Fuming over unexpected visitors

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My partner works nights & was sleeping today, I had been out all morning & was lying on the sofa, tired after a hard week at work, not having tackled any housework yet.
I hear my partner's phone ringing upstairs & he comes downstairs announcing that his mate had just called & would be round in 10 minutes to introduce us to his new girlfriend.
I said no it's not a good time & to put him off until later when we could have a tidy up & welcome them properly.
I was overruled so I stomped upstairs. I was embarrassed at the state of the place & we had no time to tidy or get changed & my partner was bleary eyed havingbeen woken up. I heard them come in then my partner apologise for the state of the place, I called him upstairs & told him I was really pissed off, they picked up the obvious vibe & left after ten minutes.
I'm so cross & upset. I'm a very welcoming person with notice & enjoy entertaining, cooking etc for people.
Was I wrong to be incandescent with rage (I'm tired & hormonal as well plus I looked a mess, another reason why I didn't want to see anyone).
Now my partner is saying I'm a crazy devil & that I've embarrassed him. Did I overreact & how do I learn to be 'relaxed & cool' with friends 'popping round' with barely any notice? This isn't the first time this has happened.

Urgh - why should anyone feel the need to put on blusher and mascara because someone calls round unexpectedly? That's like something from the 1950s. I'd just welcome them in, and would apologise for the mess (though it would actually be the same mess if they'd given me 2 weeks of notice).

This would drive me nuts but I think your reaction might be relative to other stressed in your life? I.e if you were feeling happy and relaxed then it wouldn't have bothered you so much? Perhaps a sign that things need to change? I sympathize as I am boiling over with rage several times a week 😂 and I know its because I've got a lot to deal with. Something's gotta give.

😂 love it.

Sounds like you have a like minded social group but as you point out people are different. There’s no virtue in any camp. Personally I would only feel OK with very close and sensitive friends coming unannounced to my door, not because of the need to tidy( take me as you find me which is a lot of clutter) but because I need down time in a busy life and it can feel awful to be relishing a bit of space and someone invading it unannounced. I don’t answer phone calls for the same reason sometimes. The issue here is DP not respecting OPs feelings or sticking up for himself and needs to rest against friend .