DD's dad wants me to give up pork!

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The father of my child does not eat pork for his own personal reasons. I have always eaten pork and at the beginning of our relationship, made it clear I would still do so. I got pregnant and for various reasons we separated. Throughout my pregnancy, he started demanding I didn't eat pork as he didn't want his child to "eat" pork. I told him I can eat whatever I want and it caused many arguments.

The baby is now a few months old and I exclusively breastfeed her. I have still carried on eating pork and DD's dad is furious about this saying I am going against his wishes about what food he wants his child to consume. I think he is being completely ridiculous and so does my family but wanted some unbiased opinions about who is being unreasonable here?!

They are not together.

“My food choices are none of your concern.” On repeat with no emotion.

Don't let him in your house again. If he wants to see the baby, meet him somewhere neutral.
His behaviour is worrying.
It's none of his business what you eat. He is controlling, with an extraordinary sense of entitlement.

Yet he managed to have sex with a pig eater.

Tell him to fuxk off. No one dictates what you get to eat.

could you consult a solicitor.
forewarned is forearmed.
i don't think you and baby should ever be alone with him.
do you have some beefy relatives/pals who could be around in the interim when he is seeing baby.

Me too

oh dear. Is he on the birth certificate? you're going to have trouble ahead.

In what way "dangerous"?

None of his business what you eat. Although I probably wouldn’t eat pork in front of him, that seems like asking for conflict.

Somewhere that isn't your house, given that he's clearly using his presence there to try and control your behaviour.

That said, if you want to continue with his contact being in your home, you're going to need some very rigid boundaries, on this and anything else he might attempt. The question of what you feed DD once she's eating a solid diet is also going to come up sooner rather than later.

The baby is not eating pork. Digestion reduces the pork to its components - amino acids, fats, etc. He's being ridiculous.

He clearly should never have got into a relationship with you then, if it matters so much. I just feel sorry for your child being in the middle of such pettiness.

He sounds like an absolute fucking nightmare to try to co-parent with. Ugh.

My DH tries to not eat pork, it wouldn't occur to me that his choices should be followed by me or our DC

Tell him that until he can breastfeed his child, you can eat whatever you want toe sure she gets the nutrition she needs.

What an arse. No wonder you split.

I appreciate that everyone is entitled to their own religious views, but you cannot force these on other people. Stand your ground.

I'm assuming his religious views didn't include contraception.

Tbh, I wouldn't care what his reasons were. If he's this worried about his child "eating" pork through you, the mother, he shouldn't have been having sex with a woman who didn't share his beliefs (whatever they are).

Oh. Tell him to fuck off then! 😁

Sorry, typo. 'to make sure'...

I wouldn’t stop eating pork but not sure I would tell him about it. It’s difficult to say how innocent his obsession is.
Any way it would be helpful to have his demand in writing just in case.

I wouldn't eat pigs myself but I think he's using this as another reason to control you. If you give it up I'm sure he'll find another reason to be annoyed.

I wouldn’t stop eating pork but not sure I would tell him about it. It’s difficult to say how innocent his obsession is.
Any way it would be helpful to have his demand in writing just in case.

Why does he know what you eat?

YANBU to eat pork if you want to eat pork whilst you're breastfeeding.

However YABU to listen to other posters that say feed your child pork. You will be co-parenting this child for the next 18 years. There will be times you need to compromise. Pick the hills you want to die on carefully. Make it those that are important to you. Really will it matter that your child doesn't eat pork until they are old enough to decide for themselves?

My ex is Muslim, I'm an atheist, my daughter is "Muslim". By that I mean she doesn't eat pork and has been to the mosque a couple of times. My daughter not eating pork means a lot more to her father than it does to me. I've insisted that she hasn't had her ears pierced and won't until she's 11/old enough to decide for herself and take care of them herself. Not allowing her to fast as an adolescent and teaching her that homosexuality isn't a sin are the battles I'm expecting and preparing for.

I'd just say i don't eat pork and carry on eating it. I can't be bothered with all the fuss and bother.