Hour many hours sleep at weekend

[sleepyrant]

I'm trying to establish what is normal for a grown adult male.

My DH seems to think that 12/ 15 hours is normal.

And that I am a nag/ unreasonable for suggesting that sleeping like a teenager is normal for a grown arsed male.

Should I LTB?

I'm wondering how anyone manages 12hrs sleep during the week. If I did that I'd be going to bed at 6.30 in the evening.

DH usually sleeps 5-7hrs. I'm usually awake by 7 at the weekend. I frequently have a lie in and get up at 9ish on a Sunday.
I just don't see how anyone could function with that much time in bed. When does cooking, cleaning, life stuff happen?

100% agree with this.

I hate to say it but this would drive me nuts. If it happened every once in a while that’s fine as there are a few times out of the year I sleep til noon, usually after long periods of lack of sleep. However I’m usually awake by 7 so I wouldn’t mind if my partner slept til 9 or so but any time later than that would annoy me. But my whole family and most of my friends are early risers.

The kids that are also asleep? 😂

Why does what you want trump what he wants?

Your kids aren't little, they are in bed themselves.

You are the only one with a problem with relaxing weekends.

I bet you hoover and bang the skirtings and slam kitchen cupboard doors because you think just because you are up, everyone else should be too.

Get a weekend morning hobby and leave them to it if you can't have chilled mornings.

You are the only one with a problem with relaxing weekends.

I guess that 100% depends on how you define a relaxing weekend.

Unnecessary sleep followed by chores doesn't cut it for me.

It doesn't only impact on them when they are asleep. Chores are being done on weekend afternoons which should be family time.

I thought you were doing all the chores by yourself all morning? What chores require all afternoon for the both of you to do too?

So take yourself out and do something that you want to do.

You can't make them all get up and do stuff because you think they should be up, when it's 3 against 1 for sleeping in.

where on earth did I say that?

I said in order to have any form of relaxing weekend focussed solely on my husbands waking hours that is what I would have to do.

or alternative the adult male could make more effort and model better habits to the kids.
But no, let the man do just as he pleases, hey?

Model to the kids that are asleep?

Well he got up AFTER the teens today. Great role model!

Why do you keep bringing sex in to it op? It's irrelevant. You are two people, one who likes to spend disposable time sleeping, one who thinks you should both be up doing something.

because it is relevant. If the mother was sleeping all morning and the dad was complaining I don't think the responses would be the same.

And this isn't just at the weekend. Our eldest teen gets up to go to college while his dad is still sleeping most mornings. The man doesn't get up to eat breakfast before logging on for work.

No I know this is the real.

*Now I know this isn't real.

You clearly haven't read the full thread. It is real. He only gets up if he needs to go into the office. Maybe once a month. Otherwise he logs on to work at 8.30 and has breakfast and comes downstairs at about 10am.

And what's wrong with that?

10am is the perfect time for breakfast.

nothing at all if he didn't also need to sleep in till midday at the weekend.

The dogs that he wanted don't agree.
Good job that someone else takes on that responsibility.
Great to model to kids that having breakfast and a shower before working is normal.

because it is relevant. If the mother was sleeping all morning and the dad was complaining I don't think the responses would be the same.

Actually, I suspect he'd be told not to be so controlling and to occupy himself instead of complaining about his wife having a lie-in, especially when his children are teens (and in bed) and therefore don't need any childcare or supervision at that time of day.

Your kids don't care