To think it's not on for H to eat dds chocolate.

[Bogiesaremyonlyfriend]

Dd started her period yesterday, first one. I bought her a massive bar of galaxy as a little gift as she was a bit upset. She has had one line of it last night and taken one in her lunch box for school today as a treat. Husband has eaten all but one line of it, do over half the bar. I'm furious and think it's massively not on. He thinks it's chocolate and was left out so fair game.... He knew the reason for the chocolate and that it was something special for her. Dd2 knew not to touch it and hasn't even asked for any as she knew it was dds little treat and not for her (if she'd asked dd1 would def have shared)

Yes. Very much so. He has very little ability/want to understand anyone else. He forgot to feed them when he left me for another woman cos he didn't feel hungry....

Bloody hell.

Get some more chocolate for your DD, and tell your kids not to leave their treats anywhere he'll find them.

Probably need a whole other thread for 'why are you still with this person?'.

(((HUG))))

How much longer do you think you'll need to live with emotionally vacant twat??

what do you need to happen before you can leave?

how old is DD?

I'd replace it, she's going to notice it's a new one. I'd explain dickhead thought it was fair game so to put this one in a drawer in her room as the twat can't even be trusted to keep his paws off her chocolate! Does she know you're working on leaving??

He sounds like a twat to be honest @Bogiesaremyonlyfriend

Let him explain to DD where it is, let her show him that she’s upset. But personally if it was me, I’d have another bar for her that you can go and give without him knowing. Maybe do a wee treat night for you and the DDs and don’t involve him 🤷🏻‍♀️

Selfish, uncaring bastard.

Let DD see him for who he is. You can always replace it after that.

I would replace it. However, I’d do something, which will upset him to drum the point home. What do you do for him or what could you deprive him of that would upset him? It could be that go out for a meal with your kids and don’t invite him or something this weekend. I’m not saying to do this out of spite btw but to draw a parallel. And what are you doing with him anyway? The message you’re sending to your 2 girls is not good.

What a horrible and greedy man. Who takes chocolate from someone without asking, let alone their own daughter knowing why it was bought. She will be looking forward to her chocolate bar and will be so upset. I'd replace it OP and pretend it never happened. It's awful that it's up to you and he would deserve the consequences, but she might always remember this moment as very negative instead of the lovely caring gesture it was. Sounds like he won't even register her upset feelings.

Is that how he sees his affair?

You want to OP to LTB because her DP nicked their kids chocolate?!

It’s twattish OP but is he embarrassed and trying to style it out? Not that that’s an excuse, but anyway get him to apologise and replace - don’t do it for him, tell them
both he’ll do it.

I know you didn’t ask this, so sorry for the unasked for opinion, but I am not sure about buying chocolate to cure emotional upset. It can just become a unhelpful habit, is all..

@AccioChocolate

ah I see - there is some other thread, I though you were referring only to chocolate theft, sorry.

@Bogiesaremyonlyfriend I remember your other thread ( there's probably more than one!) and I know this is the tip of the iceberg.
💐 for you 🍫for your DDs.

Got one. Part of the reason is knowing he can't look after them without me....

I’m a bit baffled. It is just chocolate. Its easy to go get some more.
I think everyone except the DH is a little too emotionally attached to a bar of chocolate.

Very much. He says he can't think about how it made me feel. He feels that seeing as how he is here and not with her I should be eternally grateful and never upset or mention it ever again

Er, it’s not about the chocolate though. Is it?

It’s about a grown man who doesn’t care about his daughter’s feelings and put himself first.

He's an unempathetic fat fuck and you need to fuck him off.

God what a class A prick.

He's a complete knob. Who the hell does this and doesn't even care enough to replace it?
I'm sorry you feel you can't leave him tbh.

I hope you do manage to leave this knob @Bogiesaremyonlyfriend

best of luck

I actually want some chocolate now as Auntie Flo decided to visit me early but this isn’t my first rodeo. I’ve worked out (for this thread) that I’m on approximately my 400th period. If that doesn’t warrant a big fuck off bar of chocolate I don’t know what will 😁

Next time he leaves his bank card unattended give it to dd and tell her to go on a shopping splurge. It was left out so it's fair game right?!

Haha, one Easter my dad ate my big easter egg - had to save until after easter as I had swimming national champs.

I'm 36 and I still bring it up!

I hope he gets man boobs with all extra calories coming from this chocolate.

Yes definitely deserving of a big bar of chocolate!!

What a drama over nothing. Just get him to replace it or you replace it

Honestly in this situation if I already knew DH was a twat, I'd add it to the pile of irritations and replace it for DD's sake.
And I'd declare open doors on any of DH's chocolate anywhere in the house from now on.

I knew this would be you before I even clicked on it (waves to sister!). Out of all of the awful husbands on MN, I just knew this was him! Of course he bloody ate it, just like he does with everything else. At least she has you to make things right. If you did do what a PP says and take them for a day out without him, you know he’d go mad! Sending hugs to you and X.