DD's dad wants me to give up pork!

[GrassIsGreener7]

The father of my child does not eat pork for his own personal reasons. I have always eaten pork and at the beginning of our relationship, made it clear I would still do so. I got pregnant and for various reasons we separated. Throughout my pregnancy, he started demanding I didn't eat pork as he didn't want his child to "eat" pork. I told him I can eat whatever I want and it caused many arguments.

The baby is now a few months old and I exclusively breastfeed her. I have still carried on eating pork and DD's dad is furious about this saying I am going against his wishes about what food he wants his child to consume. I think he is being completely ridiculous and so does my family but wanted some unbiased opinions about who is being unreasonable here?!

Try to get proof of his demands in writing or audio recorded.

As he doesn't live with you I'd just tell him you gave up pork. Then he'll find some other crazed demand to threaten you with. Two harassments constitute grounds for police charges. His bacon is cooked.

go and make a sausage sandwich right now

Why does he even know what you're eating?

Is he controlling in other ways? Not that it makes a difference- he doesn’t get to have a say on what you eat, but wondering if there’s going to be a lot of this kind of thing going forward. If so, you need to figure out your own way of dealing with it and him effectively.

He has come over to see the baby today and I was eating a burger with bacon in.

Ignore him. What you eat is up to you.

When baby is weaned he can decide what she eats if she is ever with him.

I was also going ask how he knows what you're eating. Being separated surely doesn't give him access to your fridge.

Thanks for responses. I was beginning to think I was being unreasonable but reassuring to know I'm not.

Well now I know. Couldn't you tell him to fuck off that it was vegan bacon?

Why?

Just roll your eyes whenever he mentions it and repeat, "Not this again - I've already told you I will eat what I like".

I would have two words for him ....................... FUCK OFF

He's a controlling arse. Your body, your choice.

You aren't harming your child, you are entitled to choose your own food, and what you eat is none of his business.

I'm glad he is your ex :)

What a strangely controlling man he is. Co-parenting with him could be quite a challenge.

While making plans for the future - do enjoy a bacon sandwich or two.

How would he know what you're eating ?
Next time he brings it up just say OK and carry on.

Why is he in your house?

say No to this nonsense - “if you want your child’s mother to follow your food restrictions you should have only slept with woman who share your food restrictions.”

You eat what you want. It's your body.

I don't eat pork, neither do my children but my husband does. He is an adult and can eat what he likes.

Why should she lie? Lying is giving in to his controlling behaviour.

The crossed out version is best - fuck off. That's all that's needed. Clear, concise communication.

I’m with the Fuck off people. He’s a controlling twat

Just to endorse Clarice99 - tell him to F the F off. What a controlling bastard. You are well rid.

I'd be very wary of this man.

My two used to produce the most explosive nappies the day after I ate a hot curry though!

If this is the way he talks to you about your own diet, I'd be very worried about how you can co-parent with him regarding your daughter's diet.

Where else is he supposed to be? I'm not taking her to his house and I'm not dragging my newborn out in the cold, rainy weather to go and meet him somewhere.