To date a 22yo

[MightyFishwife]

I’m in my late thirties with one child and I’ve been asked out by a guy I know who’s 22. I like him, and find him attractive (and all the usual blah about him being mature for his age etc) but it’s quite the age gap.

Would it give you the ick, or would you give it a go? Can age gaps like that work out?

Me thinks @TeddyisMydog is telling porkies

And you have 3 older children and a 9 month old with you partner according to your thread last month? 😂

For ease of reference!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4629633-to-ask-for-some-help-with-night-feeds

oh and apparently your pregnant with you 5th child according to another thread you started a couple of weeks ago

Probably not, because he might appear young for his age but being the parent to a 29yr old I can now see why my ex did some pretty immature stuff during our early relationship. But up to you, bit of fun, yes, relationship - no

If you think he's into you and you want a bit of a different experience go for it OP - just be prepared that he might change his mind when his mates take the mick etc!

On yet another thread @TeddyisMydog

Been with my partner 6 years next month, 4 children together.

so you are 28 and have 4 children and are pregnant with your fifth

and your fiancé is 19

I dated a 24 year old when I was 35.
8 years on we’re still together, it works well.

not all young men are fuckbois, some of actually like and respect women and like to be part of a family.

Ha, good work!

@Feef83 you seem to be ASing posters on every thread and triumphantly revealing it.

Oh come on. A two min AS shows the PP taking pure BS.

So you’d prefer posters waste time on commenting about something that is fiction?

That was when I was with my ex

You were with him…. Less than 8 weeks ago

and now you’re engaged and pregnant ?

If you'd actually read that thread, I had a chemical pregnancy. So no I'm not pregnant

TeddyisMydog · 09/09/2022 00:27
Me and my partner have 3 older children and a 9 month old baby.

September 2022 - with partner of 6 years and 3 children and a 9 month old baby.

November 2023 - engaged to 19 year old and pregnant with fifth baby

Feef83 · Today 10:58
TeddyisMydog · 09/09/2022 00:27
Me and my partner have 3 older children and a 9 month old baby.

September 2022 - with partner of 6 years and 3 children and a 9 month old baby.

November 2023 - engaged to 19 year old and pregnant with fifth baby

Better?

@Feef83

Unsure why you are so intent on pulling apart this poster's apparent relationship trajectory?

I was engaged to my now DH when I was twenty seven/eight and he was twenty/twenty one
That was in 2012.

Now at 39 I am married to him with DC and he is 32.
Age gaps happen where the woman is older, albeit still of the same generation.

@ComfortablyDazed Not it's called being judgmental, fat shaming & ableist. I mean, it's fine but at least own it!

Please explain to me how exactly not wanting to date someone overweight because you don't find obese bodies sexually attractive equates to fat shaming. I'll wait...

So you literally would date anyone at all as long as you liked their personality?

what you find physically attractive is completely and utterly irrelevant in who you embark / embarked on a romantic relationship with?

I think if more women realised that it’s fine to be judgemental about negative character and lifestyle traits in a potential partner, we’d have fewer women ending up in miserable relationships with irresponsible, cocklodging no-hopers just because women are taught to be kind and give men a chance.

Wanting a partner who is financially solvent, doesn’t have a load of previous relationship drama or past babymammas floating about, and who takes care of his health and appearance, really is the absolute baseline women should aim for. Fuck to admonishing women for having such basic criteria for the men they share their lives with.

Why? Because on this thread she’s engaged to a 19 year old.

Middle of September she started a thread about her partner of 6 years and the 4 children they have together.

so in the space of 9 weeks…. Met and got engaged with a 19 year old, with 4 young children in tow, the youngest being 9 months old.

that ring true to you?

The age gap of 9 years…. I’m not the least bit bothered about!

@ChristmasisRuined i'm not a charity, I'm not a rehabilitation center and I don't run my romantic life like a business which by law has to offer equal opportunities...

I'll be as picky and as discriminatory as I damn please when I recruit for the position of life partner. And I refuse to be shamed for it.

Grow up and get some standards of your own...

you literally would date anyone at all as long as you liked their personality?

what you find physically attractive is completely and utterly irrelevant in who you embark / embarked on a romantic relationship with?