To think if someone is four inches taller than you that is not short

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in relative terms?

I was talking to a friend who said he met a girl who was 5 feet 2 and he is just over 5 foot 6 she said she liked everything about him, but he is "too short for her."

I told him height is relative. For his height, someone who is between 5 feet to 5 feet 3 it is not really too short because it is still a significant difference. I have heard other stories from friends as well another guy who is about 5 feet 9 and a girl who is 5 feet 3 thinks, he is too short for her. Is it me or if someone is a few inches taller than you at least that should not be classed as short speaking in relative terms?

She's not saying that he's short (although he is shorter than average), just that he's too short for her - she prefers taller men. Yes it's a bit shallow but we're allowed to be shallow when we're choosing our life partner!

5"6 wouldn't be a deal breaker for me but I would prefer someone taller. They aren't a compatible couple if she's turned off by his height.

😂What the!!!!!

It's not really because if we're talking about heterosexual relationships here, being tall is usually seen as a very attractive trait in men, whereas it's a pretty neutral trait for women, outside of the extremes.

What you're saying is more akin to saying "It's hypocritical for a man to say he likes big boobs in a partner when he doesn't have any boobs at all.", or "It's hypocritical for a man to like long hair when he has short hair himself.".

I once dated a very short man, what put me off were his tiny little hands.

I don't. 5ft 1 and he's 5ft 8. Don't want a permanent crick in my neck thanks.
Also under 6ft isn't short fgs. Average is now 5 10. Short is being well below average.

Hypocrisy = "the practice of claiming to have higher standards or more noble beliefs than is the case."

Desiring someone who is different to you isn't hypocrisy it's just their preference.

Utter rubbish 😂

No, it's shorter than the average, but not very short.

Height bashing again. No wonder I worry for my 9th centile son

In the uk 5ft 6 is very short for a man. It's true!

I do feel sorry for men when it comes to height, they are severely judged. A lot of people on this thread seem to think that being over 6 foot is the norm. When in fact the average UK height is around 5'10. Plus, factor in ethnicity and you would see a lot of men under 5 foot 8 (South Asian men, Latino men etc..)

I’m 5ft 6 so I’m not very tall but I’ve always preferred my partners to be taller than me, my DH is 6ft, if he was only 4 inches taller he’d still be tall enough for me.

I'm really small and the only place I've ever encountered this is on MN and tinder, in reality there's loads of people with loads of different preferences.

YABU to suggest that people should stick with their own height. Why should someone who is 4 foot 11 date someone who is 5 foot 3 any more than they should date someone who is 6 foot 7?

The UK is ridiculous - I know some very happy couples where the woman is 6 foot and the man is 5 foot 6. And I think the 'taller men only' thing is really unfair on guys -

BUT. As a shorter girl, I got very fed up with all the shorter guys making a beeline for me when on a night out, as if I was their only option, and the default or backup, or the only one they had a chance with. As opposed to the one they particularly fancied.

I've dated men who are 5 foot 4 and men who are 6 foot 4. Mostly I resented it being suggested to me that I should stick with the shorter guys because no one else would. Shit for them and shit for me.

Please don't

Well clearly you're not going to be swayed, but I do need to say my bit.

The average height for a man in the UK is 5'9"
The definition of 'very' is "to a great degree or extremely"

I would not say that being 3 inches shorter than average is a great degree difference.

Would you say that 5'8" was very short? I don't think so. 5'7"? Maybe 'a bit shorter than average'. To go from a bit shorter to very short in a single inch seems daft.

I would say 5'4" is very short.

I got rejected on a dating app for being too short. Which is fine as a preference but he was pretty rude.

Expressing a preference isn't bashing.

Agree with you OP & I’m tall myself. I’m 5’9 & so is my partner. Height is a ridiculous thing to be preoccupied with in my opinion esp when it comes down to a few inches. But a lot of women are very shallow in that regard.

But what people find attractive is completely different, you can't say that a short woman should only fancy short men. What if she simply doesn't fancy shorter men?

Everyone likes different things.

Plenty of fat men prefer slim women. Yep, it's not always fair or right or whatever. Lots of people have preferences.

Small women like tall men too.

I've had dates with men between 5ft 6 and 6ft 2.

If I liked him, his height wouldn't matter.

DP is 10 inches taller than me, I have had snide comments as to why I'm not with a short man, mainly from taller women.

His height wasn't the attraction for me.

I think women can be too harsh on short men. But at the same if you aren't attracted to short men then nobody can tell you your preferences are wrong!

It's about her preference surely? I'm short for a woman and wouldn't date anyone over 6ft as I find the gap too significant. I appreciate that's unusual but that's my preference.

my mom 5'2" specifically dated tall men (dad was 5'11") as she did not want short sons and daughters. similarly i did not marry a short man for the same reason.

Come on short men aren't treated well on here.