To think some people come on Mumsnet solely to be the utter bitches they can't get away with being in real life.

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I just see so many posts where people seem to do everything they can to make others feel as small and stupid as possible.

I know there will be disagreement and debate on here but some people are so unnecessarily nasty they're like panto villains!

Well yeah, but not most people

@chevvyroo , I'd like to politely point out, as I have to another poster that if you'd read a little further instead of jumping in, that I'd made a modified point after I was challenged.

That incoherent burble was meant to say “I don’t hear people I know in real life”

The relationships boards are shocking

I agree I don't think I could ever start a thread no matter how desperate I am for help and advice.

I’ve been coming and going on here for years and I am going to say something that might get me banned, but I don’t think MN do enough these days. I’ve seen some horrific threads and MN leave them, leave the nasty comments etc. then I recall a daft thread that was really popular a few months back. When anyone questioned the validity of the thread and questioned if it was real their comments were immediately deleted as ‘not fitting in with guidelines’ and the thread was put into Classics. It really stuck with me how people were getting destroyed on other threads and this one that clearly had classics written all over it was exalted - oh, and the OP was a long timer too.

I do think there needs to be a better vetting process of comments and threads AND if someone reports their thread and asks for it to be taken down for ANY reason this should happen - I reported one of my own threads after I had a pile on and MN said no, it was in their interest to keep it up.

YA absolutely NBU

@Wheatandchaff

I agree. Lots of ‘we’re looking into it.’

I don’t see it either

When people are really in trouble the responses are usually incredibly kind and thoughtful.

I agree that when a poster is worried about something and being slightly daft or blind, then yep, they will get a kicking from some - but overall more people are helpful than not.

I actually know someone IRL who talks like a one of the MNers you are referring to. She's really intelligent and she does it cleverly but it is really condescending and bitchy. I avoided the last gathering that she was present at. She is one of these whose kid was running the universe at age 3.

if someone reports their thread and asks for it to be taken down for ANY reason this should happen

I disagree. It will only encourage those posting without good intentions - it's not fair to create a post, ask for input, then decide you don't like it & it gets taken down.

(For the avoidance of doubt, 'you' is meant generally!)

If a thread causes someone genuine upset then I think it should be removed. This is about peoples lives, it’s more than just words on a forum. They ask for genuine advice, get abuse and it’s in the best interest of the poster to have it removed, it shouldn’t be about the benefit of Mumsnet.

They ask for genuine advice, get abuse and it’s in the best interest of the poster to have it removed,

Sure, if it is abuse.

However a thread is about more than just the OP. Other posters reply & interact. It's really irritating when a thread is deleted because the OP stamps their foot.

I disagree that most replies are 'abuse' however (tho I absolutely recognise there are some awful threads that have shitty & unacceptable replies). Tears when they (the individual posts) should be reported & deleted.

Not the entire thread at the whim of an OP.

YANBU.
I figured that out about 2 minutes after I joined. I went on the bit for beginners and someone new had asked something like

Hi I’m new here, how does it all work xx

And one of the replies started with:

1. Don’t put xx on the end of your posts.

Tbh, sometimes the ops are too naïve, I think they are a wind-up or they’re started by posters who want an argument and then nc to respond to it.

And there’s definitely kids on here just to irritate/ upset people (probably very pathetic adults too). I’d be shocked if that Boris troll wasn’t a teenage boy.

@LynLynette

What on earth is wrong with that?

Posters definitely shouldn't put xx at the end of their posts!

Honestly that's ridiculous to see as a nasty response.

Perfect example of the snarky idiotic commenters we are referring to.

Can I ask why posters should not put "xx" at the end of their posts? Who has said this is not allowed please?

Can I ask why posters should not put "xx" at the end of their posts? Who has said this is not allowed please?

MN style I guess.

It's cloying & unnecessary - why would anyone send kisses to strangers in the Internet.

Saying that, I wouldn't make any comment on it if I saw it.

Its so ironic how some of the types of posts/posters the OP was referring to have managed to weave their way in to this post as well.

Why can't they?

I think it's quite sweet and I always imagine the poster to be young. There's nothing wrong with it

Perfect example of the snarky idiotic commenters we are referring to.

Sooty replied saying she could have expressed it differently.

Always amazed that so many posters can't read the thread in full before jumping in to castigate someone. Several posters have done this, despite the subsequent post

Another one who hasn't read further on in the thread and seen that I accepted feedback on that comment after I was challenged politely on it.

I really think leaping in like that without reading the thread is no better than what I said, and you're now the third poster to do it.

The person was clearly expecting some welcoming, friendly replies and instead her post got criticised immediately. That’s not very nice, is it?
What does it matter if someone puts x on the end of a post? Other posters don’t make the rules. And it’s just downright rude.

Totally agree. A lot of posters take great delight in talking down to others.

And the poor people who are already in a state get some absolutely awful advice. Page after page of it.