To think some people come on Mumsnet solely to be the utter bitches they can't get away with being in real life.

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I just see so many posts where people seem to do everything they can to make others feel as small and stupid as possible.

I know there will be disagreement and debate on here but some people are so unnecessarily nasty they're like panto villains!

Guilty 🤣🤣🤣

Yy that used to be the first sign it was a MRA. Using words like bitches, nags, mummys (as though it's an insult) - all signs that posters were misogynists just here to try to cause trouble. They're as obvious as they always were. In the old days they'd have been deleted and banned.
MN always told posters to LTB. Everywhere else tells women to put up and shut up and be kind- even if every poster on every relationship thread said LTB it wouldn't counteract all the social, cultural and media pressure on women to stay. I absolutely love that MN tells women it's ok to go. And I love how much it annoys MRAs because no decent man ever worries his wife will leave him because of three letters on the internet.

Thank you @EarringsandLipstick .

I now go about in rl thinking, "are you one of those people on MN"!

Sometimes I forget who I'm messaging . I had to reply to my Doctor recently and I put XX at the end I was so embarrassed 😂

I think many posters in the MN I starting on many moons ago would not have been kind to a poster adding “xx” to a post, I don’t think that reaction is a new one.

I think it's quite sweet and I always imagine the poster to be young. There's nothing wrong with it

Why is is sweet? I think it's silly, but as I said, I wouldn't comment.

But MN is a fairly sharp & challenging place; I like the robust views & the ability of posters to get quickly to the heart of the matter. When I first joined I was amazed by the responses re relationship issues. I learned a huge amount & wish I was hear during my own abusive relationship.

It's just not an 'xx' kind of place 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Wiccan

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I think we've all been there!

I did a ❤️ at the end of a professional message via WhatsApp to someone senior I don't know well...

I notice this.

Also noticed a certain poster on the same day kept commenting on my comments on different threads and completely turning it around what I said. Until I bit back you little sly twat.

Just my opinion. I find nothing wrong with it. And it's pretty rare from what I've seen

XXXs are not for me personally but @EarringsandLipstick do you realise just how overbearing you sound?

There is one poster who always signs off with ‘Sal.’ No idea why, and I find it a bit funny, especially when it’s a short reply, like ‘No. Sal.’ But it hardly impacts on my enjoyment of the site.

MN is not here to serve you personally

I agree, I still use mn but now most threads just turn so nasty I do find it quite stressful posting so now I tend to just read. People can't seem to offer an opinion or advice without a massive back lash it's not pleasant a lot of the time x

Some of the threads I have read have been disgusting and MN haven’t intervened. I was the OP in one of those threads. It’s quite easy to tell which is foot stamping and which are causing genuine distress.

I don’t want to argue about it but I maintain that MN don’t do enough to protect people on here.people who are reaching out to strangers because they’re desperate for advice or support.

Netmums was always viewed as more touchy feely. MN as more robust as a PP said. And everyone found the place that suited them best. I wonder if Netmums is targeted by MRAs as much as here.

do you realise just how overbearing you sound?

Please explain where I've been overbearing ?

I answered the question. I said I wouldn't comment on it myself. I didn't put anyone else's viewpoint down.

It's really irritating here when some posters (like you here) can't take a politely expressed different opinion, without resorting to insults. (Ir

It got so bad that I came off the thread and then they were messaging me privately being bitches so I changed my name as I couldn’t be bothered with it.

God, that's awful!!! 😲 Honestly, what kind of kick does someone get from sending 'bitchy' messages to a stranger on MN?! Get a life!

MN is not here to serve you personally

What on earth does that mean?

Some of the threads I have read have been disgusting and MN haven’t intervened. I was the OP in one of those threads. It’s quite easy to tell which is foot stamping and which are causing genuine distress.

I'm sorry that happened to you. 💐

It means that not personally liking x’s does not mean you get to dictate that ‘MN does not do this.’

The mysoginist tone policing on mn is way worse than people being 'bitches'. Some folk on mn seem to think any opinion they dont like is a personal insult

Can you not read?

I didn't say anything about personally not liking them - I said they tend not to be the MN style, and are a bit cloying on an Internet forum. I also said (a few times) that I wouldn't comment on their use.

It is the case that they tend to be disparaged on MN, it's not about me personally at all.

I’ve actually just come off a thread now after reporting one poster who just would not let up on another poster (not the OP) after she gave a really benign example of something. Insisting it wasn’t a correct example and then having a go at her name. It was weird to read, she just kept coming back for a go.

@EarringsandLipstick

"Can you not read?"

This is exactly what the OP is talking about.

Would you say this to someone in real life? Genuinely interested. Would you say this to a colleague? Your child? Your parent?

But mn isn't 'real life'

It's a forum on the Internet.

The style of communication is obviously different in lots of ways

See it was the ‘It's just not an 'xx' kind of place’ I was responding to. A bit like someone ordering a burger in a restaurant ‘it’s not a burger kind of place.’ It’s disparaging and bossy and overbearing.

But the insistent replies that MN is really not bitchy from some are quite telling in themselves.