Cleaner had her DC there with her today

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I've had my cleaned for about 3 months. She's really good. I really like her work

Anyway, I gave her a key last week and today I popped home for lunch unexpectedly. She had her DD there with her...

Apparently it's a teacher training day for them and so her DD had to come too. I asked why she couldn't reschedule to do another date or even better, come this evening?

She said she couldn't come this evening due to her DS coming home, he's disabled, and she'd just much rather not let me down for my allocated day so thought she'd just being DD along

I said okay... and that was that

AIBU to think she should've asked my permission first?

So not to drip feed, she was sat at my dining table doing colouring and had a few toys out

Yabu aslong as the cleanings done I don't see the issue. I used to go with my mum on her cleaning jobs occasionally as a child was never an issue

lots of people say they like to know exactly who’s been in their house and I don’t want to seem like I’m judging, but honestly, why? Is it different for adults vs kids?

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I wouldnt bat an eyelid.

My DH the exact same.

Us. Perth and Kinross Council. In service yesterday and today.

What if the op needed to use the dining room table for her own work?

Presumably if this was an issue OP would have mentioned it. Why add made up possible inconveniences into the thread?

I'm with you.

You have no idea how much attention her DC needs from her and you're paying her to do a job.

She should have checked - it's your house!

Great cleaners are like gold dust. Thankfully long gone are the days when they were treated like servants. They soon dump customers who moan or nitpick. I know because I did when I did it for a few years when DC were small. I never advertised and never had a problem picking up new clients.

Aw be kind, she would not be cleaning if she didn't have to. I have been in the situation many times when I had no one to look after my child. Have a heart.

Can someone please confirm that @NewYorkLassie is wrong and it is definitely Friday today please?!

@changinglanesagain it would have been better if she'd mentioned it prior. Just say to her you need her to check before the next time (if there is one). I'd assume she had childcare arranged and was let down, or had simply forgotten beforehand that it was a TT day (I've turned up with mine in uniform before now 🙄). I think she has a good work ethic in carrying on with her commitments tbh.

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Her response to a child being brought into her home without her permission should be to rush to provide snacks and care to the child?

I was a cleaners child also and would regularly go to work with mum. I would keep out the way normally watching tv, or how about this heaven forbid........help clean!

Most children do know when to respect someone's else house and behave

Ridiculous responses here! Of course you are your employer if its OK to bring your child along to your job. Even more so if it is in their home.

It's not like she had no warning, she would have known and planned to do it. A quick text to check beforehand would be the professional approach.

Maybe I’ve watched too much Maid, but it all sounds excusable to me.

Just ask her to let you know if it happens again.

So now it's my responsibility to provide drinks and snacks

I would have no issue with any tradesperson bringing a well behaved child to my house in an emergency. Especially if it meant I still go my jobs done!

Wouldn't bother me. My cleaner brought her grandson all through the summer holidays. Her daughter has abandoned him and she cares for him and her disabled parents. I have huge sympathy that she has no other option. He sits and plays on her phone.

I hope she finds a new and more compassionate client.

Yes YABU. You like her work. She got the job done. What is the problem? Not everyone is fortunate enough to arrange alternative childcare and don’t like letting people down. I really don’t see the issue. Especially as child was younger and harness enough.

Because if it was me I would like to be asked in advance to make sure there aren’t any inconveniences that the cleaner was unaware. I once found bits of food (that were previously in my fridge) on the floor and wrongly accused my husband to later find out that the cleaner had brought her children with her and they had been sitting watching tv in that area

You’re colder than ice.

I couldn’t get upset about it. Wouldn’t bother me at all.

My cleaner once turned up with her daughter, and said it was good for her to see what happened if you didn't work hard at school!

That's awful. My cleaner was a specialist nurse before becoming a cleaner to fit around her disabled DC

I just wanted a heads up, that's all

I'd have preferred to be asked but wouldn't mind at all

Cleaner here.. Glad i have no customers like you..