To not find my wealthy retired dad's " joke" funny?

[malificent7]

I work nhs shifts. I am really chuffed not to be working over Christmas but when I told my dad he replied " neither are we!" He hasn't worked for 10 years. I wouldn't mind so much if I wasn't struggling with the cost of living etc.

It sounds like one of those daft and not very funny people say, like when you're washing your car and a neighbour walks past and says "you can do mine next".
Haha, very original.
However, sounds like you resent him his retirement. Did he retire early? My parents retired at 50 and 56 and lived very well since, yet make out they had such a hard life.

Get a grip

It’s a lame dad joke, he’s done his working life maybe mildly insensitive but not something you need to be pushed on the internet about.

I bet he wishes you were working over Christmas if you moan about stuff like that

Brilliant 😂

Hide his brolly, the jammy git.

You do sound hard work and just trying to find something to be upset about. You've got Christmas off and you're upset at that comment.

What would your reaction be if you didn't have Christmas off and your dad said he's not working?

At least he's appreciating it.

My ex in laws retired before 50 and were always banging on about how busy they were... really challenging stuff like 'researching' holidays they wanted to take and going to fitness classes, but to them it was apparently as difficult as working full time: infuriating!

It's just a lame joke. Not badly intentioned. Annoying though! I'm glad you don't have to work Christmas this year

I understand. My wealthy parents can’t comprehend why I “choose” to live the way I do (my lifestyle is fine btw). But, unlike all of my friends who have had deposits for houses, didn’t work during uni & have had lots of help, I have not. Because I’m too proud to ask.

i’m not bitter about it, and get on great with my parents. My sister has had all of the above handed to her on a plate. And they think she’s “doing so well in life”. It is grating, it is annoying! My dad often “worries” what he’ll do with all of his money... He asks for my advice, as well.

I hope you have better sense of humour when your working your nhs shifts.

My dad says similar. Not an issue. It's standard retired "banter". Why are you so thin skinned?

I’m confused here. It’s a typical sad joke and I presume your dad worked hard before retiring, but you’ve mentioned your mum. And she passed away?

Is it that your true issue, that you’re frustrated that your dad can joke about things when your mum isn’t here any more?

By the way, if that is the case, then delete this thread because people are being shitty and start a new one with more detail. The joke itself is what people will focus on and it’s a red herring to how you’re really feeling.

#mumsnetproblems

My dad (left school at 16, bought a house for 3 x working class salary, now takes endless holidays in the sun on his triple locked pension) “Joked” at me (first in the family to university, white collar job, no rise in 5 years, paying 70% of my salary in rent in London where my job is) about how he was SKI-ing: spending the kids' inheritance.

Then they complain my generation have it easy and that in our arrogance we want the moon on a stick. When all we want is something like what they had.

They’re not funny. I could smack them sometimes.

It was a joke. After working and retiring, hes perfectly fine to be delighted he doesn't have to work and mention it/joke about it.
You will have your time eventually.

Have I interpreted correctly, that your mum died young, your dad has another partner and is having a lovely retirement?

Yanbu to be grieving for your mum and its insensitive of your dad to be smug if he is rubbing your face in his happy life, whilst you are working hard in a tough job and missing your mum.

Yes, come on, think of a few and bat them right back at him.

In 35 years' time when I'm retired, I'll definitely be making joke about it.

I can understand why it's annoying, it's making it all about him.
I have a family member that is similar. If I told them I'd for Christmas day off (I work shifts where Christmas needs to be covered too) their first response wouldn't be "oh that's nice for you", it would be "I'm not working Christmas either". No you never work on Christmas day, your response is all about you and doesn't acknowledge anyone else. It's just so self centered.

It’s his money, not yours. If you want to go skiing or do the other things that cost money you need to stop looking to others to fund it.

I retired three years ago aged 58. But it seems I can’t express how happy I am because that makes me smug.

And heaven forbid you should spend any of your own money in retirement when there may be a grabby child who’d like you to give it to them like a couple of posters above.

Oh bollocks. Of course she doesn't expect anyone to fund her but having her dad crow in her face is bloody annoying.

@malificent7 I'm not sure from your posts whether you dislike your life or your father's most.

@caterpillar1485 can't you see that in your dad's eyes you have much that he didn't. Five years more education, breaking away to a less mundane life in London, a job that in his eyes is probably more above his. You can't blame your father for not having a pay rise for five years.

My mother nakedly criticises my life and always has. At the moment it's constant digs about me not retiring (am 62). I like work.and have a few years left in me yet. But when I do retire (not sure when DH will) I'll be pretty unhappy if either of the grown-up DC resent it.

One thing that surprises me is that after years of being a doer and always on the go. I get more tired now and have to pace myself a bit. I can imagine that will only become more so in the next decade and am starting to appreciate why people in their 70s with a fairly active retirement say they are so very busy doing what I used to fit in around two under 10s and a full-time job. It simply isn't possible to pack in what you did three or four decades earlier.

When I do retire, hopefully on my triple locked pension I'll do my best to enjoy it and if that's to the chagrin of my dC sobeit. They can suck it up having been provided with the best lives we could provide them. I shall be very disappointed if they take on a woe is me stance and mum and dad are spending our inheritance. Mum and dad, between them in their early 60s have worked for more than 70 years.

😆 Luckily I don’t have any children grabby or otherwise to criticise me!