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AIBU?

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To keep parking in front of this "drive"?

342 replies

Droppingthekerb · 22/11/2022 15:40

Sorry it's a long one. I'll start off by saying that due to mobility issues I do drive my children to school which is about 1.5 miles from our house. I do not however qualify for a blue badge.

There are several residential streets near the school where people park to take kids to the school. I imagine it is annoying for the people who live there but there are no restrictions on the road in terms of yellow lines etc and generally I'd say people are respectful of the residents. There are a couple of cars who park overhanging the yellow zigzags and some on bends but for the most part people park at the side of the road and don't block driveways. Dropped kerbs are marked with white lines so it is clear where it is ok to park.

I tend to park on the street one up from the school as usually it is quieter and there's more chance of getting a space. Until recently there was a house on the street that had fallen into disrepair with an overgrown front garden. Over the last couple of months there have been tradespeople coming and doing up the house and now the front garden has been paved over. About 2 weeks ago I parked in front of this house and a man came running out of the house opposite shouting at me that I couldn't park there as I was blocking a drive. I had my kids with me and told him I did not appreciate being shouted at in front of them especially as there was no dropped kerb so it wasn't a driveway. There wasn't a car parked on it either. He stormed off back into his house.

A few days later I saw the space was available and as it was raining there were a lot of extra cars on the school run so spots were at a premium. I parked there again and returned to a note on my car not to block driveways.

I don't park there every time as there are other spaces available often before I get to that spot but last week I was running late for pick up and noticed the space was free again - I was feeling a bit petty too by this point. However, there was a police officer speaking to drivers about their parking to ensure it was safe as it was near a school. I parked there and the police officer stopped me and said she'd had a complaint about people blocking the drive. I pointed out there was no dropped kerb and she immediately said, "Oh, you're absolutely right. Carry on."

This morning it was again the only available space but today there was a car on the drive and seemingly new residents. I parked up as usual to find the man from the house opposite screaming at me again in front of my kids that I was blocking the drive and now the new resident of the house coming out to join in. I tried to keep my cool but it is quite intimidating having 2 men shouting at you in public especially with young children. I said I needed to get the kids to school but they were misinformed if they thought it was a drive as it didn't have a dropped kerb and actually he was in the wrong for driving his car over the pedestrian footpath. Neither of them were listening though as they just kept shouting over the top of me.

When I came back to my car he had taken a photo of it and then a photo of me and told me he was reporting me to the police. I again tried to explain about the lack of dropped kerb and he flat out told me that was not true, that he had the right to create a driveway whereever he wanted and that actually parking on the street full stop (driveway or no driveway) was against the law and he should know because he is a lawyer. I told him he was speaking rubbish and to look on the council website as it is very clear.

Up to now I've parked in other spots if they have been available but AIBU to keep parking in front of this "drive" just to make a point because they have pissed me off?

OP posts:
youagainomg · 22/11/2022 15:42

Legally your doing nothing wrong but no I wouldn't park there again, why do you want to cause more aggro for yourself. Set off a little earlier and park somewhere else.

cardibach · 22/11/2022 15:43

I wouldn’t block another car in even if the driveway isn’t ‘official’ as such. And as per PP why do it when it causes you aggro?

OhmygodDont · 22/11/2022 15:43

No drop kerb no drive way. I’d report him the council. They might well come stick a bollard there mine does sometimes when they are feeling extra petty.

I could understand if he was due a drop kerb and you was blocking the tradesmen installing it but his clearly not got it booked in.

OhmygodDont · 22/11/2022 15:44

I wouldn’t leave my car there though. Not worth the risk of damage.

EL8888 · 22/11/2022 15:45

No drop kerb = tough shit in my book. But this person does sound rather unreasonable / unhinged so l would be worried about him damaging your car. And / or escalating in his attempts to intimidate

lastchristmasigaveyoumyfart · 22/11/2022 15:45

Yabu. And you sound ridiculously petty.

AgathaX · 22/11/2022 15:46

Just park somewhere else and save everyone the hassle. School parking must be so annoying for residents.

MilkyYay · 22/11/2022 15:46

I think knowingly parking where you are blocking another car in, is a bit arsehole. However, technically you arent breaking the law due to the absence of the dropped kerb.

