see it's so much more than that. It's disingenuous to assert that the op is over reacting to a bit of chocolate.

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 23:09

AngelontopoftheTree · 06/12/2022 23:07

Yes, but if you'd read even just the OP's posts you'd immediately see it's so much more than that. It's disingenuous to assert that the op is over reacting to a bit of chocolate.

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I'm not going to apologise for having a life and lacking the time to peruse through a 7page thread.

Have at it though

Herejustforthisone · 06/12/2022 23:11

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 23:09

I'm not going to apologise for having a life and lacking the time to peruse through a 7page thread.

Have at it though

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You’ve embarrassed yourself.

AngelontopoftheTree · 06/12/2022 23:16

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 23:09

I'm not going to apologise for having a life and lacking the time to peruse through a 7page thread.

Have at it though

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How to see all the OP's posts - underlined for you, so you don't waste any time.

To think it's not on for H to eat dds chocolate.
BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 23:17

Herejustforthisone · 06/12/2022 23:11

You’ve embarrassed yourself.

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Impossible. I don't give much weight to strangers on the Internet / forum dwellers.

Good on you for maintaining your prestige reputation on here though. Keep it up

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 23:19

AngelontopoftheTree · 06/12/2022 23:16

How to see all the OP's posts - underlined for you, so you don't waste any time.

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Very generous of you. But I can't promise I'll invest my limited time on this planet trying to understand the issues of Internet strangers.

Herejustforthisone · 06/12/2022 23:27

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 23:17

Impossible. I don't give much weight to strangers on the Internet / forum dwellers.

Good on you for maintaining your prestige reputation on here though. Keep it up

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Why are you here?

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 23:29

Herejustforthisone · 06/12/2022 23:27

Why are you here?

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Why is that any of your business,

Nanny0gg · 07/12/2022 00:39

BabyOnBoard90 · 06/12/2022 22:46

If you're going to be insulting at least try and be a bit more creative.😴

OP was about chocolate

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Don't need to be creative. Try reading ALL the OP's posts and you might understand tht it wasn't about chocolate. Or carry on missing the point

BabyOnBoard90 · 07/12/2022 00:41

Nanny0gg · 07/12/2022 00:39

Don't need to be creative. Try reading ALL the OP's posts and you might understand tht it wasn't about chocolate. Or carry on missing the point

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I'd rather that than over invest my finite time on this planet on the issues of an Internet stranger.

But you enjoy yourself