To go and pick SS up from school when his mum has said no?

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More of a wwyd

Teen SS is due here tonight, he's been messaging me and has told me his mum told him to cook his own dinner last night so he did but started to feel unwell, he had the runs 2 or 3 times and told his mum but she sent him to school as it's probably food poisoning not a contagious bug (food poisoning is still just as bad though!) he asked me to pick him up as he feels unwell, he said he's told the school he feels sick but they told him to see how he feels later but because he hasn't been sick they won't send him home, he said he's been to the toilet a few more times but his last teacher had gotten annoyed at him keep asking to go which I can see from her point of view she probably thinks he's trying to skip the lesson. He has her again after lunch and she's told him she won't allow him to go during that lesson.

He won't tell them he has an upset stomach as it's embarrassing (it obviously isn't but he's a teen), I've told him to lie and tell them he's been sick but he said they won't believe him if they haven't seen it but he's begging me to pick him up as he just wants to go to bed. I've asked his mum what she suggests and she hasn't been helpful as she's said he can stay in school if he isn't going to tell them what's wrong with him and she's suggested he's probably lying as she knows he doesn't like Wednesdays at school.

I've not seen him today but I over the messages I do think he is telling the truth as he never messages me whilst at school (and he isn't supposed to be). I haven't spoken to DH as he hasn't answered his phone.

I'm thinking of going and telling them he has a doctors appointment but I know his mum won't be happy but if he is telling the truth I'll feel a bit mean later if I make him stay.

It’s 2.30. But the time you get there op it will be home time. He can wait in the school office or near a loo until that time and then no one gets into trouble.

Also can't some forms of food poisoning be contagious depending on what has caused the food poisoning

I should have added, I’d want to pick him up. Has his mum told you no or him?

You were always going to do this, weren't you? Why ask randomers then. His mum said no, but you don't care. Good luck with that.

The kid knows you're a soft touch.

It's not illegal to contact the school and give them information about a student ffs.

Ex-husband's partner (now wife) has filled in forms for emergency leave for the kids, has picked them up in emergencies, etc. She's on the emergency contact list.

Well done.
I'd be fine with someone on the list picking up my unwell child.
No child wants to be embarrassed at school sitting themselves.

Shame the father has let him down in this case.

Op wasn’t contacted by the school as an “Emergency contact”. Her stepson messaged her despite the school saying he didn’t need to go home and his teacher saying she won’t allow him to leave the afternoon lesson.

So the mum has said no and the dad isnt contactable due to being at work and the DAD has let him down?

Hows that?

I would tell his mum how would she feel going to work with food poisoning and being told to stay there? How bloody heartless of her!!

This OP, do not get involved.

Poor boy.

He doesn't normally contact the OP so of course she is concerned.

I honestly cannot ever imagine sending a sick child to school or telling him to get over it with a sick stomach when he contacted me.

So mean.

If he isn't regularly ditching school, why wouldn't people give him the benefit of the doubt?

His mum has said no, so no.

The question was whether it would be unreasonable for her to go and pick SS up from school when his mum has said no. I said that I'm not sure but it might be illegal. I didn't say anything about calling the school.

I'm curious though is there a reason why your response was so nasty?

But you're making up a scenario that just didn't happen and so is purely irrelevant.

Maybe you didn't read the rest of the OP's posts but she had phoned the school to let them know what was happening, so it looked like your reply was saying that was maybe illegal.

Not sure why you think it was a nasty reply

He's playing you against his mother and you fell for it. Neither of his parents will be happy with this, and it may well spell the end of your relationship.

I’d phone the school. Say SS has an upset stomach, not vomited but has diarrhoea. You suspect food poisoning but are concerned about contamination as he obviously can’t disinfect toilet after use. To avoid annoying teacher this lm and maybe passing on anything you feel it’s best to collect him, then you’ll assess him at home. No need to lie. Problem sorted.

I wasn't.

It was the FFS in your post. Maybe I'm just feeling raw and oversensitive at the moment but I don't need shit like that today.

Well, food poisoning is contagious in that you could pass on the shits or sickness to someone else so that’s not ideal. But, he’s not yours- this isn’t your battle to fight. Stay out of it.

How has the father let him down when he is at work working? In the vast majority of jobs you can’t have personal mobiles in you.

Thenone who has let him down is the mother!

The child contacted the OP, in this case and you have done this, I would have contacted the school and gave them the info and then asked if they needed you to collect him or not.

How long have you been in His life?

how mother will know him best op

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As it's nearly home time they'll probably just get him to sit in the office and you can pick him up at the end of school. I think I would have called the school too, not so I could pick him up against his mum's wishes but so the school know that there is potentially a problem. Some folk are being way too harsh on the lad.

I' d ring school nurse and tell her what problem is. Ask nurse if she thinks he ought to come home. If she says yes collect him if she says no he has to stay in school.

@Dontbelieveawordofit I wasn't referring to the OP but a number of posters have said you can't take a child out of school if you don't have PR or someone with PR's consent. So I was just asking if a child was ill and needed to go home and no-one with PR was contactable I assume another emergency contact can