To ask for no photos/videos to be taken at school performance?

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DD can’t be in photos/videos online. There are genuine reasons for this. School are very good and I think would put a ban in place if I (or any other parent) asked.

In previous years I have kept her home on special nursery/school days where photos/videos might be taken.

Over the summer, DD really wanted to join in and school allowed photos/videos and asked parents to keep them off SM but unsurprisingly this was ignored.

I get it, I really do. I would love a picture/video of DD having fun/performing with all of her friends but we just can’t.

Do I deny other parents/grandparents/children that pleasure by asking for no photos/videos or yet again have DD miss out completely?

We have no school memories of any events because one child could not be filmed or photographed. Rather than put other plans in place. The school simply banned all photography and videos, that included the child, even official services.by school. So we have no memories of those precious moments to cherish. While I do understand why it may be possible, I feel it was very unfair to have no primary school memories captured for future reference. Blurring out the child may have been a better option.

@TheHumanExperience where you not able to take before photos of your own child in costume?

do you not have any other photos of your child from primary school period or was a photo of them in the school play the only important moment?

you clearly do have memories because you remember the events.

isn’t it nice that a child themselves actually has memories of partictin the event to help them deal with a childhood were they were probably deeply traumatised. It was obviously a real risk to the child if the school did it.

some peoples ignorance and selfishness is staggering

oh I also wonder did you work with the school to develop or her possible approaches? Or just moan without yourself doing anything?

the irony is that people as entitled and selfish as you would
be the very first to impose such a ban if it was your child at risk

TheHumanExperience

I can remember and have memories of my nativity and Christmas shows, yet grew up in the 1960s. It just wasn’t possible & people didn’t bring cameras to events like this.

I have loads of memories of events I couldn't photograph. I remember DD dropping baby Jesus. I remember older DD finally having the confidence for her first line (5 words) in Yr3. We have photographs in costumes, with no other children in. I also can remember the school needing guards to protect pupils and needing ID cards to get close to it...

I can also remember not having to watch these with dozens of phones waving everywhere.

But you do have memories, you haven't forgotten about the event. You don't have photos. It would be nice to have them, but that's not the purpose of a nativity play.

No you can't just blur out a child because the original image will still exist . It's not reliable enough.

I have lots of memories of my own primary school events. Photos of us dressed up before and after events. Not really at events. There are some videos on VHS in a box somewhere at my parents' but I don't think anyone has watched them in over 20 years.

I mean memories without the photographic evidence. The photos live in albums at my parents'.

Would you be content if the school explained that the reason we ask for no photos is there are genuine reasons why some children cannot be online. And then listed some. Might stop parents. I do see most parents now block out faces of other kids on the video. To be honest no-one put the parent is interested so they might aswell just upload it for themselves only to view if they want a record of it