To not find my wealthy retired dad's " joke" funny?

[malificent7]

I work nhs shifts. I am really chuffed not to be working over Christmas but when I told my dad he replied " neither are we!" He hasn't worked for 10 years. I wouldn't mind so much if I wasn't struggling with the cost of living etc.

Sort of thing my dads witch of a wife would say to me. The narc.

So would I if I’d retired. I’m always banging on about only having 10 years to go. It’s just a joke

Not funny at all, I’d be annoyed and upset

I think you are probably overreacting but I know exactly where you are coming from. If I speak to another baby boomer convinced that young people could buy a house if only they didn’t buy a coffee every now and again, I’m going to explode. Sodding budget tomorrow will undoubtedly continue to help them avoid paying anything more despite the fact that the wealth is overwhelmingly concentrated in that generation with their paid off houses and decent pensions.

Exactly what my Dad would say- I think it might be generational humour! Although my Dad isn’t rolling in it. He saved just enough into his pension so as not to be entitled to any other help. And it’s not easy for him with the current COl.

That’s the sort of thing my dad would say. He has worked hard enough over his lifetime so he can have a little joke!

I think it's kinda funny 😄

Sort of thing my dad does

funny

My dad always says things like 'well every days the weekend for us' and such. Unless there's a back story I think it's at best harmless and at worst a bit insensitive.

I'm a nurse and I'm working Christmas this year (I work it every second year) and that comment wouldn't phase me in the slightest. I think you're being over-sensitive here sorry OP.

We need to get away from this diatribe. Rent/mortgage payments have always been 20-40% of income. 40% when your starting out in life/your career and 20% once you are older, have moved on a bit in your career, earn more due to experience.

Ridiculously low interest rates have increased the value of houses to extreme levels over the last 15 years, but we were still averaging the exact same cost of 20-40% of wages (that’s just always been the norm and it’s this standard housing cost that has caused the house value boom).

We (I’m 50) started off renting bedsits/buying studio flats. My parents started out renting rooms in shared houses (same as single people now; our grandparents done it as couples). We then bought 1 bed flats/studios in shit areas in our 20’s, hopefully upgraded to a small 2 bed in late 20’s/early 30’s and possibly managed to buy a 3 bed semi later in life. Nowadays everyone seems to think they are entitled to be able to buy a 3 bed house in their preferred area. You need to start small and work your way up and housing cost is always going to average 30% of income. Housing prices may just have to come down as mortgage rates go up.

No one likes a smug person.

Bit of an insensitive joke with everything NHS & other key workers have been through over the last few years but I think he may just have a dry sense of humour & find his old self amusing. My friends step dad was like this. You got used to him eventually & just pulled him up if he crossed a line. He always apologised if he was out of order, meant it & the joke was never uttered again.
Maybe talk to your dad about how your career has made you feel with everything you have been through recently & explain that his joke hurt.

Will his wealth come to you eventually? If so, smile....

Dad jokes? Ignore them. Remain po faced. Maybe he'll stop, but then my dad didn't stop and he was quite funny at times.

I have absolutely no idea why you should take offence at this comment. ! I understand you are struggling, like most of us, but it’s not your dads fault.?It’s his retirement, stop being selfish and let him enjoy it . Maybe a wee talk to the doctor is what you need.

My dad used to say retirement was tbe best job he'd ever had. He is now back at work as he got bored 🤣

Lighten up. He's retired. He thought he was making a joke.

It's a 'dad' joke, a groaner, I can only assume that the reason for a lack of sense of humour on your part is tiredness, I'm tempted to say grow up.

Its a dad joke , their not meant to be funny

Hi all. Thanks for the replies. I think I am upset that my mum died at 58 before retirement so couldn't enjoy it. Maybe i won't get to his age anyway. Fingers crossed.
I did 2 nights and 2 long days this week. Saw dad at a family party last night and he kept asking " are you tired?"
Step sister asked " are you tired?" followed by a tinkly laugh. Hmmmmmm. Are they really that concerned about me? I think not!

I'm a bit better as my step sister used to be my best friend and after he got with her mum he supports her art career when he never supported mine. There's your back story i guess.

Anyway hopefully after more sleep i'll be a nicer, more reasonable person!:

You sound fine @malificent7. Ignore anyone telling you to grow up. Who do they think they are?? Its obvious your hurt is a lot deeper than a crap joke. Your mum was probably the one that took your side and now shes gone and its shit cos those that are left are self centered and mean. Im sorry, its just shit. Personally id keep away from them if you can, as much as you can .

FayeGovan thank you

Just a throwaway joke/comment with no real in depth meaning
Hopefully occasionally creates a smile/laugh