Hendo - Feel like crying!

[TeaPlzx]

Hi! First thread here. I'm (F/29) attending a close friends hen do, there's 9 of us staying in a large, swanky cottage (pool, hot tub, sauna, etc.) The bedrooms are made up of multiple king size/double rooms and there's one small room with a bunk bed (designed for kids) and pull-out single (mattress on the floor). I can't express how different this room is to the others, imagine an empty room, with tiny kids bunks and a mattress, that's the extent of it. No wardrobe, no cosy lighting, etc.

Each person has paid approx. £300 for a 2 night stay, including a stripper at the venue and food. Alcohol will have to be purchased separately...
Everyone has been placed in double/king sized rooms (some are sharing, but others not), all with ensuits, however, I've been assigned (without discussion) the small room on my own, without bathroom (will use the "family" shared bathroom). I feel this anger, that I'm paying the same as everyone else, they're all in 5* luxury beds with their own bathrooms and I'm on a pull-out style frame/matress on the floor.

I'm most frustrated that it wasn't even discussed with me, just assigned/assumed I'd take that room. I've briefly raised it with the organiser and she's stated she offered the largest rooms to those sharing (mostly siblings/mums with daughters) and the other two people who aren't sharing (like me), one is pregnant and the other is mother of the stag. Am I unreasonable to still feel upset and not want to be in the tiny bedroom with mattress on the floor? If she feels too embarrassed to allocate that room to MIL, or to herself even, why should I be in there?
I'm really not sure where to go from here, but I'm feeling VERY bitter about it al.

This....absolutely right.

I went on a hen when I was 30 weeks pregnant and got shoved in kids room with bunk beds and single divan bed 🤣 luckily there was an en-suite but I didn’t want to make a fuss 😬

A stripper? Bloody hell, all these mothers and daughters watching a stripper together? The mind boggles.

Op, I think at the least the others should foot bill for your drinks between them- that way you can get so pissed you won’t notice 🤷🏼‍♀️🤗

You shouldve paid a bit less for having that room. Imagine going to a hotel, a prestige suite and a basic room would never be priced the same. Same concept here. Very unfair.

I think some of the comments on here are a bit unkind. I feel for you op.

I do think that there should have been a reduced rate for that room. But the problem is if you make an issue of it now and they agree, they are going to have to go to everyone and ask for an extra £x for you which could make you feel quite awkward and make it into more of a ‘thing’! Horrible situation.

hope the weekend is better than you’re expecting!

I agree - can't you share with your pregnant friend? Pregnancy doesn't stop most women sharing a bed with their partner after all!

I'd much rather have my own room than share a bed. Some people got lucky, like pregnant friend, but organiser is sharing a bed.

But to be fair, in that scenario the rooms that are being shared cost £600 each as opposed to OPs £300.

Yes very poor organisation. What SHOULD have happened, as the organiser knew one room was of much lower standard, I’d that at the outset prices were set at say £320 each plus the cheaper room at £200 or however the figures work out. She could then have asked for a volunteer failing which she allocates it but at least the bitter pill is softened by the discounted price.
To allocate without discussion and expect you to pay the same isn’t on.

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That's fine but you should not be subsidising everyone else!

Me too 😂

If pregnant friend is in king size room, can you share with her?

Otherwise you either suck it up or say you feel you should pay less for your room.

This should have been factored in & the amount adjusted according to bedroom allocation. (Not fair at all)

Strippers and hot tubs ? I just wouldn’t go.

I just couldn't get upset about something like this.

I wouldn't get upset about it either. At the end of the day the cost isn't just the room, but food stripper etc. I am normally the organiser but I prefer not to share a room so sometimes get the odd single bed or sofa bed when away with friends and we always divide the cost equally. At the end of the day it's only for the sleeping bit. I paid for everyone for my 50th and still ended up sharing a bed. As long as there are enough bathrooms so noone has to queue. Just open the champers and get stuck in.

Cheeky bastards. They should have booked somewhere with enough decent rooms. If they’d have done that though, they would either have had to pay more to get a place that still had a pool, sauna etc or maybe had to do without the pool or sauna.

They’re not bothered if you’re upset by putting you in the shit room, so don’t worry about upsetting them. If anyone thinks you’re moaning unnecessarily, then they can swap with you. Bet they won’t swap.

Speak up. You get a better room or a discount.

I’d message/chat to those in double rooms by themselves and ask if you can go in with any of them.

Agree !

Agree with the others that it should be you to take the room but definitely pay less! And she should have told you about it.

I slept horrendously when pregnant, moving around constantly and would be going to bed much earlier than anyone else. So I can see why she’d be alone.

I'm gobby. And I'm from Yorkshire so i like to get my money's worth. And i would absolutely saying that i wasn't happy about paying the same to sleep on a mattress on the floor without my own bathroom as someone with a lovely king size and an en suite.

And that the organiser is a fucker for a) even thinking it's ok for that situation (the payment being the same) and b) not discussing it pre arrival.

I'd pay more to sleep on the floor of a garage as long as I didn't have to share with someone who wasn't my mum, sister, daughter or very best friend.