To not find my wealthy retired dad's " joke" funny?

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I work nhs shifts. I am really chuffed not to be working over Christmas but when I told my dad he replied " neither are we!" He hasn't worked for 10 years. I wouldn't mind so much if I wasn't struggling with the cost of living etc.

Ffs lighten up😂

Wow. There are some sensitive folk around.

God I wouldnt dream of resenting my parents retirement. My dad was made redundant around 60 and nearly 30 years later he didnt return to work. Good for him,, I know I wont be that lucky but I love to be

i dont even have the best relationship with them so I dont know how bad it has to be for you to feel so resentful OP. Its a silly jokey comment, not particularly funny but not offensive. I think people need to recognise their feelings are not always reliable indicators of a situation and try to take more control over what they think they feel

This thread has taught me that people who haven't been worn down by a parent with an agenda can't understand how sensitive that makes you to any kind of loaded 'joke'.

I still don't think the OP is jealous of the money, just raw to the insensitivity of someone financially secure twisting the knife into someone who works hard to make ends meet. What a funny thing for a parent to do.

the insensitivity of someone financially secure twisting the knife into someone who works hard to make ends meet.

Oh what a load of rubbish!

For goodness sake, the OP clearly didn't find it funny but that doesn't mean it wasn't just an innocent run of the mill joke

And you can tell from the OP's language 'NHS' shifts (like that makes her a harder worker than someone working shifts elsewhere?) and 'wealthy' retired dad etc, she's eaten up with envy.

That's on the OP and for her to try to sort out, not her dad.

Twisting the knife!!!

This is Barbara Cartland levels of drama and sensitivity.

Jesus some people need to grown up and take responsibility for what they feel.

As I say, if you can't understand it then you can't understand it. No need to be nasty.

It's a joke

They probably don’t realise how unreasonable their daughter is.

Typical Dad, not funny, joke. Just ignore.

Are you taking the piss? You have the effrontery to write that after what you wrote about the OP’s father?

Wow.

Retired parents going on about what a busy day they've had wind me up at the best of times though.

So I'm never allowed to say I've had a busy day or week just because I'm retired now? How bizarre. Just because you are retired doesn't mean you can't be busy surely?

My busy might not look like your busy, but it's still busy.

Get a grip 🙄

They wouldn't have got their state pension in their 50's, it would have been a private pension, so not a state funded

It seems to be the equivalent of saying you’re tired when you haven’t got children.

Yes @Sugarplumfairy65 not state pension, they were final salary public sector pensions with early payout in one parent's case. Early retirement was granted for my parent because their employer wanted them to leave (with good reason) and early retirement was the quietest way to achieve that. They basically received an enormous reward for doing something very wrong, but never acknowledged this.

No, not taking the piss at all. I was controlled by my dad's humour for decades. Always a 'joke' to put me down, 'jokes' like "What do you want a career for? A woman's place is in the kitchen ha ha ha" or "What do you mean you want to go to university, you don't need an education as women are only here for men's pleasure".

I'm honestly not taking the piss, just trying to point out how cruel and controlling humour can be, especially in the wrong hands and targeted with the aim of control. What I wrote about the OPs father was probably better directed at my own dad - but he's dead now and that ship has sailed.

The OP obviously is obviously upset about the 'joke' and that's a shame. I'm not sure humour is humorous if it's about and directed solely to someone who doesn't find it funny. But I can accept from this thread that that isn't a universal thing and that I might be taking this thread to seriously on the basis of my own perspective.

It is a bit tactless!

Retired parents going on about what a busy day they've had wind me up at the best of times though.

What a pile of old shit.

Honestly, I know loads of retired people and this sort of nonsense assumption that they're never busy pisses them off, especially considering most of them are volunteering and helping their adult kids with childcare.

Why would you assume they're not busy? Is your imagination really that limited?

It is irritating OP I know how you feel but it's best not to rise to the bait.
I just shrug it off as if I'm not bothered, but when I've had a bad day/week at work it does sting a bit and I still don't let it show.
Just think of the fun we'll have when we've retired eh!😉We can get our own back then.

Oh get a grip!!!

Sounds like you think your dd is a lazy arse & your pissed that he’s still around & your mums not??
Thats probably not his fault unless he bumped her off; ignore his effort at a joke; make your plans for Christmas even if you do have to be more frugal this year & enjoy the time with your dd; trust me when he’s gone you’ll look back & be glad you made the effort!!
I’d give my right arm to have one more Christmas with my dad x

I think it was a bit insensitive, people don’t really know how hard you work, so don’t realise how it might offend

Hope he doesn't want an invite to Christmas lunch😜