Asked to borrow some money from DP over Xmas period

[Ajaal]

Hi, me and DP have been together for 8 years. We have a 1 year old child and I work part time and care for our child, him full time.
We both pay into the joint account, him obviously more than me but I contribute what I can. After paying the joint account, my phone bill, my car tax monthly payments I am currently only left with about £150 per month to live on which has to pay for my fuel and daily living expenses. This month I have nearly run out because of Christmas and buying people presents. I asked him if I would be able to borrow some money and then pay it back to him after pay day, so that I would be able to go out to my works Christmas dinner. He had a less that happy reaction to me asking for some money.
Am I being unreasonable? He seems to think I am living a life of some sort of luxury ..... which couldn't be further from truth

He didn’t have to. He just did. The purse was in the drawer so he could get it any time he wanted to.

Wider issue here. You probably should have discussed together what you are spending as a family on Christmas presents.

But in long run, why did you agree to work part time (so compromise career options and progression and earn less) to look after his child when you don’t have an equal share to the family income and aren’t married. I just don’t understand why any woman would agree to this.

Also consider marriage, even if at registry office.

@TheOrigRights because we don’t have a joint account as we aren’t married yet so if he has his card I need to get him to transfer it to mine. But like I said it’s not often I need to as he usually gives me money anyway

You don't have to be married to have a joint account.
I can see your set up works for you, but it still makes me feel uneasy thinking of you not having direct access to the household finances.
What if you're skint but can't get hold of your partner?

What's marriage got to do with a joint account?

I agree with you