Christmas Day

[Evans60]

This year has been a busy year and my husband and I have decided to spend Christmas Day just the two of us with our two dogs. He’ll be spending the week before Christmas with his mother at her home as I’ll be working. My husband and I will spend Christmas Day together at home before I spend a few days with family and friends then come back home and us spend a few days together before starting the new working year. My husband has said his mother is still upset she won’t get to spend Christmas Day with us, despite seeing him for a week! We’ve spent the last few years with family on Christmas Day and want this year to ourselves for one day. AIBU?

Is he staying the week before? I wish someone had mentioned it!

@Conkersareback you're a politician aren't you? Nice redirect

No, I'm not a politician.

What's your career/job?

@Conkersareback I'm not answerable to you 😉

So why do you keep asking me, like your bullying mate (although she is worse than you, with the shouting because people don't agree with her), probing questions?

Why do you make assumptions about me?

Just because, I've got a different opinion?

I'll assume you're in an uncaring profession.

Your Christmas day for you to do what you want with, even if she will be alone. She has notice and can arrange to go somewhere else if she wishes. Yes I understand spending Christmas Day alone may be a bit naff but it isn't your responsibility.

Yabu.

Friends don't often invite non family on christmas, not if she has an adult DS who usually sees her. I'd say if you don't include her its likely she'd be alone.

Yabvu about her choosing not to have a partner.

I agree, all these she can go elsewhere!

But maybe, they also have had a busy year and the only time to relax is Christmas Day.

IMO it's family time.

Well it seems to be the bit you keep overlooking. Note you didn't answer my question though, so I'll ask again. Whose happiness is more important on Christmas Day? The DH's as he can spend it with OP or the MiL's?

@Conkersareback The fact that he's staying with his mother the week before Christmas is literally mentioned in the second sentence of the OP.

And shouted at me! I was being sarcastic at the amount of times PPs felt the need to tell me. Like I was unaware and it would change my view, so I agreed with them.

@Conkersareback I'm parroting your comment back at you, even more hilarious that you didn't catch it 😂 assume all you like, you're off the mark though, no surprise there though, you're opinion is in the minority all over the thread

Ha ha ha! You're taking to yourself then, because I wasn't talking to you.

Yes. You've realised I'm not a sheep and won't be bullied into backing down, by silly caps lock warriors.

@Conkersareback well this is embarrassing for you....

Why?

I assumed you meant my last post, not something over 24 hours old. I'd hoped you'd moved on. Obviously not. 🙄

@Conkersareback it wasn't 24 hours old when I wrote it 😂😂😂 I'd gladly move on if you'd only stop tagging me 🤔

What like you're tagging me here?

How odd, to request me to stop?

You've got massive problems with respecting peoples boundaries and shouting at them.

Have you considered your behaviour is inappropriate?

@Conkersareback erm, you tagged me again. It's rude not to respond. Now how about YOUR behaviour is inappropriate as you keep tagging me despite me telling you I'd like you to stop (which you have even acknowledged) but you keep doing it? 🤔

So, it’s just one day for OP to include her, even if it’s not what MIL s child wants. But at the same time it’s totally unreasonable to expect someone else invite her

got it

Sorry sounds a bit like a battle as to who gets your DH on Xmas day. You are right it isn’t your responsibility but at this late stage I suspect she is assuming she will see her son, and you probably can find a compromise?