Cleaner had her DC there with her today

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I've had my cleaned for about 3 months. She's really good. I really like her work

Anyway, I gave her a key last week and today I popped home for lunch unexpectedly. She had her DD there with her...

Apparently it's a teacher training day for them and so her DD had to come too. I asked why she couldn't reschedule to do another date or even better, come this evening?

She said she couldn't come this evening due to her DS coming home, he's disabled, and she'd just much rather not let me down for my allocated day so thought she'd just being DD along

I said okay... and that was that

AIBU to think she should've asked my permission first?

So not to drip feed, she was sat at my dining table doing colouring and had a few toys out

Can't see an issue

Yanbu.
I would've called and rescheduled tbh, I would not be happy with someones child unattended in my house.

As long as the house was cleaned to the same standard in the same amount of time then I don’t see what the problem was.

I was a cleaner’s child. I remember people like you.

I hope you're not using the word blessing because you're a religious person. Because you're not coming across as very Christian...

Well I think she should have asked. I’d expect anyone working in my house to ask if it was okay for their friend/child/ partner/ mum to come one day.

If one of our cleaners had asked as a one-off I’d almost certainly have said yes but pointed out we have a few house rules: food eaten at the table only no feet or shoes on furniture.

I would also feel a bit uneasy as to whether any injury to the child would be covered by either my household insurance or the cleaner’s insurance too.

Having seen how good friends let their children run riot in their own and other people’s houses, I think feeling uncomfortable with a strange child in the house while their mum is busy working is not unreasonable.

Small child, sitting quietly would not be a problem for me.

I once came home unexpectedly, there was a strange smell in the place, & then the cleaner's effing dog jumped up at me.

Sacked her on the spot. She knew she was in the wrong as she didn't ask for her cash.

Who has random teacher training on a Thursday?!

This is a non issue, you are just having some kind of power trip for no reason.

I'm really not!

Do ppl here think it's just okay to bring your kids to work then?

The owner of a house, gets to decide who comes in... and the cleaner should have asked first ..it's common courtesy.... which so many people are so obviously lacking.

I bet if the cleaner posted here and said, should I just take DD or ask the homeowner first.

I think once in a while if you know the cleaner I think perfectly ok - I once played chess with cleaner's daughter to keep her occupied. Would not want to to do do it every week but it was OK .

But that cleaner asked me if it would be OK. I think it would be the right thing to do to ask if could can bring someone else with you .

OP - if she had asked would you have been okay with it?

Are you serious !
She never let you down, you’d of had something to say if she let you down.

The child was colouring ffs,

What is the issue? Did the child make a mess? Would you have even known she'd been there if you hadn't come home? Really sounds like a non issue and that you are power tripping here. Yabu.

She should have asked. Just tell her to check with you next time.

I think that it would have been polite to let you know. I would ask her to let you know in future so that you aren't surprised if you pop home unexpectedly.

So not only did the scummy cleaner bring her dirty working class child with her without seeking permission, she's also a liar?

A random school from googling inset day Thursday

Err... It's not Thursday

Oh come on. You are being totally unreasonable. Why does she need your permission?

You sound controlling
If she's doing her cleaning and nothing being damaged in your house or work not done then there is zero issue. Have some compassion

OK, if you're not then why do you want to be asked for your permission beforehand? It's a kid, not an escaped convict. If they'd broken something I get why you'd be upset...but they didn't?

you sound very unkind OP.

How old was the child?

Not that it makes a huge difference, I wouldn’t have appreciated that either. YANBU at all OP, she should absolutely have asked your permission, and offered another time or cancellation if she couldn’t. But this is MN where cleaners should all be worshipped because they can do no wrong.

Cleaners charge a decent wage nowadays, they should have decent standards. If any other tradesperson that worked in your home decided to plonk their kids at your table while they did their job without asking, no one would think it was normal.

Probably would have been preferable for her to check but it certainly wouldn’t bother me in the slightest a child sitting there quietly and colouring in. My cleaner brings her dog with her (with my permission of course).

I think as a courtesy she should have asked- ultimately she was bringing her child into your home. It would not have bothered me at all and I do wonder why she felt unable to run it by you. I am a single parent with no nearby support network. I have a salaried position with an understanding manager and (before wfh became more common place) had been able to take dc into the office when totally stuck. I suspect your cleaner was understandably worried about loosing a chunk of her wages or a client and her job is based around her other commitments. So it is not simple to 'just reschedule'. If she is a good cleaner and you are happy with her otherwise, just have a conversation about checking with you first if she is struggling for childcare. Be diplomatic but make sure you get across that you are okay (if you are) with this on the odd occasions when unavoidable if made aware and not being able to find an alternative that works for you both. I am not saying this is the case with your cleaner, but sometimes the best intentions can open the door to piss takers.