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To think this comment basically means I’m unattractive?

119 replies

namechangerduh · 11/11/2022 22:05

Woman said to me “I wouldn’t say you were classically attractive, you’re like model like, if you get me, not pretty”

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insweetharmony · 11/11/2022 22:07

it means she thinks you’re not attractive. Not the same thing

CrystalCoco · 11/11/2022 22:07

I think she just fluffed what she was trying to say, I doubt she was trying to say you're unattractive...
if someone said I was 'model like' I'd run with that 👌

xPeaceX · 11/11/2022 22:09

I think she was trying to say you'renot conventionally pretty but you are attractive.
Otherwise it's an odd thing to say.

Leafblowertime · 11/11/2022 22:09

What prompted it, did you ask, like you’re asking on here, do you have issues with your appearances?

namechangerduh · 11/11/2022 22:10

Leafblowertime · 11/11/2022 22:09

What prompted it, did you ask, like you’re asking on here, do you have issues with your appearances?

No, we were standing in a pub bathroom doing our makeup (wasn’t drunk) and she just came out with it. I’m not close to her at all.

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namechangerduh · 11/11/2022 22:11

insweetharmony · 11/11/2022 22:07

it means she thinks you’re not attractive. Not the same thing

I’ve had comments before about being “unique looking” which I take as code for aren’t you an odd looking creature.

In quite petite with large eyes and gaunt face and had an ex compare me to corpse bride (which is nice isn’t it)

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TuisealGinideach · 11/11/2022 22:11

So one individual thinks you’re not ‘pretty’ but are ‘model-like’? I’d assume she meant that you had the angular, striking look of catwalk/high fashion models, rather than the girl next door ‘prettiness’ of catalogue models.

Verite1 · 11/11/2022 22:12

I think she meant you are not blandly pretty but more unusual looking but attractive/striking - ie model like. I would take it as a compliment.

DamnUserName21 · 11/11/2022 22:13

The random shit strangers comes out with!
Sounds like not classically pretty (like blonde Barbie) but striking and attractive.

But who cares what some random tosser says in the pub toilets?! Only your opinion of your looks counts, really.

Cosycover · 11/11/2022 22:14

I think you sound gorgeous!

Fuckedoffteacher · 11/11/2022 22:16

Models have a particular look. It is a natural beauty, different to the mocern standard expected of fillers and botox.

DurhamDurham · 11/11/2022 22:17

Lots of models aren't conventionally 'pretty', they have something about them that makes them striking or different. She's just saying you're not 'girl next door pretty'
Still an odd thing to say given that you hadn't asked her opinion but I wouldn't worry about it.

Snoooozzze · 11/11/2022 22:21

I wouldn't take offence to what she said tbh...

You sound strikingly beautiful rather than being just a pretty girl which I'd be delighted to hear myself!

I was once told (by an old man) that I was a robust looking woman...I was unimpressed...Confused it would be nice to be referred to as model-like...

BagOfBollocks · 11/11/2022 22:21

In quite petite with large eyes and gaunt face and had an ex compare me to corpse bride (which is nice isn’t it)

Well you were attractive enough to him for him to go out with you.

There's someone out there for everyone and what one person finds attractive, another won't so don't worry about it 🤷‍♀️

ImpartialMongoose · 11/11/2022 22:21

You sound like you are probably striking, which is a very good thing. "Pretty" is run of the mill and average. Saying you look like a model is hardly an insult.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 11/11/2022 22:24

So someone said you are model like and you think she was saying you are unattractive? How does that work then

SandyY2K · 11/11/2022 22:25

Corpse bride?

To think this comment basically means I’m unattractive?
namechangerduh · 11/11/2022 22:26

I suppose it was the tone. It wasn’t a stranger, someone I work with and I don’t think she likes me to be honest.

She did the “model like” comment with the the little finger air quotes.

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TheSilentPicnic · 11/11/2022 22:27

who cares what some random in a pub bathroom says?

BagOfBollocks · 11/11/2022 22:27

If she doesn't like you, why are you dissecting what she said and worried about it to the point you need to ask MN if she meant you're unattractive?

groovergirl · 11/11/2022 22:27

I work in media so have seen plenty of models up close. They tend to be tall, lean and willowy with short torsos, long limbs, extra-long shinbones, large hands and feet and faces that photograph well at any angle. In scruffy jeans with unstyled hair and no make-up, they still turn admiring heads. You can put them into any style of clothes and they look stunning.

OP, if you look like this, rejoice! Then go and wear whatever the hell you like and enjoy the admiration.

namechangerduh · 11/11/2022 22:27

SandyY2K · 11/11/2022 22:25

Corpse bride?

Yes. The gaunt face and general greyish look. He said I looked like something straight out of tim burtons imagination. I am insecure about my facial structure because my cheeks are sunken no matter how much weight I gain

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namechangerduh · 11/11/2022 22:29

BagOfBollocks · 11/11/2022 22:27

If she doesn't like you, why are you dissecting what she said and worried about it to the point you need to ask MN if she meant you're unattractive?

I don’t know, It made me think of other times people have said “unique” or references to corpse bride. Made me feel shit and want to go home.

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Mardyface · 11/11/2022 22:30

No one makes unprompted comments about your face unless you are agreed by most people to be beautiful. It is shocking that she thought it appropriate to comment on your appearance at all unless it was "I like your lipstick/hair' etc. You must know that. It's not the most important thing about you anyway so don't treat it as if it is by issuing any attention to the rude cow.

BagOfBollocks · 11/11/2022 22:31

You need to work on your self confidence then.

Literally no-one here can tell you whether you're attractive or not, and even if we knew what you look like opinions would vary anyway.

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