Dailymash · 22/11/2022 15:47

While there isn’t a dropped kerb if the person who lives there has asked not to park there personally I wouldn’t (regardless of how politely they asked) Even more so if you’re blocking a car in. No there’s no dropped kerb, no he shouldn’t be driving over the pavement - although he would be doing the same if his kerb was dropped - but in the interests of keeping the peace in front of your children I would find somewhere else to park.

monsteronahill · 22/11/2022 15:48

There's no dropped kerb currently - but if you're doing it to be petty when they've said don't park there, and you know they're annoyed about it and will shout at you - why on earth would you put yourself in that position on purpose to be petty?

HuntingHappiness · 22/11/2022 15:48

They’ve asked you not to, not nicely admittedly but not the point.
Do you just think ‘fuck ‘em, I’m right’ and keep doing it anyway to prove some kind of point?
I’m not thick skinned enough for that tbh so I’m just curious.

ZealAndArdour · 22/11/2022 15:48

Regardless of the dropped kerb, why is it more important than the fruit of your womb get to school than these people have access to get in and out of their drive?

I’ve never heard anything so entitled!

Whoneedsleep · 22/11/2022 15:49

Technically your not wrong but I do think it’s an arsehole move blocking someone’s drive when they are clearly parked on it. I hate people parking outside of my house even though it’s irrational so I can see why he’s annoyed.

MintJulia · 22/11/2022 15:50

EL8888 · 22/11/2022 15:45

No drop kerb = tough shit in my book. But this person does sound rather unreasonable / unhinged so l would be worried about him damaging your car. And / or escalating in his attempts to intimidate

This.

Legally you are right. Report him to the council so that he pays for a dropped kerb and white line. He needs to contribute the same as everyone else.

onemouseplace · 22/11/2022 15:50

ZealAndArdour · 22/11/2022 15:48

Regardless of the dropped kerb, why is it more important than the fruit of your womb get to school than these people have access to get in and out of their drive?

I’ve never heard anything so entitled!

But it isn't a drive - it a a front garden someone has paved over and not paid to have a dropped kerb put in.

I'd carry on parking there, but I'm petty, drive a shit heap and couldn't give a crap if someone gets worked up about something like this.

CakeCrumbs44 · 22/11/2022 15:50

parking on the street full stop (driveway or no driveway) was against the law and he should know because he is a lawyer
He sounds like an idiot. It sounds like he's trying to intimidate you by suggesting he's a lawyer.

You're in the right legally but I would probably just avoid that space in future as it doesn't sound like it's worth the hassle.

Veenah · 22/11/2022 15:50

You're not breaking the law. But purposely blocking someone's car outside their house because they've pissed you off is petty and nasty.

Quveas · 22/11/2022 15:50

cardibach · 22/11/2022 15:43

I wouldn’t block another car in even if the driveway isn’t ‘official’ as such. And as per PP why do it when it causes you aggro?

This.

Just because it isn't illegal is no reason to do it. And if you object to their attitude in front of your children perhaps you could not invite pissing people off? You've admitted you are doing is deliberately, so the consequences are on your head, legal or not on your part. If your car accidentally got damaged how would your mobility be walking home.

And the fact that you are or say you are disabled is irrelevant. If you had a blue badge the advice would be the same. You knew that you were intentionally blocking someone and did it anyway.

CakeCrumbs44 · 22/11/2022 15:51

I also wonder how they would react if it was two burly men in a van parking there, rather than a disabled woman with two children.

HaveANiceFuckingDay · 22/11/2022 15:51

No dropped kerb . Tough luck on his part . Who buys a house near a school anyway and moans about parents parking up . I would never buy a house right near a school for this reason. The police wil do nothing . It's a civil matter and no laws are being broken

Crazycrazylady · 22/11/2022 15:51

Think you're petty and nasty too and the fact that it's constantly the 'only spot ' left mean most people respect the fact that it is a drive way dropped kerb or not .

FooFighter99 · 22/11/2022 15:52

If you don't park there, do other people park there blocking the imaginary driveway?

Also, why is the neighbour so invested? Are they related I wonder...?

YANBU but it doesn't seem to be worth the aggro, report him to the council for making an illegal driveway and just leave them to it

OoooohMatron · 22/11/2022 15:53

Regardless of whether its legal or not, you're acting like a massive dick.

Thesearmsofmine · 22/11/2022 15:58

I vote YABU because it would be a dick move to park there purely to make a point.

amicissimma · 22/11/2022 15:59

You are right. But 'more courageous' than I. And, I suppose, a bit rash.

But I would report him to the Council. Otherwise, where does it end? It already sound as if he thinks he can tell you not to park on the public road at all.