To be annoyed about a woman staying at DPs house overnight

[Shoulda]

woman From work who he’s good friends with. He’s stayed at hers before(in her bed which I told him I wasn’t happy about) but now she’s staying at his house tonight. He lives at his mums at the moment so she will be there too. She will be staying in the spare room. I’ve brought it up with him before and he knows it doesn’t sit right with me. I trust him but it just feels disrespectful. We have a baby who lives with me and I stay at his house 2-3 nights per week or he comes to my house.
Do I bring this up again or just stay quiet?

I feel sorry for the kids with this level of maturity in the relationship :/ "My forever"? A relationship of convenience? Wtf.

All depends on how much you trust this person. I have a friend who I've known since I was in uni. We used to share a bed all the time but never been any feelings of intimacy between us. He stays at mine regularly now and did when I had a partner. He comes over, we have dinner and long chats, bottle of wine and he sleeps in my son's room (if son is with me he sleeps with me in my bed). There's no norm when it comes to situations like this, all depends on your set up. Do you think they have feelings for each other? Are you worried they'll have sex? I know if I reached a point in my relationship where I was worried about my partner having an intimate relationship with another woman it would be over, as trust isn't there.

I'm sure I've seen this before.
Even so, it's got red flags all over it.

Well, there you go: get regular maintenance payments sorted and leave the bloke alone.

He's in his mid-20s and wants to live a normal mid-20s life, you're considerably older and you don't seem to actually want a relationship anyway?

Everybody wins (apart from the unfortunate kid who's caught in the middle of this weird set-up).

Unless that age group is early teens then I’m afraid not!

I think we’re conditioned to believe what we want sometimes, and convince ourselves something might be normal when we know what’s really going on deep down.

Unfortunately OP this man is almost certainly cheating, or hoping to cheat and, at the very least, is openly disrespecting you. It’s nothing to do with his age. I hope that in time you can see the woods for the trees and find yourself in a loving committed relationship.

You have chosen not to have a conventional set-up, so you do not get to control what he does when he is not with you.

He’s playing at being a grown up and taking you for a mug.

You want a mature relationship but you’re dating a man child.

Move on.

He’s not a DP, he’s a shag buddy.

He is not your partner, just occasional fuck buddy.

He’s way too young for you OP. If he were 35 and you 48 at least he’d have some more maturity. He’s barely out of being a kid himself. Why would you get involved with someone that much younger (maturity wise) than you?

You don't actually want to be with him, it sounds like you just like the occasional childcare? So break up with him, let him have fun and enjoy his time with women who do like him, make sure he pays for and sees child. Job done.

😂sorry you posted just before me

Actually this is a very valid point.

Op you claim you like independence, say you don’t ever want to live with him, that you don’t even want to be with him and he’s not even that involved in either your life, your children’s lives nor the child you have together.

So a) why are you with him, b) why do you care what he gets up to and c) why is it any of your business? You’re really nothing more than fuck buddy’s who had an oops baby.

Move on. Dear god.

WTF, 'broken home'. Stop it, you ninny. Broken home is a useless, stigmatising phrase uttered by people who think themselves superior.

OP's home is not broken, she lives with her children, and her boyf stays over occasionally.

How do you know she”s heterosexual

It very much is broken. Two baby daddies, one half-assing it...

Not a healthy setup for kids. Far from ideal.

Sure, homes are often broken through no fault of the woman, but to plan it out that way and decide to plop another baby with a young broke irresponsible boyfriend of the season is stupid. Plain stupid.

She has a boyfriend

What does his mum think about this? Can’t his ‘mate’ afford a hotel? How fucking weird.

No, it's not.

I'd just tell him it's time to end the romantic relationship and ignore him in that regard and carry on co-parenting and find someone who respects me or just be alone.

I understand that you feel that non-two parent homes are broken. It seems out of step with modern ways of living, but there you go.

The DC home is definitely not ‘broken’. I was married to my ex for 10 years and had 2 DC. We co parent very well now and get on well

Woah judgement much!!! 2 is not a pattern.

In my experience- sometimes the disaster of the relationship isn’t transparently clear; I was married for nearly 10 years with every intention of it lasting forever. We were very happily together for most of it.

second child was the product of a faulty coil. The kids aren’t “poor” because of circumstances, but your judgment is.

That last sentence is about the most unfortunate typo I've ever seen.

So you don’t want to live with him but you were happy to have his baby and are happy to dictate which guests he has in his house? You’re either in or out.

He's not, I think the term is more "friends with benefits". Except this one seems entitled to more benefits than most.