To tell her she needs to cancel?

[Chikapu]

My friend has sent me a message telling me she's coming to see me and that she's booked a hotel and flights. I didn't invite her, she's literally taken it upon herself to think that this is ok and that I'll drop everything to accommodate her.
I'm speechless at her cheek tbh and don't want her to come, would I be a bitch to tell her to cancel?

Wow. You're nice(!) @bravelittletiger Friends turning up unannounced for an evening or day isn't too bad. Friends turning up unannounced to stay for a few days when OP is most likely working or may have plans with friends or family is NOT OK!

Does she work? Maybe it was the only time her workplace could give her leave. And maybe she just didn’t think that it would be an imposition on you. Now she knows that it is and she has decided for herself to cancel her trip. A true CF wouldn’t do that, they would just turn up at your door.

It’s really not a big deal. If it had been my friend I would have not been offended (life is just too short to be offended at every trivial thing).

I would have been honest about my availability. I absolutely would not have pretended I wasn’t available just to teach her a lesson, that would be petty.

If you really aren’t available then fair enough you communicated that. But not fair enough to be so offended that she didn’t ask you first because there really was a simple solution and it really was a small oversight on her part.

@ImustLearn2Cook a small oversight

Not even having the decency to check if the OP is available, and expecting them to be at their beck and call for 3 days, as the OP said she expected, is not merely a 'small' 'oversight'. It is fucking rude and arrogant.