...to ask what my wife's thought process is, in this situation?

[WalkingOnTheCracks]

Married twenty years. Pretty early on I mentioned that I don't like v-neck jumpers. I mean, it's not a huge deal. It wasn't mentioned in the wedding speeches. It's not something I felt I had to get straight even before we got serious. It's just one of those things that comes up at some point, and it came up within the first year or so, I guess.

But every couple of years, my wife will buy me a v-neck jumper for Christmas. I open it and I don't need to say anything, because she gets in first.

"I know it's a v-neck, but it's such a lovely blue!"

"I know you don't like v-necks, but it's cashmere!"

"...it's just perfect for your eye colour."

"...I thought you could wear it to Sally and Mike's next week."

"...it's from Harrods!"

They always end up being taken back.

But - leaving aside the question of why I don't like v-necks, which I think I'm allowed - what I'm interested to know is what she's thinking when she buys them. Does she think, "Well, this one's just irresistible. Even WoTC will love this." Or does she just think that my aversion to v-necks is a passing phase? Or not worthy of consideration?

She doesn't like sarongs. If I persisted in the attempt to buy her a sarong every other Christmas, there'd be ructions.

Why does she keep at it?

I think @fdgdfgdfgdfg has cracked it - she's responding to a deep visceral urge she isn't aware of and can't explain.

Tell her that you love it so much that it's your new favourite jumper, so as a token of how much you adore her you would like to give it to her, and she must wear it all the time to show much you mean to her...

Disclaimer: It's possible that this is a technique that is only used in teen dating [eyes suspect hoodie from random boy that DD now won't take off]

Do you want to wife swap? I only like round necks and my (ex) would insist on v necks.
we didn’t divorce because of it 🤷🏼‍♀️😉
no accounting for peoples bad taste

mind you my dd was worse…v neck and tie 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Have you been on mumsnet long? The majority of threads on here need nust one respond, which is, "What did they say when you spoke to them?"

Most of the time, threads are about things which no one else can help with. They just need to speak to the person.

But I bet you sont post this response to all those female OPs, do you?

In this case, he has asked her. She has no answer and keeps doing it so he's having a moan on a forum designed for having a moan. Like every woman who posts a similar thing.

Stop being a dick just because it's a man. Only be a dick when they deserve it.

Sorry but this thread made me honk laughing. Im ashamed to say I do this a bit with my DH, see something that will suit him and buy it. He grumbles but puts it on then decides he likes it and wears it all the time. Can't win.

She's not buying it to wind you up, she's hoping you love this stuff, but she's not listening. So buy her sarongs. Its the only way. Every time there's a v neck - sarong the shit out of it.

I don't like v necks on men either. A short body, broad shoulders or beer gut isn't disguised by a school pullover neckline. A round neck with an open collar underneath is much better.

😂 @ come downstairs in nothing but a v neck. Like a Winnie the Pooh sex game 😂

Maybe what you wear is just hideous and she really wants you to stop dressing that way.

After 20 years of v-neck induced torture.
I'd fight fire with fire.

So,

This Christmas would be the ugliest sarong you can find. Plus a bandana and a neck scarf for good measure.

I'm not well-liked BUT I'm happy and I haven't got a shit present yet.

@ come downstairs in nothing but a v neck. Like a Winnie the Pooh sex game

crying 😂😂

😂😂😂 at winne the pooh sex game!

🤣🤣🤣
would that be nothing but the v neck? What about a nice pair of woolly socks on too 🤣🤣🤣

I could imagine the shitstorm here if man did the same to one of MNtters. Thinks she looks better in plunge bra, keeps buying her for Christmas- how on earth this bastard is telling you what to wear etc. etc.

My mum does this but she has this weird thing where she thinks stupidity is endearing.

But some people don't care about fashion, trying to make something wear something because it's "fashionable,if they don't want to, is awful. It could be that OP, like me and probably many others, things a lot of the current trends look awful and quite like not being in trend. I genuinely don't mean that nastily, I just can't think of anything worse than being in fashion, I like my own style.

Woolly socks will be a must surely as the cost of heating is so high and he wouldn’t want to get chilly.

I quite like men in black polo necks - not like the one up the posts. I bought my husband one once but the wool made him itch madly and his scratching like a monkey completely ruined the mental image I had. I didn't buy him another one though. I have also heeded his advice that cardigans are not manly.

Don't waste money on sarongs - just wrap up the v-necks for next year and give them back to her.

Either that or give her a bowling ball with holes cut to fit your fingers - and with your name embossed on it. And a 'Best of The Cheeky Girls' CD single.

she wants to tell you what to wear. She thinks she knows 'style' better than you. My dh hates polo necks. Cant stand the feeling around his neck, says it makes him feel like he is wearing a tie in his day off. He looks gorgeous in them. Stunning. So cuddly and handsome etc etc. But why would I buy him something he hates wearing? That would be like asserting myself ABOVE him in some weird way. When I buy him a gift? Nah, that is just really off.

😂

She thinks she knows better than you and that you will eventually realise she's right. I'd have forgiven her the first time - sometimes I do change my mind once I've tried something on. But obviously after her first few attempts she should have given up and stopped trying to impose her will on you.

I wouldn't LTB over this, but you can get your point across by making a bigger and bigger joke out of it every time she does it, so she will see how ridiculous she is being and how pointless it is.

Lol that you think a plunge bra and v neck jumper are in any way like the same thing.

OP please don't buy her sarongs, not even nice ones, it's just childish and passive aggressive. Talk to her BEFORE she gets the chance to get carried away and buys one and tell her you don't want her to buy you one. Tell her it would be like you buying her a sarong every year that you know she doesn't like and how would she like that?

She thinks she'd fancy you in it so overall a win for you both.

I know this isn't relevant to the question but a lot of people are answering assuming OP is a man - have they actually said this anywhere?

I think you should wear the v neck on your LOWER body, with your legs down the sleeves. The V neck part will make it a sort of open crotch long-johns effect with his gentlemans's excuse me swinging around freely. It'll keep his legs warm too, if heating bills are a bit high.

Tell her if she likes it that much she should wear it.🤣🤣🤣