Page 4 | To think it's not on for H to eat dds chocolate.

Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 2022-12-02T11:49:06+00:00

Dd started her period yesterday, first one. I bought her a massive bar of galaxy as a little gift as she was a bit upset. She has had one line of it last night and taken one in her lunch box for school today as a treat. Husband has eaten all but one line of it, do over half the bar. I'm furious and think it's massively not on. He thinks it's chocolate and was left out so fair game.... He knew the reason for the chocolate and that it was something special for her. Dd2 knew not to touch it and hasn't even asked for any as she knew it was dds little treat and not for her (if she'd asked dd1 would def have shared)

RewildingAmbridge · 02/12/2022 13:32

I would replace it, but let her know he ate it, I'm pretty sure she knows he's an arsehole so this won't change that. You can make things right for her without covering his behaviour and complete lack of empathy.

Greenginghamdress · 02/12/2022 13:36

Not on. Selfish. I don't think men get the whole starting your period thing. Come to think of I'm pretty sure my DF did something similar when I was young and didn't think anything of it.

Please replace it for your DD, let her know he ate it. Hope DD is ok.

kateandme · 02/12/2022 13:38

“Dd here you. Good thing is you get a new full bar.bad thing I’m afraid is because your dad ate it. But you know…”

BatshitBanshee · 02/12/2022 13:41

Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 02/12/2022 13:31

That's exactly it, any food is fair game. He literally takes food off my plate or out my hand. Then I'm the bad one if I get pissy cos there's more, even if there isn't actually more available. He even ate my food on my wedding day cos I went to the loo.... He doesn't care about food so doesn't see how anyone else can. I have a hidden cupboard of food for things like a party next weekend that he can't have cos it would be long gone if I told him he couldn't have it, he'd just see that as part of the game.

Slap his hand every time he reaches for your food!! Holy Christ a dog wouldn't be so fucking brazen. Hope the chocolate makes him shit himself.

PinkArt · 02/12/2022 13:45

He doesn't care about food so doesn't see how anyone else can
He does care though. He cares a lot. What he doesn't care about is how his actuins impact others.
Someone who didn't care about food wouldn't steal his wife's food on their fucking wedding day! He might glance over and for a split second think, oh she's not finished yet, but that would be it. A minor observation and nothing more. Someone who does care thinks she's not finished, that's mine now because I'm more important than her and everyone else.

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Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 02/12/2022 13:47

Yes you're right. I do still slip into making excuses for him. He does know he just doesn't care

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JestersTear · 02/12/2022 13:49

Has he got some sort of MH issue which would explain the lack of empathy?
No excuse as you can learn what's right/wrong and polite/rude, but I was just wondering.
Clearly, the sooner you can leave him, the better for everyone.

diddl · 02/12/2022 13:56

Well when Op's daughter finds herself with a new bar she'll know that her dad ate it won't she?

Couldn't she have just have kept it in her room?

Or would he have searched for it knowing that it was in the house?

Goldbar · 02/12/2022 14:01

Does he buy anything for himself, OP? Beer, fizzy drinks, chocolate? Anything he particularly likes?

I'd dispose of it as he buys it before he has a chance to eat/drink any of it. That beer he bought? Shame you got thirsty poured it down the sink? His crisps?Chocolate? Box of biscuits he won in the work raffle? All gone....It's only food, isn't it? So he should just suck it up, like he expects everyone else too.

Nanny0gg · 02/12/2022 14:04

Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 02/12/2022 12:38

Very much. He says he can't think about how it made me feel. He feels that seeing as how he is here and not with her I should be eternally grateful and never upset or mention it ever again

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Point out that actually he isn't that much of a prize so it doesn't work like that.

DivineHypertension · 02/12/2022 14:04

as expected these replies are bat shit

its chocolate, most parents will eat some of their kids chocolate at some point.

In his shoes I’d not be replacing it either.

catandcoffee · 02/12/2022 14:04

OP good luck with leaving this arsehole.
💐

Nanny0gg · 02/12/2022 14:05

Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 02/12/2022 13:31

That's exactly it, any food is fair game. He literally takes food off my plate or out my hand. Then I'm the bad one if I get pissy cos there's more, even if there isn't actually more available. He even ate my food on my wedding day cos I went to the loo.... He doesn't care about food so doesn't see how anyone else can. I have a hidden cupboard of food for things like a party next weekend that he can't have cos it would be long gone if I told him he couldn't have it, he'd just see that as part of the game.

