Am i too old to have a baby?

[rmonroe8]

Obviously i know that biologically once you hit 40 it's classed as old to have baby but many still do with no issues but at what point is it selfish to have a baby?
The reason i'm asking is because i've just hit 43 and want another child with my partner who i have been with for 2 years (i have a 16yo and 7 year old from previous relationships)
Sorry if it sounds like i'm being ridiculous but would it be a struggle having a baby at 43? The thought of being 63 with a 20 year old makes me feel like i'm pushing it abit now. I had my last two at quite average ages so i'm not sure how it would feel this time around, has anyone had any experience having a child in their 40s? Do you regret it?

I’d say too old now. Risks much higher.

Biologically of course it's not IDEAL but then again, there's little in life that is ideal

But it happens, so biology must be ok with it?

Wow the judgement in this 🙄

Biology is also ok with girls as young as 11 or 12 getting pregnant. Just saying...

On MN older children have to resent their much younger siblings, especially if they are half siblings.

In rl even people dislike have shown they love their much younger siblings, even if they are half-siblings.

@Crunchymum No, I was 45 years 2 months 🙂

Apart from a long labour, it's been very easy. I've been very fortunate.

Ha ha yeah!

When Dd was born, they were fighting to cuddle her and feed her. All obsessed with her.

I happened upon this thread and would love to know if u actually had another baby? I'm shocked at some of the comments here saying ur too old! Age doesn't define how well u will parent another child, some people are young 43yr olds and others are older 43yr olds, no one can decide or judge anyone on what's right or when to have another baby. Everyone can have an opinion but there's a way to relay said opinion without being rude, as many have done in this thread.
I'm sure u were well aware of the risks before u even asked this question but again, there are risks at any age depending on the lifestyle of the mother. I'm really disheartened at what iv read here.
If u do somehow get a notification for my comment I'd really love to know whether u decided to have a baby and if these comments swayed ur decision in any way.

I hope the last 2yrs has found u happy and content no matter what u decided to do xxx

I wouldn't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do. If you feel called to have a child then maybe that's a sign.

Totally agree. A lot of judgement here!

What a beautiful story. I am 43 and have no children but wondering if me and my partner could.

I’m 51 and youngest is 16. My energy levels have dropped a bit but could still cope with a 7/8 year old I reckon. Probably not a much younger child as although not experiencing much in the way of perimenopause symptoms, I do find it difficult to sleep quite often. In my mid forties I would have struggled with having to get up in the night for a baby. I don’t think I could have done that and also got up for work.

What makes it ok at 42 but too old a year later at 43? 😂 Sorry, but that's honestly ridiculous.

Sorry but that's ridiculous. What makes it ok in your eyes at 42 but suddenly too old a year later? 😂