Cleaner had her DC there with her today

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I've had my cleaned for about 3 months. She's really good. I really like her work

Anyway, I gave her a key last week and today I popped home for lunch unexpectedly. She had her DD there with her...

Apparently it's a teacher training day for them and so her DD had to come too. I asked why she couldn't reschedule to do another date or even better, come this evening?

She said she couldn't come this evening due to her DS coming home, he's disabled, and she'd just much rather not let me down for my allocated day so thought she'd just being DD along

I said okay... and that was that

AIBU to think she should've asked my permission first?

So not to drip feed, she was sat at my dining table doing colouring and had a few toys out

The cleaning company or the self employed person.

both the client and employed person are insured.

@Tessabelle74 bur she doesn’t pay her into the bank, she doesn’t have her bank details.

Asking someone who they’ve brought into your home without your knowledge is neither passive aggressive or an ‘interrogation.’ It’s direct. All the silly pussyfooting of ‘oh hey please give me a heads up’ is passive aggressive. It’s much better just to be clear and say ‘please don’t bring anyone into my home without first asking.’ You have the right to know who will be in your home at any given time.

The interrogation starts when OP needs to know exactly WHY, why did she bring her, why couldn't she have done X instead.

Hope this helps.

People working in an office, school, or hospital/any other setting would never just bring their kids along. Why is it any different. She definitely should have asked!

In offices they do sometimes.

The cleaner could have avoided all that by not bringing children into her employer’s home during working hours without asking if this was acceptable. Hope this helps.

I think you are being unreasonable op she was trying not to let you down and by the looks of how she rushed out you have embarrassed her for being a hard worker

Whether she could have avoided it or not doesn't have anything to do with the fact that OP was interrogating the cleaner, which is what you were denying.

Did you get confused? Seems so.

I’m not confused at all. I don’t find it an ‘interrogation’ to ask a few reasonable questions about why someone is in your home. Clearly you get defensive because someone is disagreeing with you.