Wow! I hope your plan to LTB comes to fruition soon, I couldn't live with that

Beefcurtains79 · 02/12/2022 14:07

DivineHypertension · 02/12/2022 14:04

as expected these replies are bat shit

its chocolate, most parents will eat some of their kids chocolate at some point.

In his shoes I’d not be replacing it either.

And here he is! Hi OP’s selfish cunt husband.

Nanny0gg · 02/12/2022 14:07

DivineHypertension · 02/12/2022 14:04

as expected these replies are bat shit

its chocolate, most parents will eat some of their kids chocolate at some point.

In his shoes I’d not be replacing it either.

If you can't be arsed to RTFT then at least read the OP's posts.

If you can't be arsed to do that then keep quiet and contemplate who might be the batshit one. (Clue: it's not 99% of the posters)

Goldbar · 02/12/2022 14:07

DivineHypertension · 02/12/2022 14:04

as expected these replies are bat shit

its chocolate, most parents will eat some of their kids chocolate at some point.

In his shoes I’d not be replacing it either.

And on this reasoning, what are you going to say to your children when they start drinking your expensive alcohol? And then they don't replace it either.

healthadvice123 · 02/12/2022 14:09

He should replace it yes , oj hes eaten it and a grown man can eat however much chocolate before 10 am .
But as its someone elses he should replace
Tbf in our house chocolate is fair game if some in fridge anyone will eat it, but always replace or let the owner know etc

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Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 02/12/2022 14:12

DivineHypertension · 02/12/2022 14:04

as expected these replies are bat shit

its chocolate, most parents will eat some of their kids chocolate at some point.

In his shoes I’d not be replacing it either.

I have never and would never do that. Honestly, I'd never take something that wasn't mine. Not from anyone, she isn't lesser than me just because she is my child. I'll ask and we share things but I'd never eat it while she was out at school. She is 12 not 2 she is going to know it's gone

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WiddlinDiddlin · 02/12/2022 14:13

Ohhhh I'd be cooking steak dinners for everyone but ensuring there is no steak on his - because food doesn't matter, he can get some more later..

Dessert for everyone but not him... doesn't matter, only food.

I can be a petty petty bitch when necessary.

Winterpetal · 02/12/2022 14:14

He’s time to replace before she gets home from school

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Bogiesaremyonlyfriend · 02/12/2022 14:16

healthadvice123 · 02/12/2022 14:09

He should replace it yes , oj hes eaten it and a grown man can eat however much chocolate before 10 am .
But as its someone elses he should replace
Tbf in our house chocolate is fair game if some in fridge anyone will eat it, but always replace or let the owner know etc

Mostly it is but there are certain things that are special and not for someone else. She was so excited to be given it and now it's all but gone. She should be able to leave something in her own home and expect it to be there when she gets back. She left it out as she was rushing to get stuff ready for school

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jackstini · 02/12/2022 14:18

Just read there was other chocolate available for him to eat anyway - so yes he is a double shit for eating that bar bought specifically for your dd, especially when he bloody knew the reason!

He's mean, spiteful and nasty, and I can't wait until you are able to be rid of him - keep working on it

Meanwhile I would get a lovely takeaway and more chocolate for the 3 of you tonight. He can dream on if he thinks he's getting any

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 02/12/2022 14:19

I was going to say is there any way you can reframe it in a way he can understand. Like anything that's precious to him...for example his kids will be starting to drive in a few years, would he be happy if they took his car instead of theirs because 'dad isnt using it and it was just sitting there, what's the issue'

But then I saw your update "He has very little ability/want to understand anyone else. He forgot to feed them when he left me for another woman cos he didn't feel hungry...."

And i think he sounds like a nob, in which case you just need to accept his behaviour and mitigate impact on kids, or leave him

newtb · 02/12/2022 14:20

How about exlax left on the side, out of the wrapper, just in the foil?

poefaced · 02/12/2022 14:20

YANBU. He is a thieving, cheating twat.

I grew up in a very large family and learnt to hide my treats from older greedy siblings.

But my dad had my back, he would never have taken my chocolate, nor my mum.