Cleaner had her DC there with her today

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I've had my cleaned for about 3 months. She's really good. I really like her work

Anyway, I gave her a key last week and today I popped home for lunch unexpectedly. She had her DD there with her...

Apparently it's a teacher training day for them and so her DD had to come too. I asked why she couldn't reschedule to do another date or even better, come this evening?

She said she couldn't come this evening due to her DS coming home, he's disabled, and she'd just much rather not let me down for my allocated day so thought she'd just being DD along

I said okay... and that was that

AIBU to think she should've asked my permission first?

So not to drip feed, she was sat at my dining table doing colouring and had a few toys out

She should have checked but I suspect she thought you’d say no and ask her to do something extremely inconvenient- like ask her to come to work in the evening!!- instead.
If she’s good and reliable I’d just say ‘please let me know if you need to bring her again’ and leave it at that.

So long as the child was behaving reasonably and the cleaner was doing her work, I wouldn’t have an issue with it. It’s not like it’s a regular thing.

You obviously have a problem with it many do not. Yanbu to feel the way you do but don't be surprised if she's only with you until she finds one of the many who don't mind.

You lot are pretty odd. I didnt read it as the op 'throwing her weight around' at all. Its her house and she employs the lady and it doesnt sound as though she said much at all

Why does it bother you?!

I'd be absolutely fine with it. In fact I'd really appreciate the fact she didn't want to let me down. I'd be a bit surprised if there were several children running riot or if her partner was there - but one child sitting quietly at a table is absolutely fine.

Crikey

You are really overreacting

My cleaner occasionally brings her dd. I've set her up on our family Netflix and Disney plus accounts so she can watch tv when she's here

It really couldn't be less of an issue imo

It was her dc. Not all and sundry. Your only answer should have been ‘have you eaten? Would you like something? Lunch, drink, snacks?’

Off with her head

"Do ppl here think it's just okay to bring your kids to work then?"

Maybe not if you're in the vice squad, but a normal workplace, why not? My colleagues bring their children to the office sometimes.

I think she should have asked first. It’s a common courtesy And you should have said fine no problem.

what’s the arrangement in the school holidays? Does she not clean?

I used to be a cleaner and lone parent and always asked when I started a job if my DS could come with me on occasion. Never had a problem.

As long as you’re happy with her work what’s the issue? Maybe she knew you’d say no and really what was the harm done. She might not have been able to come any other time and needed the money.

She should have asked and you don't sound snobby!
She sounds like good cleaner though. In some other employment provision is made for working mums. I'd want to be that employer.
I'd encourage her to be honest and, if this is a one off, come to an arrangement.

The accusations of snobbery are unfair.

I wouldn't want someone being in my house without my (or my husband's) agreement either.

If I could afford a cleaner I'd happily agree to them bringing a well behaved child along if necessary. But it's so disrespectful not to ask in advance and presumably never plan to admit it.

I suppose it would have been better if she had mentioned it, but I honestly wouldn't be bothered (if I was lucky enough to have a cleaner!) I'd be very annoyed if she had brought an adult with her, but a child? The child sounds very well behaved. My youngest would have gathered all your cushions and throws and made a den under your dining table. Probably why I wouldn't take him with me🤣

Wouldn't have bothered me unless the kid was being nosy or making a mess.

My cleaner once turned up with her daughter, and said it was good for her to see what happened if you didn't work hard at school!

Your blessing! 🤣

Exactly!

What exactly is the main issue with it though? You say you're bothered, but why?

Why should she come tonight?

I wouldn’t have a problem with it, but I would expect to be asked first. It’s common courtesy imo. The fact that she did it without asking would be what would bother me.

I would want my cleaner to ask first. I would probably say yes but I want to know who has been in my house and there might be certain days where it wouldn’t work.

She's about 4/5 - must be. As she has recently started Reception class

Why would she come in the evening?!?! 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈

Id be bloody impressed that she kept my appointment so I wasn’t let down for the clean and that she still cleaned my house for me. I would really have no issue with this.

What if the op needed to use the dining room table for her own work?