Be honest: Do you judge married women without kids?

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When you meet a woman who has been married for years, and doesn't have children, do you (A) make assumptions about why they don't have children; (B) ask them why they don't have children (feel it's your place to seek answers); (C) judge them for not having children; (D) all of the above; or (E) none of the above? Be honest. What do you really think...

None of the above. I might wonder but the potential pitfalls are far too massive to go blundering in with a question.

I tend to mind my own business

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You sound insane? Why would anybody judge someone who doesn't have children? It's not compulsory!

None of the above. Genuinely.

I might wonder but I’d never ask, nor judge.

I don't think anything. It's of literally no interest or concern to me.

I definitely wouldn't judge. I probably would have a little "I wonder why?" thought to myself but wouldn't voice it.

None, I don’t think anything.

If I’m honest, I do wonder ‘in my head’ why they don’t have children and do wonder if it’s infertility or choice, but this is all in my head and would NEVER ask

And what do you think when you meet a single woman in her mid forties with no children? Do you judge them too?
I truly hope not.

E - I rarely think about other people’s reproductive choices.

Your question now has me running through a mental list of married but childless women that I know. 1 can’t have children for medical reasons (we are close enough that I know that), 1 wants them but is waiting, 1 hasn’t confided in me and I haven’t questioned her.

Wha? Seriously no one thinks like this.

I would never judge, too busy being jealous of their lifestyle

I hope they didn't want them and couldn't, but other than that no thoughts. I have lots of friends who don't want kids.

I wouldn't ask. I would probably wonder if they couldn't have children. That's about it.

I’d wonder but never ask or be interested enough to care

I might wonder in passing and hope it was through choice and not through loss or being unable to.

I wouldn't judge at all. It sounds rather wonderful tbh.

I honestly couldn't care less about other people's reproductive choices. I don't think anything at all.

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After recurrent miscarriages I've experienced before having DS, I really understood this is none of my business.

Prior to that I would probably wonder what their reason was, whether that was just their preference or whether life hasn't gone like they had hoped in that regard but I would've never asked them anyway. It wasn't judgemental, merely curious at the time.

No. On what possible basis would you “judge” someone for not having children?

None. I don't judge. By the grace of God It could have been me but DD was a miracle...my aunt never had children due to abuse as a child. . Never ever judge someone.

I’d wonder but never think to ask.