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What to do with male neighbour

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Deemarie11 · 10/11/2022 12:58

I'm 30 l live alone in a small terraced house. I've been living here for one year. Next door to me lives a man in his late 50s. We have nothing in common. We would say hello the odd time but thats it. The houses don't open right onto the street. We have a very small front garden, walls and gate each.

My front garden is very small, it's not something you would sit in. So I am only ever in it to mow my small lawn, paint the small walls etc.

Any time that I am EVER in my front garden, my male neighbour will come over right to my walk, to talk to me.

Last time I was mowing my lawn, he came out of his house, came over to my walk and started talking to me about something.

Today, I was painting my small wall in my front garden. He came over right to my walk and said "hey! I'm expecting a package. Will you take it in. They said they'd leave it with a neighbour".

I didn't want to but I said yes even though I didnt want to, as I was nervous and trying to get him to go away. He will probably be over to me later looking for it, which causes more stress for me.

I'm starting to be nervous every time I go out in my front garden, I kind of dash in and out as I know he will be straight over. He is creeping me out. I literally cannot go in my garden and do one simple thing without him coming straight over. It's giving me anxiety. If I saw my female neighbour across the road doing gardening, I wouldn't go straight over , lean over her wall and start talking to her. I know I would be intruding on her privacy. He does it every single time. It's really giving me anxiety. I don't know what to do.

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KettrickenSmiled · 16/11/2022 09:31

He would also wait all evening for my boyfriend to get home from work and pounce on him the minute he did and make him hang out with him. Some of these people are awful.

And your b/f played along with it. Why on earth did he "hang out" with a thug who scared his g/f?

Moobae · 16/11/2022 09:52

Had the same issues. Old male neighbours who live alone always seem to take an interest in me. I’m a HA tenant.

I don’t understand why they can’t leave women alone. Hi and bye is enough they don’t need to know your life story. Any neighbour male or female.

I suggest headphones as well or on the phone. When he tries speak to you point to your headphones or say I’m on the phone

Miss03852 · 16/11/2022 09:55

KettrickenSmiled · 16/11/2022 09:31

He would also wait all evening for my boyfriend to get home from work and pounce on him the minute he did and make him hang out with him. Some of these people are awful.

And your b/f played along with it. Why on earth did he "hang out" with a thug who scared his g/f?

He’s an ex for a reason, he was pathetic and wouldn’t stand up to him, he was scared of him aswell. He wouldn’t even go in our front or back garden till neighbour left his house, because he’d jump on him as soon as he went outside.

KettrickenSmiled · 16/11/2022 10:01

Glad he's an ex @Miss03852 !

chaosmaker · 19/07/2024 20:27

Did you manage to move out after? Or did he move? It's been a while and I'd be interested to know :))

I'm aware this is a zombie for those who post zombie.....

ILikeBakeryStuff · 19/07/2024 21:01

Old post - never mind!

beeloubee · 20/07/2024 02:25

Yeah that would be annoying and creepy.

Tell him next time, I'm busy at the moment can't talk.

MaryEllenWaldron · 20/07/2024 02:37

CloudybutMild · 10/11/2022 13:22

He’s doing what normal neighbours do, he likely doesn’t know that you are so unfriendly so don’t want to talk.

Are you a man? Because that's a very unlikely thing for a woman to think, let alone say. Every woman has experienced this unwanted attention from men who don't care that the woman doesn't want to talk to them, and it's not normal for a neighbour (male or female) to make a beeline for you every time you put your head out the door. Horrible for her. I would consider moving house in that position.

Bewilderedallthetine · 20/07/2024 04:28

So worrying us woman have to put up with this ... hope OP comes back after so long with an update. Hopefully he will have moved.

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