To think if someone is four inches taller than you that is not short

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in relative terms?

I was talking to a friend who said he met a girl who was 5 feet 2 and he is just over 5 foot 6 she said she liked everything about him, but he is "too short for her."

I told him height is relative. For his height, someone who is between 5 feet to 5 feet 3 it is not really too short because it is still a significant difference. I have heard other stories from friends as well another guy who is about 5 feet 9 and a girl who is 5 feet 3 thinks, he is too short for her. Is it me or if someone is a few inches taller than you at least that should not be classed as short speaking in relative terms?

She said he's too short for her, so her opinion is perfectly valid

I understand but I am thinking relatively. 3-4 inches is still significant difference. For me "short" would mean same height or shorter.

This.

Also I'm 4ft 11. 4 inches taller is 5ft 3 which is definitely still short 🤷🏻‍♀️

I dated a guy who was 5ft 3. He was too short for me. Sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️

It's a preference which is valid. The woman who is 5 foot 2 can prefer a man who who is at least say 6 foot if that la what she likes. FWIW a man who is 5 foot 6 in the UK is shorter than average.

Of course but a woman who is 5 foot 2 is also shorter than average. That is why I am saying height is relative.

Most my friends -short or tall themselves prefer tall men - 6ft or above ideally.
My shallow self included.

5ft6 is well below average height for a man, and besides, she’s only expressing an opinion that he’s too short for her. I don’t see how her height is relevant.

Not sure what you mean.

She says he is too short for her. That's her preference, she prefers a man who is taller than 5'6". Her own height is irrelevant in that aspect.

I'm 5' and a bit. Dh is 6'1". So dh is taller than average, and obviously a lot taller than me. I'd consider anyone 5'6" 'too short' for my personal preference too.

I’m 5ft 8 under 6 foot would still be to short for me even though they would be taller

amsue there are physical characteristics of mine that would mean plenty of men wouldn’t find me attractive and that’s fine

men get very offended on this subject but it is what it is many woman prefer tall men

It’s the “to her” which is relevant. Somebody might only be a little shorter than average, or a little more overweight than average, or a little less financially successful than average, or a little less attractive than average. They can still be too much or too little that particular characteristic in the eyes of another person. Dating, however much we’d like it to be, isn’t an equal opportunities pursuit, you can choose not to date somebody for any reason whatsoever.

I’d say someone over 6ft is tall. Someone who is around 5ft is short. This is unrelated to my height.

Kind of is though you cannot say someone is something when you are also that thing. It is like hearing men who are obese saying they want slim women. The men are not in the best shape themselves but want someone slim it is hypocrisy.

It’s not about height difference it’s about personal taste. It’s like saying that a blonde women who likes dark haired men should be ok with someone with mouse coloured hair because - well it’s darker than hers isn’t it. Her own height has no relevance to her taste.

Would be too short for me, I don’t date a man under 6ft

I'm 5'2 and DH is 5'6.

He's not short to me! I get what you're saying, OP.

A man under 6ft is short no matter the height of the woman

Short is short

So because I'm short myself I should only date short men? 😂🙄

Short people are allowed to prefer a tall partner, they don't have to prefer other short people. It's not so much relative as personal preference.

Personally, I still like to be able to look up when I’m wearing heels so a 4 inch difference isn’t much when I wear 3 inch heels. There’s a 6 inch difference between me and DP and sometimes it feels like we’re the same height till he gets me to look in the mirror.

i acknowledge my shallowness 😊

But that’s okay. An obese man can say he only wants to date slim women, just as this woman can say she only wants to date tall men. Neither may get what they want, but they can still aspire to it.

I’m not particularly hung up on height myself. I consider other things more important.

I have small feet. Must my partner also have small feet?!

Of course you can!! I can say he’s too skinny for me, whilst being skinny myself. Or his hair is too long for me, whilst having long hair myself. You don’t find people attractive solely because they’re like you? I’m not keen on blondes, no idea why. I’ve got blonde hair, should I dye it?!

They're not looking at it in relative terms though are they. They're saying they fancy people who are above a certain height. Which is fine, you can't dictate what people find attractive

I'm the same, I always valued kindness and humour over height. Thank goodness my 5'6 husband offends other women so much, so he's all mine!

Interestingly, friends and others I know of that have a checklist of 'my man must be...' are single, or have short lived, unhappy relationships.