Cleaner had her DC there with her today

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I've had my cleaned for about 3 months. She's really good. I really like her work

Anyway, I gave her a key last week and today I popped home for lunch unexpectedly. She had her DD there with her...

Apparently it's a teacher training day for them and so her DD had to come too. I asked why she couldn't reschedule to do another date or even better, come this evening?

She said she couldn't come this evening due to her DS coming home, he's disabled, and she'd just much rather not let me down for my allocated day so thought she'd just being DD along

I said okay... and that was that

AIBU to think she should've asked my permission first?

So not to drip feed, she was sat at my dining table doing colouring and had a few toys out

Loads of schools have teacher training days mid week. Very common when they need to outsource (particularly in academy groups) to a training provider and work around availability.

My cleaner brings her baby and mum with her (mum watches the baby, then takes over cleaning whilst my cleaner is breastfeeding!). Fine by me.

Nothing to do with not wanting a wc child in the house 🤔 but to do with respecting the owner of the house and taking permission. It's not standard practice to bring dc to work with you.
My dgm had a cleaner who used to bring her DD with her. She noticed jewellery was going missing and the dd was "playing" with it and putting it down the sink.

She absolutely should have run it by you out of politeness.

My dd will be having two inset days on a Thursday & a Friday in December.

Because its the OPs home and its common courtesy to ask permission to bring someone you don't know, isn't known personally by any of the house occupiers into your house?

Yes it's just a kid in this case, but would be OK if a builder Brought his wife or his mate to sit and chat while they worked without checking first? It's not the same as a dc bringing random mates into the house.

Was your house clean ?

If the child had been rampaging around your house trashing everything in sight then I might have said you had a point. As it was, you encountered a quiet and well-behaved child colouring at the table. I don't see why this should bother you.

Your cleaner probably has other clients on other days so maybe "just reschedule" is not an option. Did you not want your cleaning done?

You are being fussy and ridiculous.

An unattended person of any age in my house would make me very anxious.

I once came home to find my cleaner with her mother and sister. I wasn’t best pleased
It is about respecting someone’s home.
Your cleaner should have informed you. A text message would have sufficed

If you hadn't come home, would you have known their child had been there? If yes, because they were destroying the place like a bull in a China shop then that's unreasonable. If their child was being well behaved and house was clean, as a one off I wouldn't get upset about it, just maybe say that in future you would rather they ask, or cancel if they don't have childcare, whichever your preference is

How fcking dare she bring her well behaved kid into your home so can earn a living

honestly op this gives me the rage on your behalf

oh wait…….

You’re being very weird OP. A child sat quietly colouring and you throw your weight around in front of them. Shameful actually.

YABU can't really see how it affected you in the slightest.

Our local comprehensive has often put all of its inset days in the week before the October half term, giving the kids a two week half term.

My DDs liked that when they were there.

She should have asked. It's just common courtesy.

Or do all these people saying "it's fine" just take their kids to work with them without checking? I doubt it - so why is it different here?

So then I guess you wouldn't have a cleaner at all.

I agree with you OP. I wouldn't be happy if someone I had employed to do work in my house unsupervised decided to bring anyone with them (be that a child, a parent or a friend) without my knowledge. Yes, the child ws sitting and colouring and being well-behaved, but she might not have been. I think it's even worse that the child was unsupervised away from her mother.

YABU and so what? Find something worthwhile to get upset about

Agree.

A social worker or carer coming in to your house to do their job is FAR different to a cleaner and your expectations on them as well. They are dealing with people where your full focus and attention is needed at all times - a cleaner can stop in the moment and go back to it without anyone else being affected.

And again, to compare taking your child to a house for cleaning work to taking a child into an office or other workplace environment also doesn't add up. Completely different environments

The woman is working trying to feed her family, unfortunate her daughter had teacher training day and yes not ideal she had to bring her along but, she was cleaning when you rocked up not sat watching Disney plus with her daughter. As for colouring at your table, not sure what the problem was unless it was marker pen. Don't be an arse, if she's generally good cut the woman some slack. Maybe she should have asked, but maybe she was worried you'd say "OK we'll miss this week", she needs the money so she doesn't tell you.

Have a little compassion op.
Look at it from her point of view.
what do you want out of your aibu anyway?

I bet if she'd cancelled last minute you'd moan about that too.

What a bizarre thing to get worked up over! No doubt you'd have been on here complaining if she had rearranged. I wouldn't bat an eyelid, the child was hardly hanging off your chandelier!